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Adulthood; When the hell did that happen?
Topic Started: Apr 9 2011, 06:12 PM (6,381 Views)
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Menhad
Dec 4 2012, 09:00 AM
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Dec 3 2012, 03:05 PM
Hey TO, what would be the best branch to go into if someone was looking to do work in intelligence? And what would be the best way to go about that.
Well the Navy has Cryptologic technician rates. With your background with Arabic, I would think the navy would want you as a CTI (cryptologic technician interpretive).
What would be the best way to go about getting that? Would I enlist, or try and get into an officer school?
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Dec 5 2012, 12:13 AM
Menhad
Dec 4 2012, 09:00 AM
meh
Dec 3 2012, 03:05 PM
Hey TO, what would be the best branch to go into if someone was looking to do work in intelligence? And what would be the best way to go about that.
Well the Navy has Cryptologic technician rates. With your background with Arabic, I would think the navy would want you as a CTI (cryptologic technician interpretive).
What would be the best way to go about getting that? Would I enlist, or try and get into an officer school?
Officers are the managers, enlisted are the actual workers. If you want to do the hands on work (Well ears on) then go enlisted. As an officer you have no guarantee of where you will work.

Also as a CTI there is a good chance you would never see a ship, take that for what you will but getting to travel is the biggest perk about the Navy in my opinion. How ever ship board life is kinda rough.
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Man, some days I just want to quit my job and join a marine rifle company...
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Dec 5 2012, 11:20 AM
Man, some days I just want to quit my job and join a marine rifle company...
Hoorah kill?
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Dec 5 2012, 11:20 AM
Man, some days I just want to quit my job and join a marine rifle company...
So do I, but mostly just to quit my job and kill things!
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Well, I left Sprint on Thursday. I'm going to start my new job search in full force on Monday. I've been doing some browsing, but a lot of journalism jobs I'm seeing online require experience with Photoshop/InDesign/other programs I've never used (and some I've never even heard of).

Anybody know of any jobs that are writing/media based that are open, or even jobs that require a BA but aren't customer-centric that I may actually be good at? I'm open to learn pretty much anything, I just want an opportunity. I'm pretty much willing to look anywhere or go anywhere, I'm just kinda looking for ideas on what to aim for and what I can realistically get.

EDIT (3 hours later): The more I've thought about this whole thing, the more depressed and discouraged I've become about my job prospects. (I wonder if those two points are related.)

If we're gonna be completely honest, I don't want to work. Period. That's not to say I don't want to do something with my life, by no means, but no line of work that I'm qualified for (that I know of) sounds appealing to me in the slightest, and that includes writing, at least on a full-time basis. I still kinda enjoy writing, don't get me wrong, but I want to do it for fun, writing what I want, when I want, and not have to constantly pander to the lowest common denominator.

Even my hobbies seem less appealing to me than they used to. Video games seem meh (though I wonder if they're just declining in quality), TV pretty much sucks (although Netflix seems like a nice, temporary boom), and there's not much point to ever going out and doing anything because I'm going to be alone. I have maybe two friends left within 50 miles of me, and they're usually always busy, and I don't know if they actually consider me a good friend. I'm lonely, I'm always fucking lonely.

On an emotional level, I've got no idea what to do. So I'm doing what I think I'm supposed to do, at least practically: find a job I can stand doing for the next 45-50 years, in a place I can stand living in, then retire and eventually die, and hope that I start to feel better somewhere between now and then. I just don't know what kind of job I should be doing, what I can be doing.

About the only thing I really want to, at least right now, is just travel the world. Which, of course, costs money. Fuck me.

Anyone have any advice? Ideas? Words of encouragement?
Edited by Aelius, Dec 16 2012, 05:37 PM.
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I have been in some nasty situations these past couple months. Just downright horrible, soul-leeching, hope-conflagrating, heart-crushing, downright malignant situations. I finally could not take it any more and fell into a deep and depressed slumber. But at some point I was delivered an epiphany! The Lord never fails. This weekend, after so many fruitless and frustrating years, I finally, finally realized, that nothing in life is the prerequisite for happiness, but that happiness is instead the prerequisite for all of life. Finally I can accept the shitstorm that the world throws at me with some measure of goodwill. It's all very zen-like my friends.
Edited by Tristan da Cunha, Dec 16 2012, 08:31 PM.
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Aelius, have you ever looked into writing for travel magazines or hotel reviews? I have no idea how you'd get into such a line of work or if its all that great in terms of pay but I know such things exist and given you have a degree in writing and a desire to travel, I should think that would be a good fit.
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Well, it took three months, but at least I'll finally have an income coming in again. I'll be a cashier at a truck stop about 10 min. from my house. Not exactly what I was hoping for: starting pay's about $8/hour. For perspective, I haven't made that little an hour since my freshman year of college. On the plus side, if my attendance is perfect on a monthly basis, I get a $50 gas card from them, so that helps in some small way.

