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Age differences in relationships
Topic Started: Jul 11 2006, 12:57 PM (2,383 Views)
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I was wondering what everyone else thinks about this subject?

I have always been attracted to older men and am in a relationhip with one now. Society in general is quite disapproving and I am wondering what the general consensus here is?
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How big of a difference in age? If you're 20 dating a sixty year old, I can see most people disapproving. It just depends on how wide the gap is.
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Well, I think it's disgraceful.
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MaccaByrd
Jul 11 2006, 01:47 PM
Well, I think it's disgraceful.

LoL!!

Say a difference of 20-25 years? Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas are still happy and together...

Of course, there are limits.
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When I was 24 I was seeing a 44 year old. The downside for him was that everyone thought I was his daughter cause I looked real young at the time. Everything was going alright until my sister commented he had teeth like Dad....that did it for me!! :wacko:
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Jul 11 2006, 01:49 PM
LoL!!

Say a difference of 20-25 years? Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas are still happy and together...

Not to mention Paul McCartney and Heather... Oh, right. Nevermind.
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Jul 11 2006, 01:51 PM
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Jul 11 2006, 01:49 PM
LoL!!

Say a difference of 20-25 years?  Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas are still happy and together...

Not to mention Paul McCartney and Heather... Oh, right. Nevermind.

Hence I didn't mention it. :blush:

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My views on age difference...

I think that as long as both parties involved are happy then there shouldn't be a problem. To me, age is just a number and you are only as old as you feel. I have always been in a relationship with an older man whether that be 5 years older up to 25 years older. My husband to be is 10 years older than me and it has never bothered us once. We are both happy, in love and have a lot in common so it's not a problem to us.

I say 3 cheers to everyone in an age-gap relationship! ;)
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Thanks for your input, Nat. :D
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Jul 11 2006, 03:05 PM
Thanks for your input, Nat. :D

No problem Lauren. Glad to put my 2 peneth in :D
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I've always been attracted to slightly older women. The most satisfying relationship that I was ever inwas with a woman who was (and still is) 9 years older than me.

When we met, she was 34 and I was 25. I was concerned about what my friends and family would think, but almost everyone was very supportive. While she and I are no longer in a relationship, we remain friends. She'll turn 59 next month while I'll turn the big 5-0!
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Cool. :D
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I've never found myself attracted to men 20 years or so older than me--maybe up to 10 years, but nothing more. I would think there are potential problems over the age issue.
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Jul 11 2006, 02:33 PM
I've never found myself attracted to men 20 years or so older than me--maybe up to 10 years, but nothing more. I would think there are potential problems over the age issue.

I tend to agree with you. My father married someone younger than me and she really became his caretaker. They had a decent relationship, but I always felt like she was missing out and eventually they split up.
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All of my serious relationships have been with men at least 20 years older than me. And by serious I mean it did not end as soon as the condom came off.
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I like the calmness and stability that comes with older men. They're less possessive but more protective and caring. And more sensitive and interesting.
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Jul 11 2006, 02:45 PM
I like the calmness and stability that comes with older men. They're less possessive but more protective and caring. And more sensitive and interesting.

Ahhh yes....the calmness from all those meds and the stability a walker provides.... :D
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Watch it or YOU'll need the meds and walking aids. :P
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Jul 11 2006, 02:59 PM
Watch it or YOU'll need the meds and walking aids. :P

Are you kidding....I'm already there! :P
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who cares just as long as the individuals involved are happy then who is everyone to judge what they do.
A lot of the world has fixed ideas and opinions which really need to be altered because they just sit their and judge.A couple with a 20 year gap for example could be a perfect couple but a couple with a 20 month gap or whatever could be unhappy.

Its about their 2 personalities together not their age.
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Very nice post, DCBeatle.


I miss yankees545454. :P
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As long as both parties are of legal age and consenting adults, I say age is just a number and you are only as old as you feel. My hubby is 6 years older than me, which isn't much now, but when he was 18, I was only 12!

I refuse to let age matter to me. On another note, I'll be 30 next month and Paul is giving me a hard time about it. He wants to make me feel old, but I just DON'T!
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Jul 11 2006, 11:29 AM



I miss yankees545454. :P

I'll bet you do! :lol:
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I "prefer" older men. Guys my age are ... well its a given what guys my age are!!! (i am in my mid 20's). 10 years older is good for me. But I am also with Kat on this one. AGE is just a number. I was very much.... well i cant say I was "in love" but had very strong feelings for a guy who was actually older then my dad. He was smart, funny, tallented, romantic, compassionate... everything a girl would want in a guy... just in a older body. And NO, he didnt have money. I truely believe that love is blind.. it sees no age, race, color or creed... if you LOVE that person.. all that stuff is in the background.


