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LIFE and some of it's mysteries; Something to think about
Topic Started: May 25 2008, 03:17 PM (481 Views)
MaccasGirl
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Some of you here know about what's been going on in my life and I appreciate the congrats and condolences from those of you who said them. I feel like posting this because it really makes me think about life and why things happen and I felt like sharing this morning! ^_^

My husband's mother has been in a bad way for a long time. We've been amazed at just how long she has held on and questioned why she was still here. This has been going on for years. On Monday she took a turn for the worst and death was definitely coming. But still she kept hanging on.

My daughter was due to have her baby June 2 and she was too upset to go say final goodbyes. We accepted that and nobody questioned it. Then on Thursday, she goes into labor ten days early! We were going back and forth between being sad and being happy, definitely an emotional roller coaster. The baby, a girl, was born late Thurs. night. We were afraid that the baby would be born on the same day as the passing of our mother but she still lived on through the night.

Friday morning my sister in law called my daughter at the hospital and put her on speaker phone so my mother inlaw could maybe listen to the conversation. We didn't know how much she could hear or understand anymore but I've heard that hearing is the last thing to go. My daughter was telling her about the birth and all about the baby and then the shocking news to all of us. The baby is named for my mother inlaw(none of us knew this would be the name) and she said this so she could hear it. Everyone is very emotional about her being the namesake. Well, to make a long story short, my mother in law passed away peacefully an hour later.

It makes me think, why was this baby born early and why were the circumstances as they were. Was it to help everyone through their grief? Was it a life coming in as a life is leaving? It definitely makes me wonder and think. What about you?

Our lives are definitely in the hands of a higher power. It's out of our control. I know you all probably know that already, but I just wanted to give you something to think about today. Maybe it's nothing but it just makes me wonder. :)

Love and hugs to all of you! :sweet:
And in the end...The love you take..Is equal to the love you make.


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Wow! A sad but nice story. Everything happens for a reason, we may never know why.
May you be filled with peace at this time.

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I believe that many times, a person "holds on" to life, when dying, because there is something "unfinished" in their life. I have seen it happen many times.

Yes, I do believe your new grandbaby was sent to help your family deal with the loss of your MIL.

God works in mysterious ways, doesn't he?
My sympathy to your family for your loss~
My congratulations on the birth of the baby... :)
"Hey Jude, don't make it bad...
Take a sad song, and make it better..."
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thinking of you lass and sod it i am moved.
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Like you said, it's out of control.

I knew a woman and she was dying. Her mother was in another city. She died after she saw her mother, like 1 hour later.

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Life is mysterious and wonderful and sad all at the same time, isn't it?

Perhaps the baby came early to ease the grieving and as a reminder that life does go on and that there are new joys to celebrate.

So glad your mother-in-law got to listen to your daughter's voice. I'm hopeful she heard her voice and knows that the baby is named after her. What a heartwarming story.

Again, my sympathies to you and your family, but also congratulations on the bundle of joy!
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Dorfliedot
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:cry: Sorry my sympathy.
It just sad. But, the baby was a miracle.
I believe a blessing from god. :hug:
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Diane, I was thinking some of these very thoughts yesterday when I posted to you. I didn't want to expand upon my thoughts, as I was afraid that it might add to your upset or that you might've thought I was projecting my own feelings onto a situation about which I had little personal knowledge.

I've experienced similar instances in my own life and it really makes one step back and try to take it all in. It's almost more than I can allow myself to try and process.

Yes, life is very mysterious, joyous, bittersweet, sometimes tragic, and sometimes too much to bear. It always makes me wonder the age-old question of "why are we here?" :unsure:




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May 25 2008, 04:03 PM
Diane, I was thinking some of these very thoughts yesterday when I posted to you.  I didn't want to expand upon my thoughts, as I was afraid that it might add to your upset or that you might've thought I was projecting my own feelings onto a situation about which I had little personal knowledge.

I've experienced similar instances in my own life and it really makes one step back and try to take it all in.  It's almost more than I can allow myself to try and process.

Yes, life is very mysterious, joyous, bittersweet, sometimes tragic, and sometimes too much to bear.  It always makes me wonder the age-old question of "why are we here?" :unsure:

To learn from each other.
We were mad in gods image. We were supposed to live forever. but, Are Adam and eve who god created misbehave and undermined gods law he set for them. so, with this a punishment of death came. so, the punishment went for the seeds of their children. so, They learn from their forefather mistakes. so, when he Risen everyone up from the grave they know and learnt from it. and not make that mistake ever again the way Adam & eve made. Yes, we have a purpose.
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Life, and all of its' glories, is sure full of mysteries. I do believe that your mother-in-law held on to 'see' her new family addition and wanted to make sure all would be okay with her passing. A new life taking over for the old.
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Sometimes God brings a new life into the family to make it easier to let go of an old life.
If you read my posts backward there's evidence that Paul is dead.
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Diane, thank you so much for your insight an for posting this.
I've been filled with anxiety about death for the past month an half.
Seeing this post of yours, made everything so much better. :hug:
-Liz
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maccascruff
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Diane when I posted to you privately, I was on the clock at an internet cafe in London. When I got home, I was going to send you a message saying pretty muc this.

I really believe the baby came early so your mother-in-law could know all this when she passed. Believe that she passed peacefully with this knowledge.
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MaccasGirl
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Thanks for all the insights and comments to this thread. I love hearing what you all think and it helps me with my own thoughts. :)
And in the end...The love you take..Is equal to the love you make.


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Diane I am so sorry for your loss but am happy to hear the birth went well. Something like this happened in our family 23 years ago. We lost one baby and two days later another was born - healthy and happy - my daughter. It does make you pause and wonder at the mysteries of a higher power.
God Bless you all.
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That what happen before my grandson was born. My young niece lost her daughter to Sids and 6 months later my grandson was born He was born a month early
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Death is as natural and important as birth.

What are Sids?
"We call 10 American deaths a catastrophe. One hundred European deaths are a tragedy. One thousand Asian deaths are a shame. And 10,000 African deaths we call a Monday." - Lissa (1981-2007) السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
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PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

When the Power of Love over comes the Love of Power, the world will know Peace.
-Sri Chinmnoy Ghose

Till me meet again ~ I Love you Mike! You were one of a kind.
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