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| jessiemillano | Aug 23 2007, 03:58 PM Post #101 |
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at first, i really thought mozart8mytoe was a male. but ive read some respondents using the word "her." well, it's sad that she died. and in that senseless way. i just hope her loved ones will be ok and get over it. |
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| Deleted User | Aug 23 2007, 04:09 PM Post #102 |
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I like you idea. Perhaps a thread called "IN LOVING MEMORY". People can post pictures, mabe put a bio, comments (respectful). |
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| Deleted User | Aug 23 2007, 04:26 PM Post #103 |
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I believe Lissa is short for Melissa; Means "bee" in Greek. A bee, makes me think of honey, very sweet and she was. Bees pollinate flowers, I think of us as flowers, who are dramaticly effected in the way we are able to grow without her. I pray that God opens his loving arms and wraps them around her. Love you Lissa! you will be missed! |
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| maccascruff | Aug 23 2007, 04:47 PM Post #104 |
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If Lissa is on a CD, I would like to buy it, but I don't know her last name. I have lit my candle and I'm still in tears. |
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| Kit_Kat | Aug 23 2007, 04:49 PM Post #105 |
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OMG the hairs on my whole body are standing up on end
I'm speechless I I I Just have no idea what to say I will try and elaborate more later
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| Blondie10 | Aug 23 2007, 05:20 PM Post #106 |
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I think this is a great idea.... I knew she was a pianist from PM.com...never saw a photo of her... but exchanged posts and found her very witty... I think we all would love to know more about this lovely lady.... was she a professional performer? So many questions...when you sign off theses message boards...you just never think you'll NOT be seeing one of your online companions ever again |
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| ThirdHarmony | Aug 23 2007, 05:31 PM Post #107 |
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Having been away for a while, I only just came here and saw the horrible news. I am stunned, utterly stunned, and feel such sadness for her child, the other victims, those who knew her and words seem wretchedly inadequate. Life is so fragile. So fleeting. So mercilessly brittle. I very much hope there are people who can actively be involved in making sure her child recieves the help and comfort she must undoubtedly need. She was so fun, so razor-sharp and fast. I remember thinking "she should write a book or a regular column somewhere with a mind as quick as that." When post after post of some serious and/or heated debate stacked up, generally creating a tense mood, she would so often appear and level the playing field with her lightning-quick wit - sometimes wonderfully non-PC, sometimes hilariously backwards to make a point about reasoning, sometimes no-nonsense straight-to-the-point, always intelligent. We got to keep her for way too short a time. I can only hope we all can take something of our impressions of her with us in our future interaction with the world. "Is today the day? Am I ready? Am I doing all I need to do? Am I being the person I want to be?" |
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| JeffLynnesBeard | Aug 23 2007, 05:54 PM Post #108 |
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Fiona and I will be working on a thread compiling some of Lissa's finest posts on the forum. It may take us a few days, but it will happen. |
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| Kit_Kat | Aug 23 2007, 05:57 PM Post #109 |
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You know what, Andy? I was just thinking about that as an idea a few minutes ago!! It would be a lovely tribute
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| Blondie10 | Aug 23 2007, 05:59 PM Post #110 |
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Thank you both!! |
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| Beatlesluver | Aug 23 2007, 06:08 PM Post #111 |
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Its very sad to here this news. My thoughts go out to her family and friends. |
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| Deleted User | Aug 23 2007, 06:12 PM Post #112 |
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Take as much time as you need Andy/Fiona, as you aim for a perfect thread, Lissa deserves it. I am sure you will succeed! If you need help, we at SF are many, I'm sure you will get it. |
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| Deleted User | Aug 23 2007, 06:18 PM Post #113 |
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When I went on a church retreat, one thing we did was "Wheat" or giving of oneself. In other words we sacrificed something we loved. As part of my wheat for Lissa, I will give up Monster energy drinks. I will also spend additional time at church praying for her & her family. I would encourage you all, even if you are not religious, to do the same. |
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| blue jay hey | Aug 23 2007, 06:34 PM Post #114 |
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like i said on the macca board may her soul rest in peace |
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| vidgamerjon | Aug 23 2007, 07:31 PM Post #115 |
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I will continue to keep everyone involved in my prayers. |
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| Deleted User | Aug 23 2007, 07:50 PM Post #116 |
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I do agree, though, that she was probably a huge positive influence on the world itself and that makes it all the more shameful. This earth needs all the people like that it can get. |
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| SherryO | Aug 23 2007, 08:13 PM Post #117 |
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Yes, thanks guys!