I know that at least it's an income, which I really need right now: I'm down from about $3500 in savings when I left Sprint to just over $1000, and even if this job is awful in addition to not paying well, it'll at least keep me afloat until I can find something better. But why does this feel like such a defeat to me? This is a step almost all the way back to the beginning, and I just can't shake the feeling that I'm wasting my life, that a combination of poor luck and bad decisions has put me as far as possible from where I was a year ago.

Where did I go wrong? How do I fix this? How do I get out of living with my father in a 34-foot trailer and actually get my life started?
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1. Change your attitude to "I can do it" from "Why is life picking on me".

2. Find something you love. Find a way to do it every day, even if just for 30 minutes. It WILL turn into a career.

3. Quit blaming yourself for the past - the past is done. Today is the future.

4. (I know I will recieve critisism for this one), Put your FAITH, whatever it may be, toward a better tomorrow. Do not worry, but move forward with confidence.
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If it makes you feel any better, I'm making less money now than I was four years ago, I've burned through a third of my savings and I'll be moving in with my parents next month because I don't have anywhere else to go.

Life is tough all round. NH's advice is solid (well your hobby might not become your career but it'll keep you sane).

Remember it's easier to find work once you're in work. Stick with your crappy job for a little longer, then start the job hunt again in earnest. Be gladdened that you are living in a trailer and not paying out rent that you can't afford on a crappy apartment that you hate.

The feeling of defeat is natural. You feel like you're moving backward because you're moving slowly. But you are moving forward. The feeling of defeat will (in all likelihood) give way to feelings of exhaustion and frustration once you get used to your job. It will almost certainly feel worse as time goes on. But you are moving forward. I really should know how old you are, but you feel a few years younger than me and you remind me of my Burger King days. All I can offer you is the fact that some day you'll look back and see the progress you're making and go "oh, I was moving forward after all".

This is your life. It's started. It will feel shitty, you'll have set backs and it'll seem like other people are doing better than you. Everyone feels that way. Your life is fine: you have a job, a roof over your head and family which is three things more than some people. You've got the web. You need to take your victories where you can and keep moving forward.
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Nag Ehgoeg
Mar 27 2013, 02:01 PM
If it makes you feel any better, I'm making less money now than I was four years ago, I've burned through a third of my savings and I'll be moving in with my parents next month because I don't have anywhere else to go.

Life is tough all round. NH's advice is solid (well your hobby might not become your career but it'll keep you sane).

Remember it's easier to find work once you're in work. Stick with your crappy job for a little longer, then start the job hunt again in earnest. Be gladdened that you are living in a trailer and not paying out rent that you can't afford on a crappy apartment that you hate.

The feeling of defeat is natural. You feel like you're moving backward because you're moving slowly. But you are moving forward. The feeling of defeat will (in all likelihood) give way to feelings of exhaustion and frustration once you get used to your job. It will almost certainly feel worse as time goes on. But you are moving forward. I really should know how old you are, but you feel a few years younger than me and you remind me of my Burger King days. All I can offer you is the fact that some day you'll look back and see the progress you're making and go "oh, I was moving forward after all".

This is your life. It's started. It will feel shitty, you'll have set backs and it'll seem like other people are doing better than you. Everyone feels that way. Your life is fine: you have a job, a roof over your head and family which is three things more than some people. You've got the web. You need to take your victories where you can and keep moving forward.
Nag, this is a great post. I.e. not one I can verify with my own experience, as I am a good bit younger than all of you, but one that seems true and inspiring.
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NH's advice is good, but whenever I feel down I look to the advice of the wisest philosopher that my nation has ever produced.

Sometimes, one is enraged by negative circumstance. The solution to this is the production of upbeat noise and to focus on the positive. If life seems unfair, then you have neglected to laugh and smile and dance and sing. Because life is ridiculous, and death is certain, conduct yourself with grace yet do not be overly concerned with preserving your dignity.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ECUtkv2qV8
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Mar 31 2013, 07:50 AM
NH's advice is good, but whenever I feel down I look to the advice of the wisest philosopher that my nation has ever produced.

