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Maccasgirl's son passed on; Please pray
Topic Started: Sep 2 2006, 09:23 PM (6,883 Views)
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I'm so sad for you. While there is nothing I can say that will make you feel better, know that I am praying for you and your family.
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I'm really sorry, this is terrible :( Be strong.
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Thinking of you at this tragic time. We are all here for you. :flower:
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Just saw this thread and I have to say I am devastated for you. I am so sorry to hear this tragic news. In a world that has gone crazy events like this really bring home what is important in our lives. Take comfort in your family being close and in the wonderful life he lead. I'm so so sorry.
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(((((((Oh Diane))))))).... It is so horrible.  I cry with you and I offer you my sincere condoleances.  You and your family will be in my thoughts. There is no words good enough to express what I feel right now.   I am so sorry.

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Thinking of you and your family, Diane. I wish there was something I could do. :console:




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So am I, Diane!

I wish there was something I could do to help you out.

Just know that we are all here for you and send you our love!


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Diane, I am so, so sorry for you and your family and all who love your beautiful son and of course for your dear John. I don't know if music helps you get through tragic times but empathetic songs about loss like "Little Willow", Eric Clapton's "Tears in Heaven", Peter Gabriel's "I Grieve" and Beth Nielsen Chapman's "Sand and Water" have been running through my head as I read these messages.

Comfort and love to you and your family,

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Diane, I am so sorry for your loss. My sincere sympathy to you and your family.

Your son was an amazing young man.
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Gosh I hate to hear this horrible news. I don't have any kids, but I do know the sting of death of a loved one and all I can say is remembering the good times is what got me through. I'm so very sorry
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God, I'm so sorry, Diane. I just read this thread after being away for so long. What a terrible thing to read upon my return. :(
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Diane, you and your family are always in my thoughts.
I send you LOVE that all I can do.
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remembering the good times is what got me through.  I'm so very sorry

There's a lot of truth in that . A few years ago my nephew Frankie died instantly in a motorcycle accident. He was 19. Horrible. But family and friends worked together on a photo montage of his life for the wake and sharing our happy memories of Frankie during the days, weeks and months thereafter did seem to help.
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Thank you all so very, very much. After a long, long wait we finally got some closure tonight and it was the most beautiful thing, unbelievable and I just need to share the story because it was so moving...like a movie, unreal.

We were told yesterday that the organ removal team would be coming in as soon as they found all the donors. They thought that it would be around 3am last night. We have been keeping vigil by him and waiting. They found donors for his heart, liver, pancreas, kidneys, intestines, heart valves, but couldn't match the lungs because they were so big. So the surgery kept being pushed back later and later. They finally found a match for the lungs so they aimed for 3pm today. We were there and my husband walked down with him to the surgery entrance. Tough but he seemed to feel he had to be with him ever step of the way.

We thought that would be it but then started thinking about how we would like to see the vehicles leaving with the organs and if they had helicopters then we'd watch them leave. The heart was set up to go to New York and the lungs to Minnesota so they told us that the leer jets would be coming in to our local airport. The rest were going by van to Chicago. My daughter and I decided to go out there to see what we would be able to do. It's a small airport where you can sit outside and watch the planes so we sat at a table outside. Members of our family started showing up and there were about 20 of us waiting and watching for the jets. The pilots were so nice...they talked to us and even let us go look in the jet. The organ donation group had 2 minivans with lights and sirens that would pick up the doctors from the jets, take them to retrieve the organs, and then bring them back to the jet.

First the heart came for the jet to New York. The pilot is a professional drag car racer which would have delighted my son no end as it did my younger son who talked with him and got signed pictures. But before they arrived we looked and saw a small rainbow over the jet!! It was definitely a sign and it gave us all so much hope and peace. So amazing.

We were able to go out to both jets when the organs arrived and they granted us permission to carry the cooler to the jet as well as kiss the top good bye! They were so wonderful to do this for us. The take off of both jets was very emotional with the jet to Minnesota buzzing over our heads and all of us waving and holding each other. We didn't have the rainbow anymore but the moon rising to the east. Such a beautiful experience and we were all so touched by it. Johnny would have been so proud of himself.

I received 2 absolutely gorgeous plants and flowers today from my friends at Strawberry Fields. Thank you so much every one. (((Judy)) you're the greatest.

Tomorrow is funeral plans and on it goes. I would like to post a picture of him eventually and I thank everyone for listening to me and caring.

Love to you all~~Diane
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That's beautful, Diane, and it really does bring some closure! How kind and generous you and your family are to have so unselfishly shared your son's organs! A bit of your son will live on in each and every one of them.

All I can add is that I send my love to you and your family and am just amazed at how strong you are!

If you'd ever like to talk, please feel free to contact me, I'll be here for you!


