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Advice wanted.; inspired by Aimee's recent thread.
Topic Started: Mar 24 2008, 08:01 AM (453 Views)
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I'm starting this thread to seek advice on something. However, maybe this could then become a general advice thread for those who want it. I just didn't wanna hijack Aimee's thread. Anyway, my situation is that there is a man who is only one of two to ever get inside my head. I met him a couple of months back and he has shown signs of interest. He allegedly told my mate who told him in a discreet manner I was interested, that he thought I was lovely and very cute. Last night, a drunken pal of mine told him slightly less discreetly I like him. The man in question told him to get me to go and speak to him myself. Would this be to hive me the brush off or to express mutual interest, do you reckon? After my friend had spoken to him last might, when this man was leaving the place we all were, he was upbeat and friendly and said goodbye and that he would see me on friday as we'd already earlier established we'd be at the place again. What do I do? I don't want to be forward or direct as we see eachother socially three times a week and I don't want it to be hard.
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When it comes to relationships, there's no substitute for being open and honest about things. You might not get the answer you wanted, but you will get an answer and that is always better than forever wondering what it all meant.

I've held my peace and lived to regret it. I've blurted it out and lived to regret it. But that's because in both situations I didn't get what I wanted. I lost. But love is a game you can only play if you're prepared to lose. If you hold back, you've lost already.

Well you know that it's a fool who plays it cool by making his world a little colder. ;)
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Interesting how you have omitted one key fact about this whole situation, but you know my feelings on that,

you can only really find out if you actually talk to him though
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I think Bill is completely right. I have made both mistakes before but oh well. I'm not the type of girl guys go for anyway. Good luck Lauren.
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Upfront is the best way to go.

Calm, cool and direct will get you an answer~
I hope you get the answer you want, but if not, keep your dignity, and let him see what he's missing!
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I'm having a similar problem, although I may be just paranoid. I haven't seen Damien in over a week, and I'm starting to worry that he's over me already. He's very special to me, but he doesn't want to seem to take it any further, and I can't pin him down to talk to him about it. I keep telling myself to back off, give him some space, let him come to me, but I'm worried that he won't come to me.

I feel invisible, lonely and frustrated. I hate it.
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Mar 24 2008, 06:38 AM
When it comes to relationships, there's no substitute for being open and honest about things. You might not get the answer you wanted, but you will get an answer and that is always better than forever wondering what it all meant.

I've held my peace and lived to regret it. I've blurted it out and lived to regret it. But that's because in both situations I didn't get what I wanted. I lost. But love is a game you can only play if you're prepared to lose. If you hold back, you've lost already.

Well you know that it's a fool who plays it cool by making his world a little colder. ;)

((Lauren)) ~ Listen to Bill ~ great advise.
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My husband loves to use the NY lottery logo, "gotta be in it to win it" In this day and age it's acceptable for the woman to make some of the moves. SOme men actually appreciate it. If he told your friend to have you talk to him I would say he is interested as well. If he wasn't he wouldn't bother. Good Luck.
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Mar 24 2008, 01:09 PM
I'm having a similar problem, although I may be just paranoid. I haven't seen Damien in over a week, and I'm starting to worry that he's over me already. He's very special to me, but he doesn't want to seem to take it any further, and I can't pin him down to talk to him about it. I keep telling myself to back off, give him some space, let him come to me, but I'm worried that he won't come to me.

I feel invisible, lonely and frustrated. I hate it.

Clare, maybe he's nervous and needs that space. Relax, maybe he just wants to slow things down a bit. He'd be a fool to lose you!!! Good Luck to you too!
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Well, here's another clue for you all, the Walrus was Paul...
Go talk to him yourself. Face to face is better than having drunken friends represent you and your interests. You already know that he thinks you are lovely and very cute...so thats a good start. :)

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Well, I made some huge mistakes in life and humiliated myself a lot until I learned something: When a man is interested he will come to you. If he doesn't come to you, he is not interested, that's my opinion.

So IN MY OPINION, you should talk to him, but you shouldn't expose yourself. You should wait to see his attitude. If he is interested he will give the first step. Because if he is not interested and just want to play, you are the only one who will get hurt and p*ssed off. So, be yourself, talk to him and see what HE does.
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Mar 24 2008, 11:16 AM
Well, I made some huge mistakes in life and humiliated myself a lot until I learned something: When a man is interested he will come to you. If he doesn't come to you, he is not interested, that's my opinion.

So IN MY OPINION, you should talk to him, but you shouldn't expose yourself. You should wait to see his attitude. If he is interested he will give the first step. Because if he is not interested and just want to play, you are the only one who will get hurt and p*ssed off. So, be yourself, talk to him and see what HE does.

Right on the money. :yes: :yes:




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Mar 24 2008, 08:07 PM
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Mar 24 2008, 11:16 AM
Well, I made some huge mistakes in life and humiliated myself a lot until I learned something: When a man is interested he will come to you. If he doesn't come to you, he is not interested, that's my opinion.

So IN MY OPINION, you should talk to him, but you shouldn't expose yourself. You should wait to see his attitude. If he is interested he will give the first step. Because if he is not interested and just want to play, you are the only one who will get hurt and p*ssed off. So, be yourself, talk to him and see what HE does.

Right on the money. :yes: :yes:

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