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| 34 Years Ago This Sunday; sad day for me | |
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| waitingforatrim | Aug 25 2006, 01:36 PM Post #1 |
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You all are my friends and I feel comfortable enough to share this with you. 34 years ago this Sunday, I lost my best friend Paul to a brain hemmorage. It was the first day of our Junior year in high school, and after school, he had walked over to his Grandmother's house to do a little outside painting. He was up on a ladder when the hemmorage happened, and the Doctor's say he was dead before he hit the ground. Paul's Mother and my Mother were also best friends and were in each other's weddings. Paul was born on the 6th of October, and I came along 18 days later. We were in the same class in grade school, but when time came for middle school, we had to go to different ones. After 2 years, though, we were back together thick as theives. Until that August day in 1972. Even though it's been 34 years, I still miss him. And I think of him often. So I'll lay flowers on his grave this Sunday and say a prayer for him, even though sometimes I wonder if I'm really praying for myself. I'm sure he's in a much better place. I guess we can make this a thread where anyone who has lost someone special can share their thoughts and feeling. |
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| Bill | Aug 25 2006, 01:43 PM Post #2 |
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Thank you for sharing Tim, and trusting us. We share your sorrow.
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| Merry | Aug 25 2006, 01:46 PM Post #3 |
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I'm so sorry, ((((Tim))))! I understand how losing your best friend can still effect you so deeply. At least he didn't suffer. Thank you for entrusting us with this...my heart goes out to you! Merry |
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| Deleted User | Aug 25 2006, 01:54 PM Post #4 |
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I am sorry, Tim. I can hardly imagine what it's like to lose a close friend but I know friendships like that can be hard to find. I wish you a peaceful Sunday. |
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| MaccasGirl | Aug 25 2006, 01:59 PM Post #5 |
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Best friends like that always live on in our hearts. He's gone but you will never forget him and he'll always be a part of you. I'm very sorry for your loss, Tim. Thanks for sharing your story with us.
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| BeatleBarb | Aug 25 2006, 02:27 PM Post #6 |
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Thanks for sharing, Tim. Sounds like you two were as close as could be. I know how it is to lose your best friend. I lost my best friend, Beth, on July 4, 1979. She was 25 years old. We were inseperable all throughout school. In fact, we even looked alike and once in awhile we would switch classes when we could get away with it in the beginning of the school year. I still miss her greatly as you do your friend. |
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| BikerLikeAnIcon | Aug 25 2006, 02:40 PM Post #7 |
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Sorry Tim.
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| maccascruff | Aug 25 2006, 02:44 PM Post #8 |
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I lost my best friend on November 14, 1986. We were 35 and had been best friends since junior high. She was cremated and her ashes are in some Arizona mountains. So, I do my own private thing on the anniversary of her death every year. I still miss Wanda as much as you miss your best friend. It will never go away, although the crying I did for a year has passed, I still think of her often. |
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| waitingforatrim | Aug 25 2006, 03:33 PM Post #9 |
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Thank you all for your kind remarks. I feel so lucky to have so many friends here! It's weird in a way, because my best friend will always be 16. He never grew old, and always retained that "teenager/child-like" quality that you lose after a certain age. Thanks again!! |
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| tinybubbleca | Aug 25 2006, 03:38 PM Post #10 |
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((((TIM))) as i have shared with you before... i lost my beatuiful best friend as well.. only a 5 very short years ago.. and the pain... espeically around the anniversary of her death... is always hurt so much... and I dont think that pain will ever go away. One of the things that hurts more then anything is when people say time heals all wounds.. you need to move on. How do you move on from losing someone you love so deeply. Someone who you CHOSE to be in your life... a friend is a family that you choose... No.. you dont move on.. you move forward. (((Tim))) you will be deep in my thoughts this weekend.. as well as Paul.. and all the peoples life that Paul touched. |
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| Queenbee | Aug 25 2006, 04:12 PM Post #11 |
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(((Tim)) Sorry to hear of your friend who past away at such a young age. Your just learning to deal with your emotions on an adult level and to have to deal with death of a best friend has to be so heart breaking. And like someone said he will be young forever in your heart. Thank you for trusting us a memory so close to your heart. |
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| waitingforatrim | Aug 25 2006, 04:29 PM Post #12 |
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Thanks, Anna and Judy. Anna, I know after only 5 years for you that your hurt is still in the forefront. Hang in there, I know what you're going through. Yes I still hurt, but in a way after all this time, it doesn't ache and sting like it used to. After 34 years it's like a dull ache. And it's always there. Thanks again, ladies. |
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| manon | Aug 26 2006, 03:25 AM Post #13 |
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Tim, I know you will never forget your friend. He will always be in your memories. My thoughts are with you. manon |