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Diane, i am sitting here, in tears. Thank you so very much for sharing your story. So many lives are being touched by your baby, by your son, by you and your family.

My heart aches for you! My soul hurts for you.....


Sending you so much love and thoughts your way!

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This sucks.

I am terrible at condolences, so I do not even try anymore. I think no one really knows what to say at times like this because there really is nothing anyone can say beyond telling family and friends that they are sorry it happened.

Everyone dies too soon, but it is especially hard when children die. No matter how old they are, if their parents are alive, they are someone's children. I would like to say that if I had children I would be devastated if one died, but since I have no children, I cannot possibly fathom what it might be like to lose someone I helped to create and nurture into a fully developed member of the human race.

Whenever people in my life die, I try to remember the good things about that person and things we did together. Inevitably, the good memories of the past will drown out the anger of being robbed of the future. Nothing will bring them back, but the little time we have with each other is still priceless.

I do not know Diane or her family, but I can imagine that the people who received these organs and their families will be eternally grateful. There is so much senseless death in this world, but at least this death can help others. It may be little comfort, but your son saved the lives of several people. No one can do better than that.

None of this may be suitable for a Hallmark card, but it is sincere.
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Diane, I don't know how you found the courage or the eloquence to share such a heart-wrenching experience with us, but I'm so glad you did. Your words are so moving and the image of the rainbow above the jet is one I won't soon forget.

I'm imagining all those other families who are somewhere out there right now, crying tears of joy and giving thanks to the person who has given their loved one another chance at life. Just think of all the lives you've changed because of your generosity. I hope you'll be able to take some comfort from that.

Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers and we will be here to listen and give what comfort we're able.





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Diane, what a beautiful and moving way of saying goodbye to your son. I think in many ways he was communicating with you telling you that his life was like that rainbow you saw, bright and beautiful. Thank so much for sharing with us a little bit of your family, your love, and your grief.

Like Merry said, if you need just need to talk, you know where we are.

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I am sorry about your loss . That is a hard one. My prayers are that his soul is with the angels and is watching over all he loved. He had a wonder ful life with you and his work.
He will be missed but a part of him will live on in all he loved
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Anna and Mozart8mytoe, I agree with both of your posts.
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Diane that is the most amazingly beautiful story I have ever read. You wrote it so well that I feel as I were there. I am crying buckets as I read it. Tears of sadness for your loss tears of joy for the families who are recieving the loving gift you so selflessly have given them. Think about it Diane, you are now mother to 9 more people than you were before. Because of you your husband and John 9 people will still be here and they carry a part of both of you with them.
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Diane, Sincere and Heartfelt Condolences on your Loss.
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Diane, while there is nothing to be said that can possible console you, take some relief knowing how happy the families of the organ recipients are. Your son will never be forgotten by any of them.
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Diane, I'm truly at a loss for words.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Remember that you have a large support group here as well as your family and friends in Illinois.

May God bless you and your family.
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Diane,

I haven't posted much here, but this is tragic, sad. I cried with every word I read from your posts, thanks for sharing, Judy, (my sister) was keeping me up to date on any news, You & your family are in our prayers.

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We all have red eyes and we weren't even drinking! Sending a lil humor during a life sucks moment.

I'm glad they all got to see the send off of the heart. And with the rainbow over the jet, it's like saying everything is okay and for a new beginning for someone else that would have died. What better ending to this freak accident as to give life to 9 people. John's life was cut short but he will live on.

PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

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Well, here's another clue for you all, the Walrus was Paul...
I hope you can find some sliver of peace, Diane. Please...Please take care of yourself.

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Sep 5 2006, 11:43 PM
This sucks.

I am terrible at condolences, so I do not even try anymore. I think no one really knows what to say at times like this because there really is nothing anyone can say beyond telling family and friends that they are sorry it happened.

Everyone dies too soon, but it is especially hard when children die. No matter how old they are, if their parents are alive, they are someone's children. I would like to say that if I had children I would be devastated if one died, but since I have no children, I cannot possibly fathom what it might be like to lose someone I helped to create and nurture into a fully developed member of the human race.

Whenever people in my life die, I try to remember the good things about that person and things we did together. Inevitably, the good memories of the past will drown out the anger of being robbed of the future. Nothing will bring them back, but the little time we have with each other is still priceless.

I do not know Diane or her family, but I can imagine that the people who received these organs and their families will be eternally grateful. There is so much senseless death in this world, but at least this death can help others. It may be little comfort, but your son saved the lives of several people. No one can do better than that.

None of this may be suitable for a Hallmark card, but it is sincere.

I agree with this post.