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| ohnotjimagain | Aug 23 2007, 08:19 PM Post #118 |
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This is such sad news. My heart goes out to her family. |
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Something I just found:
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| Bag O' Nails | Aug 24 2007, 01:08 AM Post #120 |
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I (sadly) haven't been here for a few months...something told me today to just come by and check on the latest...I am so shocked and deeply saddened by this post! Lissa referred to me as "Bag O' Heidi" (which I always thought so funny). I will truly, truly miss her unique sense of humor; her intelligence and wit. I also lit a candle for her. May your soul rest in the Lord, Lissa. :hmm: |
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| ogoble | Aug 24 2007, 01:18 AM Post #121 |
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When I was told that my dad died, I refused to believe it until I saw him for myself. I mean no disrespect with my skepticism. If anyone has a news link from China concerning the accident, please post. |
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| Dorfliedot | Aug 24 2007, 01:30 AM Post #122 |
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well, no one wants to believe it olen. I don't want believe a lot things. |
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| Deleted User | Aug 24 2007, 01:36 AM Post #123 |
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I'm unable to find anything specific on the news myself but then again, I don't know exactly where to look. If the accident had anything to do with a bridge collapse in Hunan due to storms then I have found articles about the numerous deaths. Going through some of "moz's" posts I realize that nearly all 2,000+ of hers are quotable. Compiling a list wouldn't be difficult. Compiling a list of less than two pages worth would be. I gather that she liked poptarts. |
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| Reverend Dave | Aug 24 2007, 02:22 AM Post #124 |
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We all understandably want to know more about Lissa. She gave us little glimpses into her life but rarely let us see much. She was an open book to her closest friends and family, but closely guarded her privacy with the rest of the world. She often said she didn't like interviews. Obviously she liked to talk and share her opinions. It's her privacy she didn't want to lose. I did some research and from talking to her family and what I already knew I've put together this little obituary. This is not an encyclopedic entry about her life. I've tried to make this personal rather than academic. I hope in some way it helps everyone to better know the amazing person behind the unique username. Sorry about it being so long. I've edited out as much as I can. Some of this might be difficult to read, but I think it's important to know about the turmoil in her childhood, not for any voyeuristic reasons, but to show how she overcame all of it with the love and support of her family and friends and made a productive and highly rewarding life for herself. She never saw herself as a victim and never let her past control her future. Lissa was born September 1, 1981 just outside of Amsterdam, the Netherlands. Her mother was a teacher, mostly of history and economics, and an avid animal rights advocate and vegetarian. Lissa never ate any meat her entire life. She always said that's why she was never sick. Even as a child she never had chicken pox, croup, ear infections, or any other common childhood ailments. When she was 3 years old an uncle noticed her playing along to a song on the radio on her grandmother's piano. As the family story goes, Lissa picked up the melody immediately and could play it by ear and improvised her own harmony. Lissa herself always maintained that the story was largely exaggerated, but she only had a vague recollection of it. By the time she was 5 she was performing in youth competitions and music festivals in and around the Netherlands. She was a child prodigy. Her mother suffered from bipolar disorder and they moved around a lot, mostly because her mother couldn't keep a job for very long. When Lissa was 6 or 7 her mother took them out of the Netherlands and they moved to France. The details of this period are a little sketchy. Her mother may have been deported from the Netherlands and they might have been homeless for a while, but Lissa's mother was a French citizen and was able to get government assistance in France. Regardless of whether they were in complete poverty or merely getting by Lissa was still performing. She was always an excellent student and quickly learned French and easily adapted to French culture. When Lissa was 8 years old they moved to the United States. Her mother had an American boyfriend who seemed to provide the stability she needed in her life. He was a Jr. High school teacher and coach. Unfortunately, Lissa always hated him and their volatile relationship caused tension between her and her mother. As an act of rebellion Lissa refused to learn any English - besides the few curse words she already knew. In Europe she was always the best student with the highest marks in the class. She was always placed in advanced classes for gifted students. In the U.S. she was almost expelled from one school and placed on academic probation at another. When she was 10 years old events in her life would drastically change the course of her future. During a music lesson at her teacher's house, Lissa was attacked by the teacher's pet dog. Paramedics had to amputate what was left of her big toe and part of her left foot. Later in life she always had a healthy - or morbid - sense of humor about the event, but at the time it caused a great deal of turmoil in her life, not to mention the obvious pain and difficulties. Her relationship with her mother's boyfriend only got worse. One of Lissa's physical therapists reported witnessing so much open hostility between the two that she quit. A later physical therapist came to the house and found Lissa on the kitchen floor with bloody clothes. Her mother's boyfriend was already dead. Lissa would not speak to anyone for days and would not speak in English again for months, but the police eventually put all the pieces together. During a verbal fight that turned physical, Lissa stabbed her mother's boyfriend in the neck and chest with a screwdriver until he was dead. Why he couldn't overpower a disabled 10 year old girl is unknown. The police discovered a large collection of child pornography at the boyfriend's house and office. Most of it involved young boys, but between the ages of 8 and 10 Lissa was forced to participate. Lissa was kept in custody during the investigation but no criminal charges were filed against her. Her mother was never aware of the sexual abuse or her boyfriend's preference for adolescent boys. Learning about all of this, combined with the state taking her daughter away drove her over the edge. The pain this woman must have felt coupled with her bipolar disorder is hard to imagine. While Lissa was in counseling she was told that her mother had committed suicide. Personally I think this was a mistake. You don't tell a child who has completely shut down that her mother's dead. This could have caused her to shut down permanently. Fortunately things were about to improve