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| Sandra | Aug 26 2006, 10:13 AM Post #14 |
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Tim a good friendshhip is a very special relationship and I feel very sad for the loss of your friend. |
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| maccascruff | Aug 26 2006, 08:37 PM Post #15 |
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Tim, you are very right about the dull ache. For me, it will always be here. You are also right about the aging. Wanda will always be 35 and now I'm 54, with gray hair. She is youthful compared to me. In the pictures from our last visit (the spring before she died), we both look so young. And she is gone from this earth and every November, I cry and cry. I will never forget and that dull ache is always with me. I remember how I used to dread going to sleep because I would dream about her and wake up crying. Then one night, I had a dream about her and woke up with a smile on my face. I could finally remember the good times without all the tears. I could finally remember without thinking about the funeral. I could finally remember our good times together. I'll be thinking about you tomorrow. |
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| FamousGroupie | Aug 26 2006, 11:32 PM Post #16 |
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(((Tim))), I'm so sorry, thank you for sharing that with us. I'm lucky in that I've never really lost anyone close to me in a very long time, 27 years. I was only four years old when my Grandad suddenly passed away at the age of 60 on 2 September 1979. He suffered a massive heart attack and my Gran found him lying on the steps, obviously trying to climb them to get help. He died on Father's Day, and two days before my fourth birthday. I was the only grandchild at the time he passed, I sometimes wonder what he would have thought of my younger brother and sister, and especially of my daughter. I like to think he's looking over her.
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| JeffLynnesBeard | Aug 26 2006, 11:39 PM Post #17 |
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I just saw this thread Tim and thank you for sharing this with us. It's admirable and very telling that you still remember your friend so vividly and this date 34 years on. It's always very sad when someone is taken before they had a chance to really live their life, but they always live on in our hearts & memories. |
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| youngformyage | Aug 27 2006, 03:13 PM Post #18 |
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I'm sorry for you Tim and I'll be thinking of you. |
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| LITTLE LAURA | Aug 27 2006, 07:08 PM Post #19 |
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I feel for you too, Tim. I lost the best friend I ever had, November 1989. Tho she'd been just diagnosed with terminal Cancer, what she actually died of, quite unexpectedly, was something else entirely, & horribly, different. Right in front of me. Just goes to show that even when you think you DO know your fate, you still don't. The whole experience was ghastly. Right after her cancer diagnosis, she'd asked to be reunited with her biological family--who'd abandoned her when she was just a toddler. They took right over when she died so unexpectedly. I was suddenly a non-person as far as they were concerned, and I was shoved out of all the planning & decisions by people who hadn't cared less about her just 6 weeks before. I got lost at the cemetery, [or rather the driver did], yet they couldn't even wait 10 lousy minutes for me to catch up & join them. As a matter of fact the graveside part of the service was so short, it was already over & they were leaving when we finally found which end of this huge cemetery it was at. [no one had bothered to tell me or the driver exactly where. I think that was actually intended.]. I used to visit her grave every month for the next 4-5 years. I don't go now. But I still miss her terribly. Someone once said that just like in "Anne Of Green Gables", we were truly kindred spirits. You just don't get over losing someone like that. |
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| tinybubbleca | Aug 27 2006, 08:13 PM Post #20 |
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Thinking of you today TIM! |
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| kink | Aug 27 2006, 08:29 PM Post #21 |
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I am sorry. Thanks for sharing. |
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| bluemeanie | Aug 27 2006, 08:36 PM Post #22 |
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thinking of you Tim
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| beatlechick | Aug 27 2006, 08:59 PM Post #23 |
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Hope you are doing okay, Tim.
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| maccascruff | Aug 27 2006, 10:39 PM Post #24 |
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I've been thinking about you all day, Tim. How you doing?
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| waitingforatrim | Aug 29 2006, 12:51 PM Post #25 |
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I want to take this opportunity to thank everyone for their thoughts, prayers, and good wishes. Sunday was a day of reflection for me, and wondering what might have been. Thanks again...you all are terrific!!! |
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| maccascruff | Aug 29 2006, 02:46 PM Post #26 |
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Hope we helped you with the day, Tim. |
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| waitingforatrim | Aug 29 2006, 02:56 PM Post #27 |
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You sure did!! It's strange how things happen. I've enjoyed music all my life, but it wasn't until after my friend Paul died that I bought myself a cheap acoustic guitar (Sears Silvertone!) and taught myself how to play. It became my therapy. I'd come home from school, do my homework, and play that thing sometime until my fingers bled. I don't know how I would have dealt with his death if it wasn't for that outlet. |
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