Diane, I am so sorry for your loss and just cannot imagine what you are going through being that I have no children myself. The fact that bits of John are going on and living, saving someone else's life is a big comfort. It's great to know that there's still something of him out in this world and that someone got to live through the kindness of you and your family following John's wishes. I won't say though that time heals all wounds and all the other gernic cliches you get when someone passes because you'll always grive for your loved one. But I will say that I hope the pain you feel now becomes a little more barable, not as sharp, and that the memories you try to think of are happy ones. It's wonderful that you and your family are a great support team for each other, makes your mourning much easier!

All my love to you and your family Diane in the days to come.
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Diane

I was moved by your post and gladden by the attitude of the pilots,hospital and airport staff. Feeling strangely reassured that so many of your family had the same thought that they went to the airport. It showed the love that many had for him and all their family. Hoping everything goes well tomorrow on what will be a horrible day for you all.
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((((Diane))))

I have just read your beautiful post I wish I was nearer to you to give you and your family a hug. Hopefully others from here will do that on my behalf. You are a strong woman to post and in my eyes the way your son was treated was with uppermost respect right until the end. As others have said, 9 people are now hosting part of your son and he his love will carry on through these people. All my love and wishes to all of your family and thoughts are with you.
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Sep 5 2006, 10:00 PM
Thank you all so very, very much. After a long, long wait we finally got some closure tonight and it was the most beautiful thing, unbelievable and I just need to share the story because it was so moving...like a movie, unreal.

We were told yesterday that the organ removal team would be coming in as soon as they found all the donors. They thought that it would be around 3am last night. We have been keeping vigil by him and waiting. They found donors for his heart, liver, pancreas, kidneys, intestines, heart valves, but couldn't match the lungs because they were so big. So the surgery kept being pushed back later and later. They finally found a match for the lungs so they aimed for 3pm today. We were there and my husband walked down with him to the surgery entrance. Tough but he seemed to feel he had to be with him ever step of the way.

We thought that would be it but then started thinking about how we would like to see the vehicles leaving with the organs and if they had helicopters then we'd watch them leave. The heart was set up to go to New York and the lungs to Minnesota so they told us that the leer jets would be coming in to our local airport. The rest were going by van to Chicago. My daughter and I decided to go out there to see what we would be able to do. It's a small airport where you can sit outside and watch the planes so we sat at a table outside. Members of our family started showing up and there were about 20 of us waiting and watching for the jets. The pilots were so nice...they talked to us and even let us go look in the jet. The organ donation group had 2 minivans with lights and sirens that would pick up the doctors from the jets, take them to retrieve the organs, and then bring them back to the jet.

First the heart came for the jet to New York. The pilot is a professional drag car racer which would have delighted my son no end as it did my younger son who talked with him and got signed pictures. But before they arrived we looked and saw a small rainbow over the jet!! It was definitely a sign and it gave us all so much hope and peace. So amazing.

We were able to go out to both jets when the organs arrived and they granted us permission to carry the cooler to the jet as well as kiss the top good bye! They were so wonderful to do this for us. The take off of both jets was very emotional with the jet to Minnesota buzzing over our heads and all of us waving and holding each other. We didn't have the rainbow anymore but the moon rising to the east. Such a beautiful experience and we were all so touched by it. Johnny would have been so proud of himself.

I received 2 absolutely gorgeous plants and flowers today from my friends at Strawberry Fields. Thank you so much every one. (((Judy)) you're the greatest.

Tomorrow is funeral plans and on it goes. I would like to post a picture of him eventually and I thank everyone for listening to me and caring.

Love to you all~~Diane

Oh, this is so touching.... :(
I don't know what to say. You are so brave. My thoughts are still will you.

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Diane, I am sitting here crying. I've been out of town and had been thinking about your and your family and wondering what was happening. Now I know and I also know there are no words that can possibly console you. You have to cry it out. That was my therapy when my best friend died.

What beautiful posts you have made regarding your son. The story of the heart is so touching and so beautiful. :cry: :cry: :cry: :console: :console:
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Sep 6 2006, 12:22 AM
Diane, I don't know how you found the courage or the eloquence to share such a heart-wrenching experience with us, but I'm so glad you did. Your words are so moving and the image of the rainbow above the jet is one I won't soon forget.

I'm imagining all those other families who are somewhere out there right now, crying tears of joy and giving thanks to the person who has given their loved one another chance at life. Just think of all the lives you've changed because of your generosity. I hope you'll be able to take some comfort from that.

Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers and we will be here to listen and give what comfort we're able.

Her keyboard was flooded with buckets of tears. :(

PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

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I pray that I have the strength to get through tonight and tomorrow. The minute I wake up the tears flow and I realize it is another day without him. My heart aches with the pain. It's a heavy burden to carry.

Why do I come here, you ask? Maybe it's because I can put my feelings into print and know that somebody somewhere else in this world will hear my pain. I guess it's therapeudic maybe.