greatly. During a routine investigation state officials discovered that Lissa's father was alive and well and completely unaware that Lissa existed. Lissa always knew that her father was an American, but she believed he was disinterested in her. On the contrary, when he was told about her he immediately went to see her. He got custody of her and took her out of the state facility. It's hard for some of us to imagine Lissa as anything but a New Yorker, but when she first arrived she was completely a fish out of water. She had lived her life in small cities, mostly in Europe. Suddenly she was living in a whole new world. She had always had just her mother, now she had a father and an older sister. She was used to doing without and moving to a new town when there was no more money. They often got by on her income alone. Now she was living in a fancy Manhattan home. Her mother's family was European working class, mostly non-religious or culturally Jewish and largely liberal. Her father's family had been in America since the mid 1600s, were proud Christians and very active in conservative politics. The two sides of her family couldn't have been more different. She was still going to a court-ordered psychiatrist and seeing a therapist as well as physical therapy, so her father let some of her more eccentric behavior slide, but he had one rule: speak English. This battle of wills lasted a long time. Wisely, he chose to continue her musical education. There was no musical talent to speak of in his family, but he had been told that she could play piano. He took her to a nearby piano teacher expecting her to play Chopsticks or Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. When she sat down at the piano he was amazed. The way he describes it is just like a parent talking about their child walking for the first time or graduating from college. He's not sure what she played, but he called it ''hauntingly beautiful''. This would be the first of many times she'd make her father - former Marine and college football player - cry with music. As soon as they set her up with an appropriate teacher Lissa went back to piano competitions and festivals, winning awards in and around New York just as she had done in Europe. She was making life in her new home difficult for her father and sister and she was doing poorly in school, but at the piano she was as disciplined and focused as she was rude and intolerable away from it. Her father was trying to be supportive, but wasn't happy that she would practice in the middle of the night. This was partly because of the insomnia that she had since her mother's death - and would have for the rest of her life - and partly to annoy her family, but it did turn into a bonding situation for Lissa and her sister. Not only would Lissa practice mostly after midnight, but she had a habit of practicing nude. Everyone told her father to ignore it and that Lissa would soon play at normal hours and wear clothes. Lissa's sister got into the habit of joining her midnight rehearsals, but Lissa would only ignore her or kick her off the piano bench if she tried to sit down. Though Lissa was always smaller, her sister admits that she was a little afraid of Lissa for a few years. One night Lissa's sister joined her as usual, but this time she came out also nude. For the first time Lissa let her sit at the piano with her while she played. These naked midnight rehearsals were the catalyst for Lissa to let her sister into her life. Their father was pleased that things were going well, but really wished it could all happen with clothes on. It took time, but eventually Lissa and her sister became very close. Once she allowed her sister into her heart it didn't take long to let in her father as well. Some of her mother's family blamed Lissa for her mother's death and never forgave her, but her father's family always welcomed her with open arms. When she was 13 Lissa auditioned for the New York High School of Performing Arts, the Fame school - ''without the spontaneous, yet choreographed dance numbers in the halls''. By this time she was speaking English well and was again the excellent student she had once been. She also made her first trip to Europe since leaving, playing festivals and competitions in Paris and Amsterdam. While in France she visited her mother's grave for the first time. Since then she would make the trip at least once a year for the rest of her life. When she was 15 her father suffered a massive heart attack. During his recuperation she convinced him to go vegetarian. She'd already converted her sister and it was only a matter of time before she got to her father. The heart attack just made it easier. She never let any meat in the house anyway and her father always had to sneak it in, but with the help of her sister, a nutritionist and his doctor - who wasn't even a vegetarian - she made him promise never to eat meat again. When she was a junior in High School, Lissa was invited to audition at Juilliard. She wanted to study and live in Amsterdam. It was always her plan to live with her family in New York temporarily and then move permanently to Amsterdam when she went to college. Her family wanted her to stay in New York. Eventually they reached a compromise where she bought a house in Amsterdam and stayed there whenever she went to Europe, but lived mostly in New York. At Juilliard she met pianist Martha Argerich, who became her mentor and lifelong friend. At the same time Lissa's sister was beginning her career as an artist. Though Lissa had a strong aversion to being photographed she never hesitated posing for her sister's paintings. Her sister says Lissa was instrumental in helping her get off the ground. Lissa always encouraged her to paint and coerced a gallery owner to host her sister's first exhibit, in which Lissa was the first buyer. During college she was courted by a few record companies. She was open to the idea at first, but disagreements over material and presentation stalled the negotiations. The more she learned about the record industry the less she wanted to record anything. She always had very strong opinions about art versus business. Eventually she decided to remain a live performer. Her concerts were known for her displays of raw emotion which she felt couldn't be properly duplicated in a studio. A bit of a perfectionist, she also said that mistakes made on stage could be quickly forgotten but mistakes made on tape last forever. Fortunately there are some amateur recordings of her and demo tapes she made in college. I have some of these on CD and will share them with everyone who's interested as soon as I figure out how. I have no doubt that if she became a recording artist she'd be as known today as the most famous classical musicians. She was at the World Trade Center during the terrorist attacks on September 11th. During the rescue efforts she organized a small group of people to get as much bottled water as they could find and bring it to rescue workers. Later she helped post notices of missing people. Among the missing were one of her cousins and her long-time boyfriend. Both were never found. In 2005 she played at the anniversary celebration for Queen Beatrix of the Netherlands and was awarded an honorary medal that she never officially accepted. She remained a Dutch citizen her entire life and showed nothing but respect for the Queen, but she had only colorfully bad things to say about royal honors. The next year she and a thousand other people played at