Sometimes, one is enraged by negative circumstance. The solution to this is the production of upbeat noise and to focus on the positive. If life seems unfair, then you have neglected to laugh and smile and dance and sing. Because life is ridiculous, and death is certain, conduct yourself with grace yet do not be overly concerned with preserving your dignity.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ECUtkv2qV8
Ah, so well put, Nag. I gave up dignity many, many years ago!
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Hmm. I think I'll share some things. Because I just don't really have any outlet anymore. I could talk to friends, but... I just don't like talking about this stuff to them. It's stressful. Because then they'll always worry about how I'm doing and ask what's going on... And I don't want to talk about my crappy life all the damn time. Pouring it all out at once to people who aren't going to badger me about it works better for me.

So, my current situation... It's not honestly that bad. The problem is there is no advancement, and the longer I wait, the worse things can get. I had to get out of college. Normally I was able to get incompletes for my unfinished work, but the department forced my professor to fail me in most of my classes last semester. I wanted to get out of college earlier because I knew something like this would happen, but my parents wouldn't listen and insisted that I stay in.

Now, it's not as bad as it sounds. I passed my capstone course, the one course that really counted. I don't ever have to sit down in a class again. All the rest of my classes are independent study. I do all of the work myself, and the only time I ever need to go into the university is to enroll in those classes and turn in my finished work. I moved back in with my parents as well, so I don't have to worry about rent or food.

However, the reason I moved in with my parents is because I'm sick. I don't know with what. Whatever it is, it has caused the severe fatigue that has hampered me so greatly in my studies. I'm at the point where every few days I might be able to translate a paragraph of Latin. Part of the reason I'm doing that whole AD&D DM thing is to keep my mind in an active enough state that I have at least that much functionality. I figure if I can get myself good enough at running something as complex as that, I can start getting better at doing my translations again. I'm weaker than I've ever been. Hospital appointments so far have yielded nothing helpful. So the only thing I can do now is fight back against whatever this is, mentally and physically. I need a gym. I'm running for now. I'm going to try to start working in situps and later pushups.

To be specific about my problem, the dominating symptom for a few years now has been gradually worsening severe fatigue. However, more recently, the lower right side of my abdomen has been causing me distress. It just felt weird at first, back in January, but in March it ratcheted up to horrible pain. I got a hospital appointment, and they found nothing but high cholesterol. I assume. They didn't tell me about the results of any of the other bloodwork or the x-rays. Military hospitals suck. Anyways, on Saint Patrick's Day, I decided to drink some beer and whiskey, and that really helped reduce the pain. I've found that as long as I drink a few times a week, it stays down. No other painkiller works. But it honestly seems bad that alcohol does work. So... it could be my liver, my kidney on that side, my gall bladder, my appendix... But my other symptoms just don't fit those. Basically, I have severe fatigue, pain in the lower right of my abdomen, and... I pee a lot. So there's obviously something wrong. A doctor would be an idiot not to think so. But like I said, the appointments having yielded anything so far. I'll keep going to them in hopes they'll find something, but I need to start fighting this myself because it's wrecked my life too much.

The news gets worse. I got letters from the VA wanting money back. I assume it's for my failures last semester. I need to call them, but I'm always so drained, I never get around to it. I need to force myself to call when I have the energy.

Lately I've been having insomnia again too... It's too damn hot in Louisiana.

The thing that keeps me going is I have plans. Lately those plans have been extended to include a woman. It's that girl I met. We're still in that silly internet relationship, three months later. We fight a lot. But we each refuse to dump the other, no matter how mean the things we say. We're crazy about each other. And she has a terrible life in India. I think she uses me as an escape, just I use her to keep life interesting. It works. But it's deeper than that... So, if we stay together long enough, I do plan to meet her, and bring her back with me. But with everything that is going on in my life right now, it just feels so far away.

I'm a master planner, though. I'll take as long as is needed to accomplish my goals. I just don't want it to be too long. I know that I can blink and suddenly I'll be 40. I can't let time flash by without accomplishing what I need to do. But in any case, I will finish my degree in time. I will get that girl should she be strong enough to stick with me. I will move back to Europe. I will see the world.

Life is just a pain in the ass right now. I'm trying to figure out how to deal with it. How to cope. How to move along with my plans.