I am so grateful to ALL of you for your kind words considering you don't even know me other than from this message board. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Diane
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Sep 7 2006, 02:41 PM
I pray that I have the strength to get through tonight and tomorrow. The minute I wake up the tears flow and I realize it is another day without him. My heart aches with the pain. It's a heavy burden to carry.

Why do I come here, you ask? Maybe it's because I can put my feelings into print and know that somebody somewhere else in this world will hear my pain. I guess it's therapeudic maybe.

I am so grateful to ALL of you for your kind words considering you don't even know me other than from this message board. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Diane

Diane, we are with you here and in our prayers.
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Diane, I'm here for you too.

All I can offer, unfortunately, are my thoughts and prayers, along with lots of love and support.

If you ever want to talk, please contact me.

It's going to be hard...that's how I felt when I lost my parents. My heart goes out to you.


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Sep 7 2006, 02:41 PM
I pray that I have the strength to get through tonight and tomorrow. The minute I wake up the tears flow and I realize it is another day without him. My heart aches with the pain. It's a heavy burden to carry.

Why do I come here, you ask? Maybe it's because I can put my feelings into print and know that somebody somewhere else in this world will hear my pain. I guess it's therapeudic maybe.

I am so grateful to ALL of you for your kind words considering you don't even know me other than from this message board. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Diane

God bless you and your family, Diane.

I hated the feeling of waking up and realizing that, yes, it was real. It really happened. It seems with every loss I've faced, that is the part that I dislike the most. It does fade, but it takes time.

Please let me know if there is anything at all that I can do. PM me if you need to (although I'm only online here at work right now)

I'm praying for you and your family as you get through this, and you WILL get through this.
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:console: Diane, not a moment goes by that I am not thinking of you.
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John came to me in a dream and this is what he said. "I had a vision of a man on a flaming pie, and he told me that Betsy with a B not Lisa with a L is the biggest fan of mine". John trumps 'the boss' !

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Sep 7 2006, 11:08 AM
:console: Diane, not a moment goes by that I am not thinking of you.

I feel the same way. :sweet:

Diane, I hope we will meet in person one day, but somehow I feel I already know you. Even though many of us have only read your posts, you've spoken directly from your heart to all of ours. Can there be a better way to get to know a person that that?? I don't think so. :)

Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. :)




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Sep 7 2006, 08:41 AM
I pray that I have the strength to get through tonight and tomorrow. The minute I wake up the tears flow and I realize it is another day without him. My heart aches with the pain. It's a heavy burden to carry.

Why do I come here, you ask? Maybe it's because I can put my feelings into print and know that somebody somewhere else in this world will hear my pain. I guess it's therapeudic maybe.

I am so grateful to ALL of you for your kind words considering you don't even know me other than from this message board. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Diane

Diane, we have met and I am feeling so bad for you. I thought about you all day.

I don't know about losing a child, but I know way more than I wish about sudden death. I lost my best friend and know what it's like to wonder how you will get through each day.

Feel free to PM me or we can call each other. I will never forget my year of tears.

I can offer you much love and support. You will go on because you have no choice. You have other lovely children. I met your daughter.

In your posts on this thread, you have spoken from your heart to ours. We feel your pain. We are trying our best to offer you support. It seems very difficult as I sit here at a keyboard. I can't write like some others on this forum. All I can say to you is that I care and will do whatever it takes to help you get through this terrible time.
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Sep 7 2006, 11:08 AM
:console: Diane, not a moment goes by that I am not thinking of you.

I feel the same way. :sweet:

Diane, I hope we will meet in person one day, but somehow I feel I already know you. Even though many of us have only read your posts, you've spoken directly from your heart to all of ours. Can there be a better way to get to know a person that that?? I don't think so. :)

Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. :)

Everyone here is saying what I feel in my heart, as well...

You are in my thoughts and prayers, Diane. Peace be with you.

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Diane, I would simply like to echo those sentiments expressed by so many others. I continue to think of you and am sharing your pain. As a parent, it is all of our worst fears. I wish we all lived closer so we could be a huge in-person support to you, but thank goodness for the internet.

I hope and pray that you can get some solace knowing just how much we care and how much your story and your unselfish courage has inspired us all. Please take care and know we're all here for you in our own way.
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Sep 7 2006, 09:41 AM
I pray that I have the strength to get through tonight and tomorrow. The minute I wake up the tears flow and I realize it is another day without him. My heart aches with the pain. It's a heavy burden to carry.

Why do I come here, you ask? Maybe it's because I can put my feelings into print and know that somebody somewhere else in this world will hear my pain. I guess it's therapeudic maybe.

I am so grateful to ALL of you for your kind words considering you don't even know me other than from this message board. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Diane

I understand why you come here. You know we all are with you. We share your pain.