the 60th anniversary celebration for the King of Thailand. The King was reportedly very pleased by her performance of a piano sonata he had written himself. More awards were handed out, but Lissa had already left the country by then. Also in 2006 was Mozart's 250th birthday. Due to a misunderstanding she thought she wouldn't be able to play at the year-long celebration, but she ended up going to both Vienna and Salzburg. As a Christmas present she took her sister. They both had a great time with Lissa showing her version of Europe. In March 2007 she went to Hong Kong for an international music festival and that's where I met her in person for the first time. I don't think I can ever express just how generous her spirit was. I think she comes off as a little guarded and distant in writing, but in person she was very warm and an energetic hugger. That really surprised me. After our visit in Hong Kong she went into mainland China. On her way to Beijing she stopped at a school run by a colleague of mine. That's where she met Zhao Xiu. Zhao Xiu's mother had passed away two years earlier and her father passed away before she was born. Lissa and Zhao Xiu had a lot in common. Both spent their early years with only a mother who passed away when they were very young. Both studied music - Lissa, piano and Zhao Xiu, violin. When Zhao Xiu learned that an American musician was coming to the school she organized a small musical concert in Lissa's honor. What was supposed to be an overnight visit lasted two weeks and by the time Lissa left she'd started adoption proceedings. Before Lissa left China she arranged for violin lessons from the nearest available teacher and of course instructed the school to stop feeding her meat. She planned to return in a few months to take Zhao Xiu to Beijing. Lissa wanted the trip not only as a way to see her again, but also to help acclimate her to a large city. Zhao Xiu had always lived in small villages and, just as Lissa had years earlier, was about to start a new life in the very large city of New York. The Chinese government wouldn't let Lissa take Zhao Xiu to Beijing, but they did say yes to Hong Kong, with several restrictions. A government escort had to accompany them everywhere and Lissa could only spend so much money on Zhao Xiu. Although they were allowed to go to the new Disneyland in Hong Kong, Lissa was not allowed to buy Zhao Xiu any mouse ears or toys. Despite all the restrictions Lissa and her daughter had a great time together and Zhao Xiu loved her first visit to a Disneyland and the hustle and bustle of the big city. Sadly it was the last time they'd ever see each other. In her short time on this earth Lissa made a tremendous impact. Above music, I think her greatest mark was her compassion. Since 2000 she was a volunteer counselor at a suicide prevention hotline. Since High School she donated half of her income to her favorite environmental organizations and charities and regularly played at organized concerts for free. She registered to vote on her 18th birthday and almost immediately became an active member of the Republican Party. Yes, she was a Republican. She campaigned for candidates and issues and was a Precinct Inspector for national, state and local elections. She opened her house in Amsterdam to families on government assistance since she only stayed there one month out of the year. She hated hospitals, but was always the first to visit family and friends if they were in one. She and her sister made sure their father never spent a night alone when he was hospitalized after his heart attack. She was the person they all knew they could turn to for assistance or support. Lissa touched the lives of countless people and will be greatly missed. Those of us who knew her were blessed by God and should be happy for the time we had with her rather than sad for time lost. ''Life carries on'', she would say. ''Get over it, move on, and grab me a drink while you're up.'' |
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| Bill | Aug 24 2007, 02:23 AM Post #125 |
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For those who are wondering, regarding SF Radio, I've played all of Lissa's music that I have access to - the concerto and the song with Adilah. Both of those were sent to me privately and I have no idea where to find any of her professional recordings.
If anyone would like to record a tribute to Lissa for inclusion in this week's show, please email it to strawberryfieldsradio@gmail.com Any format will do, any quality will do. I intend to post the show on Sunday afternoon my time, Saturday night US time, somewhere in between in between. |
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| maccascruff | Aug 24 2007, 02:27 AM Post #126 |
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Please take all the time you need to do a fantastic thread in tribute to Lissa. I remember she got some votes for the Boardie of the Year awards in at least the most humorous boardie and the most mysterious boardie. I so wish I would have kept the PM Lissa sent me that was so full of compassion about my friend Carol's brain cancer. Lissa was so full of concern--not only for Carol, but for me. It wasn't funny or witty. It was real and human and I remember being totally amazed when I saw it. I had never seen that side of her before. She posted in the thread and then took the time to send me a PM. |
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| FamousGroupie | Aug 24 2007, 02:33 AM Post #127 |
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Thankyou from the bottom of my heart for Lissa's heartfelt obituary, Reverend Dave. Only 25 - what a tragic waste. |
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| maccascruff | Aug 24 2007, 02:40 AM Post #128 |
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Reverend Dave, that is a beautiful tribute to our beautiful Lissa. I had no idea of her age, just of her obvious wit and talent. I knew there had been some problems in her life (as in all of our lives), but no idea of the extent. Lissa overcame much and I know Lissa is looking down on all us now wondering why we are all so sad. Sorry, Lissa, but I'm still shocked by what happened to you and feel very sad. I am also said for Zhao Xiu. |
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| Bill | Aug 24 2007, 02:40 AM Post #129 |
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Great God in Heaven. Thank you so, so much for posting that Dave. I, I don't know what to say - I don't, I really don't. I'm absolutely gobsmacked. |
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| Reverend Dave | Aug 24 2007, 02:45 AM Post #131 |
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You're all very welcome. It's the absolute least I can do. I don't know if this helps, but this link should go directly to the Lissa candle page so you don't have to search for it. http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candle...?l=eng&gi=LISSA |
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Oh my. She must have been the most incredible person I never met and yet the most tortured person I never met. I feel now that, in hindsight, she was more revealing about herself than I would ever expect someone with her life to have been. This is the first time since hearing the news I have really let myself go. Thank you, Dave. Thank you, Lissa. I'm sorry. |
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| Dorfliedot | Aug 24 2007, 02:56 AM Post #133 |