Let's just say it's also getting close to intolerable living here. Those of you who know my past know my father has beaten me. The man is still unstable. I have to be rather submissive when it comes to arguments. I have to yield much of the time even when I know he's wrong because I don't want to cause an incident, both for my sake and the sake of the family. I can be strong and hold out, but it's taking it's toll on my morale. I didn't want to join the military, but I'm considering it. Between my living circumstances, my debt, and my health, it seems like the best option. If my father would just help, everything could be solved, but he is quite simply too single minded to see it that way.

I will try to work with what I have now to resolve the situation, but I'm starting to think more and more I may have to go with my backup plan of joining the military. Which just disgusts me... but I won't let pride keep me from doing something I may need to do.
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Have you had your blood sugar tested? This includes not just a simple glucose test but an a1c test as well. Some of your symptoms sound remarkably like diabetes. Just my two cents - oh, and badger, badger, badger!!
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I know I've been missing from the forums, but the Navy has been keeping me working.

So my LPO decided that I will be the new Work Center Supervisor when our current one leaves, basically I'll be in charge of making sure all the maintenance for our equipment is done on time and correctly. And I'll have to deal with the mountain of paper work that is associated with that. Might I note that it is really rare for a sailor as junior as me (I'm at my first non-training command) to have this job, normally it's an E-5 (I'm an E-4) with at least several years of experience.

Balls.
Edited by Menhad, Apr 5 2013, 01:15 PM.
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Menhad
Apr 5 2013, 01:12 PM
I know I've been missing from the forums, but the Navy has been keeping me working.

So my LPO decided that I will be the new Work Center Supervisor when our current one leaves, basically I'll be in charge of making sure all the maintenance for our equipment is done on time and correctly. And I'll have to deal with the mountain of paper work that is associated with that. Might I note that it is really rare for a sailor as junior as me (I'm at my first non-training command) to have this job, normally it's an E-5 (I'm an E-4) with at least several years of experience.

Balls.
Does this mean that you're marked for great things? Or that your LPO hates you? 'Cause it seems like the former to me, giving you extra responsibility and all.
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...oh, and badger, badger, badger!!
Mushroom, mushroom. :P

I figured I'd post here because I have nowhere else to vent right now.

The job I finally did end up getting at that truck stop is about as I expected it to be: extremely simple, but the pay is insufficient, there are no health benefits, and I can't help to think I need to be doing something that actually makes a difference, or at least gets me somewhere in life. Unfortunately, I have no idea what I can actually do that will actually get me moving forward again. It took me this long to even get this kind of job. Almost four months out of work, moved to some shithole trailer on a lake an hour from the nearest major city (which is still Oklahoma City) because my father wanted to own a "house".

I can't even get a callback for any job I apply to outside of Oklahoma, but there don't seem to be any writing jobs anywhere in this state. I've tried applying for basic office jobs in the area, and I can't even get anyone to interview me. So I wonder, why the fuck can't I get anywhere? Is it something I'm doing wrong, or am I just doomed? Should I just give up and resign myself to being permanently in the service industry underclass? Has my education been a waste of time and money?

Truth be told, I don't really want to be a writer for a living. I enjoy writing for the most part, but aside from the fact that it doesn't seem to be any kind of real career option, I don't react well to criticism of any sort when it comes to something I actually care about doing. It's definitely a major flaw on my part, but if I notice that I've fucked up or someone calls me out for not doing something right, I essentially go into almost a quasi-panic, saying to myself, "Well, fuck this, then, I'll just get on welfare/move to (insert supposed utopia here)/shoot myself/become a drug dealer/move in with (former Internet girlfriend)," or various combinations of those ideas. None of these things are rational, and I tell myself this every time I start mentally spiraling, but it doesn't end up changing how I feel. I eventually just calm down out of necessity, but those thoughts are there.

Some of these thoughts have always been there, as Hrak could probably attest to, but they've gotten considerably and progressively worse since I got laid off from the job I actually somewhat liked/felt competent at back in July. I can't pull myself out of this. I have no energy or motivation to write anymore, save for the occasional response to some of the few posts that still get posted here. As impossible as it probably is, at this point, I just want someone to pull me forward, to make me advance in life somehow, because I feel fucking helpless right now. My father, as much as he might care, appears to have no sympathy for me at all. Anytime I try to talk to my father about how I feel about the job situation and the fact I'm only making $8 an hour, he says he knows how I feel, but he says it in such a way to make it sound like my problems are meaningless to him. Granted, he hasn't been able to find any kind of job since we've moved here, and he's gone through worse times in his life than what I've gone through so far (a period of homelessness after leaving the army, my mother destroying his credit and putting him in debt after leaving him), but he sounds like he doesn't give a shit, so I've just given up on venting to him.