I send you LOVE and ((((((((hug))))))). I always have you and your family in my thoughts.
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I've just seen this thread.... I've read every post - all 10 pages. I've gone through shock, goosebumps, hope, sadness, tears, and just about every other emotion possible living through your posts of your loss and pain. Diane, although I do not know you, you are truly amazing. So many lives have been saved through your kindness and selflessness. I'm a Mom of two and couldn't even imagine what you must be going through. I, with all your other friends here, am praying for you and your family. My deepest deepest sympathies.
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Diane, Thank you so much for that beautiful story. Wow, every day you simply amaze me with your style and grace. Although i have never actually met you, i sincerly hope to someday for you are certainly one person who has class, goodness within and a loving soul.
Once again i sit here and cry, but this is a better cry, one that brings a bit of a smile to my face seeing you guys in my mind. with the roller igloo ice chests (still cant believe they use those to transport organs) getting the autograph of the pilot and John Daniel's last ride being on a lear jet with a race car driver.

It is with rare occasion that all organs are placed. This was one rare son that you had. IF nothing else i hope we can offer some support, an ear to bend, a loving prayer, and a place where you can shed your grief as often and as much as you need. I hope we offer some sort of condolence for the gift you have provided, as has been displayed in the person that you are in times of bad times, and that is simply amazing. i hope you think of me as a friend because i would be very proud to call you a friend of mine.

thank you for sharing with us your beautiful story of your wonderful son


i can still see it. the rainbow, this huge moon we have had the past few nights

may these memories sooth your pain when you feel sorrow and loss
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This is so amazing to read all of these posts, and I feel the warmth from all of you to Diane. I cannot imagine losing a child. I lost my mom this year and, while that was difficult, losing a child would be harder.

Diane...thank you for your gift to all of us. Your words have been inspiring to me and I can feel your strength along with your sadness. What a wonderful family you have and a brave one to make the decisions you made during a time when it would be hard to think of others and yet that is exactly what all of you did. This story should not stop here but each of us should draw strength from your family when we are having our own weak or difficult moments. God bless you Diane and I hope each day brings you happy thoughts of your son to help you deal with your loss. It sounds like he was a wonderful man and it isn't hard to see where it came from.
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PS... Mozart, you ARE good with your condolences. It came from your heart and that is what counts.
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Diane, remember I am there with you today as you go through the hardest day of your life.
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I am saddened to read this. But I do hope that the donated organs help save lives.

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God will give you the strength you need for the coming days and weeks.
My son is 28, and I cannot imagine how terrible this is for you and your husband.

I hope someday soon, you will think of your beautiful son with smiles, instead of tears....
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Thinking of you today, Diane. . . . :console: :hug:




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Diane, I also will be thinking of you and your entire family today. I wish there was more i could do. I think many of us here feel so helpless....... hoping and sincerely wanting to offer some sort of comfort in this difficult day.
Thank you for sharing a piece of Johnny with me. He has truly moved me in a special way, all of you have. Give Tanya and Andrew and those beautiful girls of yours a special hug for me, and let them give you one in return.
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I just saw this thread...my sincere condoleances to you and your family. :cry:
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Diane, you do know that everyone here loves Johnny very much. There will be more rainbows. It was so very kind of you and your family to donate those organs to help others during your time of such grief.

I know I feel helpless and I also know words cannot help you now. I wish I was in Illinois to give you a big hug. :console:
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Hello everyone ~~ Today was the funeral of Diane and John's son Johnny. The weather is a beautiful fall day. Here is the Chronicle obituary that a lot of you help sponsor for a unlimited amount of time. We have a special group of people here at Strawberry Fields. We care for our own deeply. Here is the link to post your thoughts and blessings for Diane and her family to read.

http://www.legacy.com/Daily-Chronicle/Obit...rsonId=19146567

Please send you wishes to Diane.

The wake was last night. My husband and I and my sister Diane went, stood in line for about an hour, then left due to my asthma kicking in. For those of you who have talked to me on the phone, know what I mean. We went back an hour later and the line was still long. Diane thought maybe 300 people showed up. I think maybe more near 900 with the parking lot being fille at the church plus the grass even had cars parked on it. She said how wonderful and sad it was. People she hasn't seen in years, his teachers, old girlfriend. The flowers she said were all so beautiful. I'm glad she and the family have a lot community and family, friends support. When something this tradgic happens you need every arm and heart to lean on to get through the suffering and the Why me?

((((Diane)))) when you have the strength, we love to hear stories about John. Please don't think we'll think your silly. I know all of us would love to hear them and help you get through the tough times. And if you need a breather, let us know. But take care of yourself. Make sure your eating and hopefully getting some sleep.

We love you Sweetie.

(((((Love and God's Blessings))))
Judy

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is now a happily married woman x
Ive added to the site judy - thank you very much for posting it.

Diane and family (((((((hug)))))))
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Thank you, Jayne :-)

PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

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Thanks so much for the update, Judy. I know that must have been hard on you as well. It sure sounds like Johnny was such a wonderful guy. It must help Diane and family to know how loved he was. Wuat a handsome son.