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| Deleted User | Aug 24 2007, 02:58 AM Post #134 |
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I believe that she may change my life. |
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| maccascruff | Aug 24 2007, 02:59 AM Post #135 |
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That is sweet, Dottie. I'm sure Lissa likes it. And Lissa will always be in our hearts. |
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| FamousGroupie | Aug 24 2007, 03:02 AM Post #136 |
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She's already changed mine. |
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I feel that I misjudged her. |
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| fab4fan | Aug 24 2007, 03:05 AM Post #138 |
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JUST AMAZING! What a story. If I hadn't of texted on here with her it would be unbelievable. |
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| Dorfliedot | Aug 24 2007, 03:10 AM Post #139 |
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Same here... Her life makes mine seem good. |
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| Dorfliedot | Aug 24 2007, 03:11 AM Post #140 |
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Thank you! |
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| BlueMolly2009 | Aug 24 2007, 03:13 AM Post #141 |
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I had sent Lissa a PM a few weeks ago about something and she answered it. She was very thoughtful and caring. I wish I had I had kept it too. I told one of my coworkers about lissa and she said when she goes to church on Sunday she's going to ask for a prayer for Lissa's family. |
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I feel like I must be reading about a stranger now, whose circumstances have just affected me very deeply. Was she really here with us? Did we know her at all? I now feel that not only did her family, her daughter and the world lose when she went... but a life like hers should have been allowed to continue, for her own sake, with a future that could override the darkness of the past. There is no plan. |
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| BEATNUT | Aug 24 2007, 04:14 AM Post #143 |
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Thanks Reverened Dave. What an incredible read that was. Just out of curiosity and knowing how witty Lissa was, i'm wondering if the dog that attacked her was actually named Mozart. That would seem to explain everything. |
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| Jacaranda | Aug 24 2007, 04:49 AM Post #144 |
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Unpredictable. Argumentative. Fiery. Opinionated. Sardonic. Hilariously funny. Real. Compassionate. Very, very smart. There are so many things that could be said about Lissa. When I found out, just a little while ago, I have been unable to stop thinking about what happened. My anger at the waste of her potential, talent and youth seems unending. This tragedy is so unfair, so ironic. A while ago, I was pleased to discover that Lissa and I shared our path to motherhood...through China. I had hoped one day to meet her and Zhou Xiu. I'm just beside myself that I can't now and that her daughter has lost the mother she was just getting to know. It is hard to get these words from her (to me privately) out of my mind: "I have a very long list of things here to show Zhou Xiu. While I want to keep her aware of her culture, I also want her to know mine as much as possible. Besides New York, I will take her to Europe sooner or later. There is just so much for both of us to learn and see and do. Not long ago I thought that I was very young and had plenty of time to do everything. Now I am beginning to really appreciate how quickly life passes by. The to do list greatly expands when there are children involved. But then, you already knew that." I can barely grasp how quickly Lissa's life passed us by. My sorrow and all condolences go to her family and friends. She touched us all here and we could only glimpse mere fragments of who she was; imagine how she affected those who truly knew her. |
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| fab4fan | Aug 24 2007, 04:56 AM Post #145 |
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| Dorfliedot | Aug 24 2007, 05:17 AM Post #146 |
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Here is another animation I made in her memory.. I wish I would made it when she was alive.. ![]() If any you want to use them under your sigs feel free to do so.. P.s. I can make it smaller |
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| Emilee | Aug 24 2007, 06:38 AM Post #147 |
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Thankyou so much for that, Reverend Dave. I'm still at a loss for words.. What a truely beautiful person. I really don't know what to say. Only that this has changed me, my life. And I barely knew her. It's just.. incredible. |
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| Dorfliedot | Aug 24 2007, 07:28 AM Post #148 |
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| Queenbee | Aug 24 2007, 09:03 AM Post #149 |
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((Reverend Dave)), Thank you for telling us the little stories of Lissa's life. It seems her music saved her soul and spirit. One would never have thought she hard such a hard life. I guess it shows you, when the mind is strong what one can accomplished. Thank heavens she found her Father and sister. Lissa always had alot to say about being thankful for them. I'm going to print what Reverend Dave wrote about her to remind myself to be stronger and not to take life for granted. I bet none of us knew anyone that can hold a candle to Lissa. She was one remarkable lady whom we all will miss with the passing days and years. My heart goes out to her family and friends. God's Blessings to all who knew Lissa and her sweet heart touched. Does anyone have a picture of her? It would be nice to know what she looked like. She died just before her 26th birthday.......September 1st. |
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This was one of the games Lissa had posted. Read her soul Kind of gives you the goose bumps. Read the 4th paragraph. Posted: Aug 14 2007, 12:23 PM I'm Happy Just To Post With You Group: Members Posts: 2,568 Member No.: 89 Joined: 14-May 06 http://www.blogthings.com/insidetheroomofyoursoulquiz/ What Your Soul Really Looks Like You are quite expressive and thoughtful. You see the world in a way that others are blind to. You are a very grounded, responsible, and realistic person. People may not want to hear the truth from you, but they're going to get it. You believe that people see you for how you are, not how you look. But deep down, you know that's not exactly true. Your near future is all about change, but in very small steps. The end of the journey looks far, but it's much closer than you realize. For you, love is all about caring and comfort. You couldn't fall in love with someone you didn't trust. --------------------
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| bluemeanie | Aug 24 2007, 10:39 AM Post #153 |
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| MannyDavvi | Aug 24 2007, 10:59 AM Post #154 |