I need help. I just need someone to just offer me a job for a decent living wage, preferably far away, where I can actually start a life for myself. I'm willing to do just about anything, though after giving it some thought, I've decided I don't really want to join the military. I don't quite have the temperament to deal with people being assholes to me. I'm just tired of applying for things and never hearing any response for anything, I just want to be given a job and a chance to fucking live. I want to be around people who actually love me and care about me, good, real friends and (eventually) a girlfriend, and later, a wife; people who will actually nurture me, help me, spend time with me, and help me be okay with the drudgery and misery that comes with the grind of being part of the working class, or better, help me achieve something meaningful and important out of my life.

I suspect that these things require work, but I just can't fucking do it right now. I can't even get a decent job right now. I just want it to fall into my lap, but I want that to happen because it feels like no matter what I do, no matter what I try, it's all futile, it's never going to work out, I'm going to be miserable no matter what. All the energy I've expended so far has resulted in jack shit, and I have no fucking idea what to do now. I feel fucking helpless, and I just want to be saved from my own life.

EDIT: This has been a semi-drunk rant/panic attack. Anyway, I just needed to express my true feelings, insecurities and fears somewhere. So yeah.
Edited by Aelius, Apr 10 2013, 01:58 AM.
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*sings*

Whenever life gets you down... and things seem hard, or tough...
When people seem stupid, obnoxious or daft, and you feel that you've had quite enough...

Just remember that you're standing on a planet that's evolving
and revolving at 900 miles an hour,
It's orbiting at 19 miles a second, so it's reckoned,
the sun that is the source of all our power.
The Sun and you and me, and all the stars that we can see,
are moving at a million miles a day,
In the outer spiral arm, at 40,000 miles an hour,
of the Galaxy we call the Milky Way.

Our Galaxy itself contains 100 billion stars,
it's 100,000 light-years side-to-side,
It bulges in the middle, 16 000 light-years thick,
but out by us it's just 3,000 light-years wide.
We're 30,000 light-years from galactic central point,
we go round every 200 million years,
And our galaxy is only one of millions of billions
in this amazing and expanding universe.

The universe itself keeps on expanding and expanding,
in all of the directions it can whizz,
As fast as it can go, the speed of light you know,
twelve million miles a minute, and that's the fastest speed there is.
So remember, when you're feeling very small and insecure,
how amazingly unlikely is your birth,
And pray that there's intelligent life somewhere up in space,
because there's bugger all down here on Earth.


Also, have you ever considered WWOOFing? Link:http://www.wwoofusa.org/

Here's an option for you to consider: Go on a farm-hopping adventure this summer. Drive, hitch, or take a bus to some of those faraway places you've always wanted to visit, get your hands dirty, learn some valuable skills, and live dirt-cheap for a while. Most farms offer a couple meals a day and a place to lay your head at night in exchange for just a few hours a day of farm-work, and while some of the amenities will be quite rustic, some places are quite luxurious and some will even pay you a cash stipend. Look into getting a deferment on your loans, if you have to, but my recommendation is to throw yourself into a new environment and live by the sweat of your brow for a few months. Who knows, it might even inspire your writing...

You're a powerful Norman warlord, goddammit, and you are more than capable of changing your life and getting to where you want to go!
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Yeah, so you fucked up in the past. Who cares? First of all you yourself shouldn't care. Take measures to free yourself from the weighty and oppressive failures of the past. Your failures are as light and flitty as a butterfly. Moving forward, you are now a New Man. In mind, spirit, and sinews. The world is yours for the taking. And we are behind you 100%. E's idea is a great one. Grow a beard, put on a nice cologne, put on some flannel and rubber boots. Get into the farms, there are a lot of young people down there these days looking to "find themselves." Here is a New World ripe for your camaraderie. Friends to be made, women to be laid. They are from all walks of life and they are looking for the same things you do-- a friendship, a purpose in life, that titular lightness to being. See if you can bump into a smart, pretty, lithe, most importantly rich, 20 something girl "trying to find her authentic self" on one of these farms, make good with her, take over her trust fund! You have to get over your hypersensitivity to criticism. Just accept the fact that you are not perfect, and don't torture yourself over perceived imperfections. You are not God, and don't expect to be. You are Aelius, and you are beloved for all your trials and tribulations and imperfections. But what makes you God-ly is your determination to improve yourself and always strive to be better and higher. You are a God-ly man. Accept that your father has a lot of scars from his life, some of them maybe not healed yet. Neither he, nor his negative attitude, is going to keep you down-- you have only one trajectory and destiny and that is up to your full potential. He is not going to get you down and he is not going to be a part of your suffering process. Instead, you are going to be a part of his healing process! That's because you are a fount of love and positive influence. You are not a sewer sucking in all the run off and drainage of other people. It begins with you and it does not begin with him. I am fully aware all of this is easier said than done but I also am 100% confident that it can be done because all of us have gone through this and this turmoil process is all a part of life, so if some imbeciles like myself can free our minds from the trash of the world, what is holding back this powerful Norman warlord? It can be done and therefore it will be done my friend! And we are here to help you too.
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Nag Ehgoeg
Mar 27 2013, 02:01 PM
If it makes you feel any better, I'm making less money now than I was four years ago, I've burned through a third of my savings and I'll be moving in with my parents next month because I don't have anywhere else to go.