How's the asthma? You need to take care!
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I signed the guest book as well. :(
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Well, here's another clue for you all, the Walrus was Paul...
Thanks for keeping us informed, Judy. You are a special friend.

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I signed the guest book. Thanks for whoever started it. Judy? It says maintained by your friends at Strawberry Fields Forever. I feel at such a loss for words.
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It from us
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PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

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Till me meet again ~ I Love you Mike! You were one of a kind.
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Judy, thank you for providing us a place to share our thoughts, prayers and expressions of love and concern for Diane. You truly are a most special lady. Every thing you do comes from your heart. :wub:

I hope Diane will take some measure of comfort from everyone's thoughtful words. I just wish there was something more I could do. -_-




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((((Everyone)))) your helping Diane by being here for her. Encourage her to share stories of Johnny when she's up to it. And post your thoughts at the chronicle if you like. Your all a special group of friends to her.

Thank you to those who have signed the book and posted here to Diane.

PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

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I've just signed the guestbook.
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I hope the family will find some comfort in the guest book. Judy, you are a wonderful and thoughtful person for doing this. It's helping us, too.

When you are ready, Diane, we do want to hear stories about Johnny.
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Thanks to all of you who signed the paper guest book. It has meant a lot to me reading the lovely things that have been said.

I am really angry tonight. I guess this is my latest emotion to go through. I just don't get why bad people keep on living and the good get taken too young. :angry: I try to find a reason for this cruel fate but there is none. His wife is SO devastated and crying so much. It is such a horrible thing to happen to her. :cry:

The condolences from so many people has touched my heart and continues to help me. I feel very alone right now but I know there's a lot of people there for me.

I'm not sure what people want to know about Johnny. I will tell you this, he was an old soul and always related well to everyone. He was very generous and kind. He wasn't the popular jock but the guy that would take a girl to a dance so she'd have a date. He was a home-body and didn't go out a lot. He lived with us until he was 25 and loved to be here. Even after he got married, he was still coming to see me everyday. I knew I never would have to worry about what he was doing and he was very trustworthy and honest. We love him so so very much :cry:

I have not been sleeping so am exhausted beyond belief. I should end this and rest. I love you all.
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Oooh (((((Diane!))))))

I only just found out tonite. {early morning, Sept 10}. How horrible for you all. :cry: :cry: :cry: Six years ago I almost lost my only Nephew when he fell off a 40 foot cliff, & I barely got thru that. I can't imagine how you're coping.

While I'm hardly qualified to give advice, I will say one thing. Do NOT deny yourself your feelings. If you want to cry--cry. Scream--go ahead. It's ok to be angry too. This is the worst possible ordeal anyone can go thru, and the absolute worst for a Mother. NO one has the "right" to tell you how to act--or feel.

I wish I could say things will be the same again, but they won't. But, eventually, you will feel better. Just don't rush things.

PS: I signed the Guest Book.


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((((Laura)))) Thank you for your message. Like Paul said when he lost Linda, whoever was near him , he would cry and say I lost my wife......and cry, cry, cry. Yes whatever the emotion is for the day, let yourself feel it. Don't feel guilty. To lose a child is one of a parents worse night mare.

(((Diane))) Continue posting and let your feelings out. Where here to listen to you.

((((Love you)))
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((((Diane)))), yes...your emotions are going to run the gamut, and it is best to allow yourself your own way of expressing your grief.

I wish there was something I could say to ease your heartache, I know at this time it's beyond words for you, and that is understandable. But you have given us an insight into your wonderful son, and I can tell he was an outstanding person...you have a "right' to feel angry. Things seem very unfair in this life at times, I know.

I just want you to know that I care too, and my heart goes out to you!


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It is raining today and will be for the next 3 days. Tears from heaven it feels like. So very depressing, I hope I make it through. :cry:

I look outside at all the things Johnny did here this year. Remembrances. He transplanted about 6 trees from the woods....hickory, maple, and oak. All are growing strong. He planted grass seed in large areas all over the yard and it is all looking lush. I didn't like looking at the fuel oil tank at the back of the house and he put a fence around it. Two boards are left to be put on....that was typical of him. :sweet:

I'm worried about Andrew. He didn't come home last night and has been seen outside crying in the night. I drove to his girlfriend's house and he's there. Johnny was his best friend and he's so lost. I was so proud of how they were together. Johnny bought him a 73 Ford truck and they restored it together. The big yellow truck. It was a great experience for them. Tomorrow is Andrew's 21st birthday~~its hard having your birthday on Sept. 11 and will be especially hard this year. I wish I could think of something special for him.

Tanya was just here having breakfast with Jennifer and I. They are driving to Galena today, a place where Johnny and Tanya went a lot. She went to the county fair last night with Alyssa and cried a lot thinking of the many times they went there. We are there for her and will be forever, I'm sure.