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I read the post, and I was speechless. I barely knew Lissa. In better words I didn't know Lissa. I didn't know what to say, I certainly wanted to say something, I just didn't know what or how. I wanted to say something comforting, at least something that wasn't meaningless. Now as I sit here, reading just how much Lissa had been through, just seeing how much pain she must have felt during her difficult times, I realize anything I say will be meaningless. That anything I say will not measure as much as it should. Thanks for the read Dave. I'm not sure it changed my life but it definitely changed something in me. "Laugh when your eyes are burning, smile when your heart is filled with pain, sigh as you brush away your sorrow......" Rest in peace Lissa |
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| Kit_Kat | Aug 24 2007, 11:16 AM Post #155 |
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Well apart from the self defence when she was a child as dave said it was all there in her posts. It was two or three months ago, just one line in one of her posts with regards to her political affiliation, but then again i consider democrats to be right wing opportunists (much like the Labour Party), so i barely raised an eyebrow. Bipolar is an illness when you fall ill you will lose employment, the phrase cant keep a job or couldn't hold a job implies laziness or as the americans would say a bum. Deportation from the Netherlands to France in the late eighties highly unlikely, both countries are now and then member of the EEC (i am not a member of the EU i have never had a vote on it), far more likely to be one of housing or medical benefits. Her reluctance to do interviews is understandable you need only look at what happens to Macca. Her distaste to do recordings would have certainly hindered any rise to frame, as to her ability well she was definitely prettier than Barry Douglas. She was four or five years younger than i imagined and that is so saddening to those of us who are older. Did she change my life no she never asked me to marry her. I would of said no anyways. Will i miss her and her infuriating, exasperating, down right get on my goat posts. Yes cause most of them were funny. I went to lit a light on that page thingy but sorry i cant do that, it is too religious. If anyone could tell me of her favourite charities, certainly not any political ones though, either in the USA or the Netherlands so that i could make a small donation it would be most appreciated. No hug for you mozzie just a firm handshake lass. |
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| Dorfliedot | Aug 24 2007, 11:49 AM Post #157 |
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The truth I tought she was my age or older. Boy, was I wrong.. |
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| Deleted User | Aug 24 2007, 12:09 PM Post #158 |
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| Mariele | Aug 24 2007, 12:11 PM Post #159 |
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| Queenbee | Aug 24 2007, 12:37 PM Post #160 |
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After reading about Lissa life, a book could have been written andit would have been a new York BEST Seller. So much in such a short time. |
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| maccascruff | Aug 24 2007, 01:01 PM Post #161 |
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I hope some people will send Bill tributes for Lissa for this weeks radio show. Lissa was wise beyond her years. I never dreamed she was so young. I really thought she was older. Such an intelligent and brave woman. |
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| Dorfliedot | Aug 24 2007, 01:03 PM Post #162 |
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Ik zai je missen en je gevoel voo humor. i will miss you and your ability to make me laugh. |
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| Jacaranda | Aug 24 2007, 01:26 PM Post #164 |
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Reverend Dave, thank you for your obituary for Lissa. It was amazing to read and beautifully written. At the risk of sounding like an asspocket for being more maudlin than Lisa might like, I can only say that I will always miss her here. |
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Revered Dave, thank you very much for your wonderfull tribute to Lissa. I only discoverd resently that Lissa was half Dutch. RUST ZACHT, Lissa. |
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OH MY GOD!!! WHAT a life...I can't think of a word to say except Thank you...I"m about to just pass out in my chair here at work.. YOu presented lissas life BEAUTIFULY..... WHAT A LIFE too... WHAT A FREAKING LIFE....in awe here.... I wish I'd had the priviledge to meet her.... a movie should be made about her...LORD...a script writer could not come close to even making anything like that up....
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I have 2 special songs for Lissa; ok its 1 song 2 versions. "THIS IS YOUT TIME" & "THIS IS YOUT TIME" reprise. The interesting thing about the reprise Michael W. Smith starts with just the piano. As most of you know Lissa played the piano. Please listen to the words on the first track, the reprise has no words, just the music. I must warn you, many of you will be crying like a baby after getting a shot. Not trying to be funny, you will need a box of tissue and do not lean over your keyboard. I admit even getting the lyrics and just thinking of the songs I had to stop and take a breath. Michael W. Smith – This Is your Time http://www.mytempdir.com/2007593 Michael W. Smith – This Is your Time (Reprise) http://www.mytempdir.com/2007595 This is Your Time Lyrics It was a test we could all hope to pass But none of us would want to take. Faced with the choice to deny God to live, For her, there was one choice to make. This was her time. this was her dance. She lived every moment; left nothing to chance. She swam in the sea; drank of the deep; Embraced the mystery of all she could be. This was her time... Though you are mourning and grieving with us, Death died a long time ago; Swallowed in life so that life carries on. Still it's so hard to let go. This was her time. this was her dance. She lived every moment; left nothing to chance. She swam in the sea; drank of the deep; Embraced the mystery of all she could be. What if tomorrow, and what if today, Faced with the question, Oh what would you say? This is your time. this is your dance. Live every moment. leave nothing to chance. Swim in the sea. drink of the deep. Follow the mercy and hear yourself praying. Won't you save me? Won't you save me? This is your time. this is your dance. Live every moment. leave nothing to chance. Swim in the sea. drink of the deep. Embrace the mystery of all you can be. This is your time. this is your dance. Live every moment. leave nothing to chance. Swim in the sea. drink of the deep. Embrace the mystery of all you can be. This is your time... (won't you save me? ) (this is your time) (won't you save me? ) |
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Thanks Lippa. It took me all of 2 seconds to figure out the best song for her. |
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Thanks for the beautiful obituary. So sad to really connect to her after she is gone. |
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I know what you mean. She made a post about a week ago on a thread, I didn't see it until after the fact, I wished I saw it sooner, I wanted to reply to it, but it's too late.