Life is tough all round. NH's advice is solid (well your hobby might not become your career but it'll keep you sane).

Remember it's easier to find work once you're in work. Stick with your crappy job for a little longer, then start the job hunt again in earnest. Be gladdened that you are living in a trailer and not paying out rent that you can't afford on a crappy apartment that you hate.

The feeling of defeat is natural. You feel like you're moving backward because you're moving slowly. But you are moving forward. The feeling of defeat will (in all likelihood) give way to feelings of exhaustion and frustration once you get used to your job. It will almost certainly feel worse as time goes on. But you are moving forward. I really should know how old you are, but you feel a few years younger than me and you remind me of my Burger King days. All I can offer you is the fact that some day you'll look back and see the progress you're making and go "oh, I was moving forward after all".

This is your life. It's started. It will feel shitty, you'll have set backs and it'll seem like other people are doing better than you. Everyone feels that way. Your life is fine: you have a job, a roof over your head and family which is three things more than some people. You've got the web. You need to take your victories where you can and keep moving forward.
Nag, this is a great post. I.e. not one I can verify with my own experience, as I am a good bit younger than all of you, but one that seems true and inspiring.
You young, wealthy Jew! I hope you don't have to go through these crises and it is unlikely you will. And when you don't go through them, think of your friends in the NSWR underclass! Give us a sinecure.
Edited by Tristan da Cunha, Apr 10 2013, 04:14 PM.
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I've been away from here for awhile mainly because my computer is in such bad shape I cannot make it to the internet on it. My mobile phone is my only good connection and this site is not very mobile friendly for me.

The good news is I have a job. It is in my field (finance) although not the specific area (real estate) I was hoping to get into. Not exciting work, but it is with a good company and the pay is solid. Living at home to save money. My commute is on the longer side, but not terrible. I'm going to live at home and save money as I pay off student loans and get my savings up. The nice thing about my interest in real estate is that I don't really need to work in the industry to get involved in it... That is my longer short-term goal. I also plan on becoming a certified soccer (futbol) coach and getting involved with that. Not in it for the money, but I am convinced I could make some money at it if I work at it for awhile.

My only major expenditure beyond my student loans and everyday expenses is going to be buying a new computer so I can get on the internet more!
I am very torn on what to do... I want something small/super-portable (13 inches) cheap ($500ish, although if I found something I love I'd go up towards $750)... The kicker is I want something better than Intel HD 4000 graphics... I only really play Minecraft, but I probably will fall into EA's trap and buy Sim City 5 here soon... If you got rid of the graphics want, I'd be fine with just getting that $200 chromebook. I wish that ran minecraft.

My life is mostly good.
Lets just not bump that girlfriend thread. :dry: :lol:
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Wonderful you found a job! Is it in downtown Cleveland or in the outlying area? Also, what area of finance will you be in? Curious minds want to know!

P.S. Tell your company you need a computer to work from home :D
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Man I saw this thread being bumped and I just remembered....I will be graduating with a combined honours in Journalism News Media and Philosophy.

And this is the scariest thing that I am experiencing right now. For 16 years straight I have been in school and education, I always had a place to go because people told me where to go. And now, with a degree like that I have no idea.

I do know Arabic to an extent, but it could use a lot of improvement, especially the reading and writing; otherwise I can pretty much live in an Arab country with no trouble. So I am thinking of utilising my bilingualism.

Anyway, what I want to ask you guys is...should I be prepared for an excruciating search for a job that will last me months? Although this is exciting, I have a feeling it will be a very difficult time...
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