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It is raining today and will be for the next 3 days. Tears from heaven it feels like. So very depressing, I hope I make it through. :cry:

I look outside at all the things Johnny did here this year. Remembrances. He transplanted about 6 trees from the woods....hickory, maple, and oak. All are growing strong. He planted grass seed in large areas all over the yard and it is all looking lush. I didn't like looking at the fuel oil tank at the back of the house and he put a fence around it. Two boards are left to be put on....that was typical of him. :sweet:

I'm worried about Andrew. He didn't come home last night and has been seen outside crying in the night. I drove to his girlfriend's house and he's there. Johnny was his best friend and he's so lost. I was so proud of how they were together. Johnny bought him a 73 Ford truck and they restored it together. The big yellow truck. It was a great experience for them. Tomorrow is Andrew's 21st birthday~~its hard having your birthday on Sept. 11 and will be especially hard this year. I wish I could think of something special for him.

Tanya was just here having breakfast with Jennifer and I. They are driving to Galena today, a place where Johnny and Tanya went a lot. She went to the county fair last night with Alyssa and cried a lot thinking of the many times they went there. We are there for her and will be forever, I'm sure.

Thanks for listening to me.

I can't stop myself to crying.

You are so kind and strong (((((Diane)))))) despite pain. You worry about everyone around you. Be sure many people has YOU in their thoughts.
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You and your family are still very much in my thoughts, Diane.
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It is raining today and will be for the next 3 days. Tears from heaven it feels like. So very depressing, I hope I make it through. :cry:

I look outside at all the things Johnny did here this year. Remembrances. He transplanted about 6 trees from the woods....hickory, maple, and oak. All are growing strong. He planted grass seed in large areas all over the yard and it is all looking lush. I didn't like looking at the fuel oil tank at the back of the house and he put a fence around it. Two boards are left to be put on....that was typical of him. :sweet:

I'm worried about Andrew. He didn't come home last night and has been seen outside crying in the night. I drove to his girlfriend's house and he's there. Johnny was his best friend and he's so lost. I was so proud of how they were together. Johnny bought him a 73 Ford truck and they restored it together. The big yellow truck. It was a great experience for them. Tomorrow is Andrew's 21st birthday~~its hard having your birthday on Sept. 11 and will be especially hard this year. I wish I could think of something special for him.

Tanya was just here having breakfast with Jennifer and I. They are driving to Galena today, a place where Johnny and Tanya went a lot. She went to the county fair last night with Alyssa and cried a lot thinking of the many times they went there. We are there for her and will be forever, I'm sure.

Thanks for listening to me.

I can really tell you how hard it is to loose your Best friend... I feel Andrews pain. My best friend was murdered about 5 years ago.. and I went through all the same emotions that Andrew went through. Just let him know that you love him, as Jamie, my friends mother did for me. I am still very close with her, and often meet up with her, just to chat!

Sending you all my love, thoughts and prayers
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Diane, we are here to listen whenever you feel like talking. It's natural, even healthy to feel anger. Your emotions are going to run the gamut -- let them!! It's all a part of the healing process.

I'm thinking of you and your family today, Diane. I wish I could reach out and give you a hug. :hug:




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Diane, I just read this thread. This is so sad, I can't find the words. You and your family are in my thoughts.
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I'd give anything to be with you right now so I could hold you while you cried.

You and your family are in my thoughts so much of the time. I remember all the feelings when my best friend died. Yes, I went through anger, too. :console:
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I'm so sorry to hear about your sad news :(

My thoughts and prayers are still with you & your family through this difficult time.
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Diane, here I sit crying again. I just watched your daughter's My Space tribute. The pictures and music are so beautiful. You can see the love.
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(((Diane))) Another raining day with tears. Tell Andrew HappY Birthday. I know it's hard to plan anything *HAPPY* during such a sad time. Is it possible to post the link to MYSPACE so others can see the tribute and pictures.

PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

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You and your family are still very much in my thoughts, Diane.

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I won't post the My Space address as Diane sent it to me in a PM, but I sat and cried as I watched it. It shows the two planes and the rainbow and I bawled like a baby.
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Everybody keep Andrew in your heart today. It's his 21st birthday and I know he wishes his best friend and brother could be here with him today. But I know he feels him in spirit. Yes, its hard to think happy but I HAVE to make myself do it for my living son. I'm just going through the motions anymore and NO, I'm not strong at all. I don't even know what I am anymore. I just can't talk anymore and I feel hard as stone. Immobile.

Those who want to see the tribute of my daughter's may. I apologize to anyone who is offended by the deer picture. My husband is a deer hunter but I think that might change now. He wants to leave the woods as a refuge now if that's any consolation.