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| Merry | Aug 24 2007, 02:53 PM Post #172 |
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I am thoroughly touched by Lissa the young woman and by the wonderful biography (tribute) that Reverend Dave gave us. For such a short lifetime, Lissa's was packed with so much pain and sorrow, and yet just look at how she turned it around and made so much positive from it! She is truly an inspiration to all of us, and we are most fortunate that she chose to spend some time with us. I think that she has enriched all of us whose lives she touched, even if it was only in passing. I won't forget our lovely friend or the contributions she made to our forum...she is very much missed. I just wish now that I could've let her know just how much I admired her before this happened. My love to Lissa, her family and her little daughter in China...I wish I could do or say more. Merry |
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| jessiemillano | Aug 24 2007, 04:01 PM Post #173 |
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| maccascruff | Aug 24 2007, 07:00 PM Post #176 |
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I'm here at work and not supposed to be doing this, but I've been thinking about it since my drive here as it's quite ironic. Lissa and I were exchanging some PMs about people announcing they were leaving the board. Lissa said if she ever left the forum she would just go away and no announcement would be made. Now look at what's happened and how horrible we all are feeling about Lissa and her life. I so wish I had met her in the real world, but it was not to be. Consider yourselves very privileged Reverend Dave and Adilah. Lissa was a class person--especially for all she went through in her life. |
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My Tribute Has anybody here seen our old friend Lissa, Can you tell me where she's gone? She gave her heart to the people But, it seems the good, they die young I just look around and she's gone One would have to be deaf, dumb and blind not to see what an extremely fertile mind she had. I always felt her quick-wit was on-par with Woody Allen and Groucho Marx, and, had she wanted, could have become a great writer. I think we all felt her presence was bigger-than-life, with each post being 'an event'. / Because she knew it was a thread I had created, she would often-times reply to my posts, elsewhere, with, "Simon Says...,". This told me that she had a very tender side for people's feelings, even though her posts, at times, had an 'I couldn't care less' attitude. She obviously cared a great deal for the human race and perveyed that caring articulately. I will always remember her by thinking, "what a mind!". Simon says, I won't forget. |
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| Queenbee | Aug 24 2007, 11:22 PM Post #179 |
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| Nick2006 | Aug 24 2007, 11:28 PM Post #180 |
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| maccascruff | Aug 25 2007, 12:42 AM Post #181 |
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| iscreamer1 | Aug 25 2007, 12:42 AM Post #182 |
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Ijust don't know what to say. My direct contact with her was limited but I always looked forward to reading her posts for their wit and insite. I always thought and still do think that she was a special person that had some very special gifts to offer this world. I'm sick and so so sad. Really in shock. I will miss her. |
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| Bill | Aug 25 2007, 02:50 AM Post #183 |
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If anyone would like to record something for Lissa via phone, I will be here for the next hour and able to record it. PM me for details. Also, I've set up a voicemail service that you can call to leave your message. (+1) 206-350-1632 It's a US number and I have no idea about call costs - you'll have to work that out yourself. |
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I do read all these great messages about Lissa, but people should realise that life is also going on. For example this week a famous Dutch entertainer has died, the whole country was in mourning for him because he was so great. I saw it and it was people just looking like buch of cows (they are animals living in schools) (the Dutch name is kudde dieren). For me it was very clear that the person who have been died his wish was to do a party, (yes party) , in a way his say: "Live Is Goinf On". andf that is the thrue. That was avery intellegent remark, the di place that on his funeral also, people should be happy......... I'm sorry that I have post this all here, me to thinking in that way, (just like Paul sings on his last record.................. |
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I was fortunate enough to speak to Chad (Beep) today. His reaction was the same as everyone else. More to follow. p.s. Hey Buddy, I know you're reading this--I left your e-mail address @ work. Type up your thoughts and save the draft. You can send it to me tomorrow-- I promise.
