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question + vnting
Topic Started: Jul 8 2010, 01:22 PM (120 Views)
Union
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I am more venting that anything, but I have a question for you guys, particularly you guys in the workforce.

My father, with whom I admit I have a piss-poor relationship to begin with, exploded at me yesterday for not telling him I would not go into work yesterday. I had a migraine, and he claims, that as my boss, I should have called him.

Let us note, for the record, that I called in sick to my supervisor, and that he is, technically, my boss, but only in the sense that he supervises the supervisor of my own supervisor.

Is he right - should I have called him?

I do not think so. I called the right people, and he's just embarrassed that everyone at the office knew I was sick but him.
Edited by Union, Jul 8 2010, 04:57 PM.
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Rhadamanthus
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Normally, calling your supervisor should be enough.

But I would guess this is more about the fact that it is your father and he wants to know because of your personal relationship.
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Union
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Yar, but our personal relationship is shit, and I'm happy avoiding talking to him whenever possible.
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Nag Ehgoeg
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Rhadamanthus
Jul 8 2010, 01:38 PM
Normally, calling your supervisor should be enough.

But I would guess this is more about the fact that it is your father and he wants to know because of your personal relationship.
Yeah this.

And he resents not having a relationship with you. Either he feels guilty about it being his fault, or he feels guilty about it being your fault and not raising you right.

What do you do? Show some intuitive and come up with some way of improving work. Tell your dad about your idea and ask him for his opinion - say that you wanted his opinion before you show it to your supervisor. If your dad craps all over it, laugh it off and make a comment about "that's why you're the boss" and ask him if he wants to grab a beer. If he says "no" then I'm way off the mark, sorry for wasting your time. If your dad either totally changes the idea or gives it the thumbs up present the (revised) idea. Your supervisor will shoot it down (no company ever takes ideas from employees - but on the off chance they think it's a good idea, you might get a promotion).

So what's the benefit? You don't have a good relationship with your dad, presumably you don't want one. My idea (probably) won't help your career.

But it'll make your dad feel better. So... in theory... he'll hassle you less... unless he hassled you lots when you did have a good relationship (which might explain why you don't have a good one now).
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As an employee, I am only required to notify the office manager, who's responsible for notifying all interested parties. Interested parties do not include the CEO or President of the company.

You should ask your father if, next time, you should call him and blow off your supervisor? If he says to do it this way, then tell your supervisor that, in the future, this is what you will do.

Generally, unless the money is really good, I would always advise against working with family, unless you will be inheriting the business; if that is, indeed, the case, you can pretty much tell your supervisor to go shit himself.
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I am in no way qualified to make recommendations to my father. I just process blood, he's the doctor. :lol:

NH: It's 11 bucks an hour for a temp job. I couldn't dream of doing so well elsewhere, especially in a recession. :lol:

And we've both given up trying to improve our relationship. I've been a brat, and he's been an ass, and its broken beyond repair, and that's fine. I'm used to it. Again, I'm just venting.
Edited by Union, Jul 8 2010, 05:02 PM.
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Nag Ehgoeg
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Ah the medical field. So you're a phlebotomy/lab tech? Nice.

Doesn't have to be a medical thing. If there's something that seems wasteful at work.

What do you do with the cardboard boxes that specimen tubes come in?
Have any sinks that have duel taps rather than a combined tap?
Any time of day when your workload is particularly light or heavy?

But I'll leave you to your venting. Vent away.

Plus the whole doctor thing might also go some way towards the whole "you're sick" thing.
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