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Everybody keep Andrew in your heart today. It's his 21st birthday and I know he wishes his best friend and brother could be here with him today. But I know he feels him in spirit. Yes, its hard to think happy but I HAVE to make myself do it for my living son. I'm just going through the motions anymore and NO, I'm not strong at all. I don't even know what I am anymore. I just can't talk anymore and I feel hard as stone. Immobile.

Those who want to see the tribute of my daughter's may. I apologize to anyone who is offended by the deer picture. My husband is a deer hunter but I think that might change now. He wants to leave the woods as a refuge now if that's any consolation.

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Thank you for sharing, Diane. The slideshow was moving, beyond words. What beautiful pictures. What a wonderful family you have. My heart is heavy with sorrow for you, I wish there was more I/we could do. My heart and thoughts are with Andrew today, on his 21st birthday. I wish there was something that could make his day happier. Love and hugs to you all.
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Diane, I am think so much of you and your family, wondering what it must be like to feel your pain, wishing we could carry some of it for you. I watched the beautiful tribute and it only confirmed how unfair his absence is and how cruel this world can be.

They say there is light at the end of the tunnel, but while you may never come to that point - where you have forgotten all your heartache and are free from all worry - the further down you travel, the more you will feel the warmth of the light coming through the gaps and holes in the tunnel. You may reach points where it gets cold and dark again but by then you will know how to get through them with peace and appreciation and your family and your friends will be there to help.

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Diane:

I am moved beyond words to read what you've written about your son. Your honesty in sharing your pain is so eloquent, and touching. King was very right in saying that professional assistance may be the most helpful thing you could seek at this time and Fiona was also right in saying you are entitled to feel anything.

Your loss is unfathomable and yet you are showing tremendous bravery and compassion both in the gift of life you and your family shared in the organ donation and in the simple act of your communications with us.

I hope that your posting here can offer you some consolation; I know I would be very glad to talk to you anytime about anything that could help. I know also that I'm most definitely one of many who feels that way too. I really wish that there was some way in which I could do something, but in the absence of that ability, know that I think of you and your family often and hope and pray for the best for you all.
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I've been thinking about Andrew today, Diane, as well as Johnny. I still cry when I watch the slide show on My Space. Your daughter did a great job with it.

Whatever you are feeling is okay, but don't be afraid to seek professional help if you feel the need. There are stages to grief and you haven't done them in this short of time frame. I went through all of them when my best friend died. My doctor had me buy a grief journal and it helped me through the various stages. Anger was definitely one of them, as well as the sorrow and the tears.

I wish there were more words I could offer you, but I no there were no words to comfort me.
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Diane, I just want you to know that I'm still thinking of you and your family. I signed the guestbook... what you wrote about your son is beautiful.

I hope that coming here and posting is some kind of consulation for you. Do know that even those of us who haven't had the opportunity to meet you in person do care.

I'm off to the myspace page... I'm sure the tears will be flowing.
Take care of YOU, PLEASE! You must be completely sleep deprived; please don't forget your health.

I hope somehow you and Andrew were able to get through this difficult birthday with some sort of peace and serenity.
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Diane, just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you and your family today. So much shared grief today. I'm so sorry that your son Andrew has to spend his 21st birthday carrying such a heavy loss in his heart. You're such a special mom to put his feelings first.

I lost my mom the day before my birthday, and we buried her the day before my sister's birthday. This all happened 2 weeks before Christmas. I have an idea of how hard this all must be and I'm so sorry you're having to endure so much pain.

Fiona said it so beautifully -- you are entitled to feel anything. We're all here if you choose to share. :hug:




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Thank you, all of you wonderful ladies.

We got through the birthday and Andrew put on a happy face. We didn't do anything different but the traditional dinner, cake, and presents. When he was told to make a wish, he just sat there with this sad look....I know what he was wishing. We were able to share certain memories of Johnny and laugh a little instead of crying the whole time. Of course Tanya was with us and I know we felt Johnny there.

Trips away are being planned and maybe that distraction will help some of them to work through their grieving.

(((Tassy))) and (((Barb))) I received your cards yesterday and I'm really touched that you went to that effort to comfort us. Thank you, thank you.

(((Betsy))) The candle you sent is so beautiful with such a lovely verse. It came during a rough moment for me and was so helpful. Thank you, Betsy.
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To those of you who signed the guest book~~~

I showed it to Tanya last night since she didn't know about it and explained who all of you are. She was deeply touched by your messages and honored that you would be kind enough to do this. Thank you so much ((Judy)) for sponsoring this for us. It is very meaningful to the family.

I see this morning that she has put a message on there as well as a picture of them. They had some lovely wedding pictures taken outside. This all has just broken my heart :cry:

The guest book can be seen at www.daily-chronicle.com and click on obituaries.
And in the end...The love you take..Is equal to the love you make.


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