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| Dorfliedot | Aug 25 2007, 07:06 AM Post #186 |
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This is from chad... Lissa: I just read about Lissa's untimely death. She and I shared some very humorous and just-slightly personal PM's thru the years, and it is easy for to me to admit I cried over her, especially during and after reading the obituary that Reverend Dave wrote for her. I was informed via phone by Fab4Fan (John) just today and then saw the email from Dotty to me. Thank you both for letting me know. This is absolutely horrible news and I think I am more stunned than sad right now, but it feels as though it may sink in and hit at any time. I pray that you are all well, along with the rest of the SF community. May we let this serve as a reminder of just how short life can be so that we may live it to the fullest and do our utmost to be remembered as she will be. She was truly cut down in the prime of her life, and it saddens me to think of what other greatnesses will never be contributed to world society now that she's gone. Rest in peace and Godspeed, Lissa. Peace and love to you all, In sympathy, Chad/Beep |
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Every day people are dying,Peter, hunderd and millions people. That is the fact of life..............people are dying on car accidents, and most part from hunger. You should think about that. |
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Actually, i do consider that many times in a single week. I saw a man murdered when i was 11, before i was 21 i had saved one maybe two peoples lives had informed a mother her child had died, had informed many children that their parents had died their age at demise ranging from 45 to 82, at that precise moment the age of a parent is irrelevant. My neice and nephrew only a few months ago had their first brush with death when two or was it three of their teenage friends died in a car accident, now i could have been as insensitive or crass as you and said to them "clever tree jumping into the road like that" but i did'nt. I have let it be to the inquest for them to discover the dangers of driving fast on a country road at night. Had you posted on a thread mourning a sodding poitician death or the many natural deaths of celebrities that we have here or at pm or other places ( threads which i take great lengths to avoid ) i would have said fair dinkum lass; but you didnt. You posted on a thread about a member of this board who to some on this board was a friend in real life, not net life but actual physical contact. Whether or not you liked her or disliked her, or thought that somes peoples posts were hyperbole or over the top, is irrelevent your post was not in "good form" ie impolite in the extreme, and i took and still take great exception to it. |
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Yes, that is true. There are thousands of people dying from hunger each and every day, worldwide, and that is a real tragedy. We, as a society, should be doing more to stop that from happening. That, however, has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that we have lost a friend. A very special, talented, well-loved member who wrote with intelligence, humour and more than a little cynicism. I think it is insensitive to those who have been genuinely affected by Lissa's death for you to remind everyone that there are other people dying in the world. We know. It doesn't make Lissa's passing any less painful or give us any kind of 'perspective'. I definitely believe that it is more than appropriate for people to remember and mourn for Lissa in their own way. |
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Death makes people uncomfortable. Those of us who believe in God can find comfort in knowing our loved ones are in a better place. I'm not sure what those who don't believe do, but everyone grieves in their own way. Talking about it is especially important. Someone said we should all just say anything. It doesn't have to be amazing or inspirational. Just saying something helps. I think that's true. Not talking about it simply because she was only one of many people or because you only knew her on-line is unhealthy. Right now I'm merely babbling and not really sure if any of this makes sense, but I'm talking about it because I should. Someone else said they couldn't talk about this with their friends, and I'm sorry I don't remember who said what, but that's probably true for many people. If my sister hadn't met Lissa she'd probably not understand either. This might be the one place everyone can talk. We all knew her to some degree so it's only fitting and natural that we all share our grief here. This can't only be a place to argue politics and play games. |
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I neglected to mention the reason I began my babbling in the first place. Lissa's sister has been given this web-site address and has read or will read all these wonderful comments about her beloved sister. |
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If you're responsible for letting her know, thank you. If you're not, thank you to whoever was able to get ahold of her. It makes me happy to know that she'll see just how loved her sister was here.
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As Paul would say...All ya need is love. We love each other here, I believe, and I appreciate all of the comments that have been made. It gives us a little more insight into the heart and soul of our SF family. We can even see how each person handles mourning. I don't believe there has been ill-intent from any person on this board. Losing a person like Lissa has deeply affected us all and each one of us is handling it differently. There is no need to argue or get offended with each other right now. I plan to share Dave's words with people who are in situations with little or no hope with prayers that they will be inspired by Lissa's life. Thank you, Dorothy for sharing Chad's thoughts with us. He's still a part of our family, even though he can no longer be with us. He is doing the right thing, as usual. I will be gone for a few days but my love is extended to all of you. Mary Ann |
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| BEATNUT | Aug 25 2007, 03:25 PM Post #196 |
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I think you're missing the point here. No one really cares about people dying unless they know them or of them. Sure it's sad, but the only time it affects you is when you have a link to that person. Many people here had a link to Lissa. Not only that she was an active member here which in most ways affects everyone here especially because not many of us have been on personal message boards and experienced someone's passing. Aside from the fact that Lissa had many friends here. It surely hits home. On a personal note I think you're minimizing the passing of a fellow member. If you lost a family member of your own would you want someone to walk up to you and tell you "Life goes on"? Others die everyday from hunger and car accidents? I think it's rather callous, but who am I? |
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| modgirl1964 | Aug 25 2007, 05:05 PM Post #197 |
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Holy sh*t..I go up to the end of the world for the week (very much so) and come home to this news. I can't say anything, just in plain feckin' shock. And like Lissa, I have no words of comfort at a time like this because they can't bring her back and that just feckin' SUCKS. My heart aches for her daughter and family, I can't even imagine the greif they are going through and won't even pretend to know it, it's just a horrible and senseless death and just plain out unfair. |
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| MaccasGirl | Aug 25 2007, 05:24 PM Post #198 |
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I've not had internet hookup for 2 days, so I just now read the post from Reverend Dave. I am stunned at the life Lissa led and amazed at what a smart, strong woman she became. I just don't know what to say anymore....what a sad story.
My sympathies to her father. To have found your daughter only to loose her so young......no parent should have to endure the loss of a child. It is such a cruel thing in life and one that no parent should have to go through. I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers along with the other family members.RIP, Lissa. |
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| chuffed | Aug 25 2007, 05:46 PM Post #199 |
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I saw the thread on the Paul McCartney board .... my sorrows .... comfort and peace to her family, friends and all the people on the message boards that knew her that way.... I would like to say when I did read her posts they were always worth the time to read and I liked the humor that she used. This is sad and stunning .... *(and thanks to those who took the time to let everyone know the news .... and the additional background about her). I probably could not explain my sadness about this news to anyone around me ... they would think it is sad -- but just a message board. (without knowing how hard it can hit you).
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| Deleted User | Aug 25 2007, 06:19 PM Post #200 |
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I think, I don't minimize the passing of a member here. Sorry for mine posting here. And I think many people misunderstanding me here. I do apologize for have putting some words in this RIP thread. I don't come and post here anymore |
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It is such a cruel thing in life and one that no parent should have to go through. I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers along with the other family members.
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