Now... where can I snag me a man... in his mid 30's, single, tall, and funny... anyone got some single brothers or cousins they can throw my way ;)


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I don't think age is relevent. Not just in relationships but in any sense. It is a matter of attitiude and ability.
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Jul 11 2006, 09:47 AM
I don't think age is relevent. Not just in relationships but in any sense. It is a matter of attitiude and ability.
^_^

i feel that I am a very old soul... even when I was a child, i related to adults more then I did kids my own age.. always have been that way..;)

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I'd would see only one problem with me dating a much younger woman.....my wife. :(
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Jul 11 2006, 11:47 AM
I don't think age is relevent. Not just in relationships but in any sense. It is a matter of attitiude and ability.
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AMEN! I wish you could talk to my hubby. He thinks he has one foot in the grave at the age of 35. I hear "I'm getting old" at least once a day. It drives me insane!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Well I can sympathise with this, me and my wife have almost eight weeks between us.
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Jul 11 2006, 04:48 PM
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Jul 11 2006, 09:47 AM
I don't think age is relevent. Not just in relationships but in any sense. It is a matter of attitiude and ability.
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i feel that I am a very old soul... even when I was a child, i related to adults more then I did kids my own age.. always have been that way..;)

Are you an only child Anna?
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Jul 11 2006, 04:48 PM
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I don't think age is relevent. Not just in relationships but in any sense. It is a matter of attitiude and ability.
^_^

i feel that I am a very old soul... even when I was a child, i related to adults more then I did kids my own age.. always have been that way..;)

Are you an only child Anna?

no.. but i am the youngest of two older brothers
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Now I remember you mentioning that before - it can be good to have a wise head on young shoulders a great combination. :)
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Ok~looks like I'm the odd woman out....
I always go for younger men. My husband was 6 years younger than me, and in Feb I ended a relationship with a man 7 years younger.

I haven't been with someone my age since high school.....
Hmm...cradle robber, is that the name for it? :blush:
Sure is fun, though! :hyper:
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There's a 12 year age gap between my parents, and they've been happily married for 16 years. They are one of the happiest couples I know :D

I wished I could save her in some sort of time machine.
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Jul 11 2006, 09:20 PM
There's a 12 year age gap between my parents, and they've been happily married for 16 years. They are one of the happiest couples I know :D

The parents in the band? :boogie: Yay for them! :wub:
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There's a 12 year age gap between my parents, and they've been happily married for 16 years. They are one of the happiest couples I know  :D

The parents in the band? :boogie: Yay for them! :wub:

A family that plays together, stays together ^_^
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Wait - there's 12 years between Andy and I... This gives me an idea!


(We're adopting Emilee!)
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Well, here's another clue for you all, the Walrus was Paul...
No matter the age...just follow your heart. :wub:

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I see no problem with age gap if you love each other and are happy. Of course family and friends may think it odd.
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I was 16 when I met my husband to be and he was 24. Needless to say our families were bitterly opposed to us being together. 32 years later his mom is still waiting to say , "I told you she was too young for you and it wouldn`t work out". :D
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My first "real" friend was 15 years elder than me... I was 21 and he was 36. It didn't matter to me than.. and if my husband would be that elder it wouldn*t matter now. But when I met that guy last month he was 52 and he looked OLD! Maybe I would have looked at him in a different way when we were still a couple,,but I was really astonished to see that I once loved that guy!
When you love a person age doesn't mater - my best friend is married to a guy that is 17 years elder - it's not easy all the time, as he thinks different about some things and he is for example very, very anxious with their child!! - but it does not matter anyway! It's love, so what??

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Jul 11 2006, 04:55 PM
Well I can sympathise with this, me and my wife have almost eight weeks between us.

You must face a lot of predjudice.
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My mum was 17 when she met my dad.He was 25.She was 21 when they had me and 23 when they had my sister.They got married a year after my sister was born.(If they hadnt had us I dont think they would have got married)My parents were together until I was 11 when mum went with a guy who was 10 years older than her then 2 years later they split up and shes been with a guy whos 16 years older than her. I dont think hes anymore mature-Hes a big kid in reality but hes alright.Better than the last guy lets just say.

Point of this is my mum is into older guys thats probably why I dont see it as an issue and in reality I think I prefer older guys.Although I was talking to friends about ti recently and they all said 5 years is their limit,but I think thats silly because its not as if you can meet someone, like them then find out they are a bit over your age limit and say sorry it would have been great if you were a bit younger.That aint how love works
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Jul 11 2006, 07:57 AM
I was wondering what everyone else thinks about this subject?

I have always been attracted to older men and am in a relationhip with one now. Society in general is quite disapproving and I am wondering what the general consensus here is?

I think its COOL~love sees no age color or any of that
ill be 32 thursday my husband will be 42 in october~ :lol: :boogie:
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There was a three year difference between my husband and myself, he was the elder.

Since my divorce, I haven't dated anyone older than myself, in fact I prefer younger men. Well except for that one mess up last year, those that I've gone out with have been at least a few years younger than me, all the way to a decade or more.

I actually like younger men because many are too set in their ways once they get around MY age, plus they're a heck of a lot more fun! ;)

But I agree too...you need to follow your heart, age is but a number.

One huge regret I have now is that I gave up a man who was younger than me for the jerk that I met on the internet! He could see me, hear me and touch me, and like a dummy I dumped him over...one among many big mistakes in my life! :hmm:


:) Merry


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I have almost always dated men older than me. Most have been around 10 years older. I have tried dating men my age and even one that was younger and it never worked.

I even dated a man that was a lot older than me, it was working out wonderfully until he moved on the road for a job. I still talk to him and who knows, maybe if he ever moves back things could work out.

I don't see any problem with age difference, it's all in the mind to me.
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Jul 11 2006, 01:59 PM
Ok~looks like I'm the odd woman out....
I always go for younger men. My husband was 6 years younger than me, and in Feb I ended a relationship with a man 7 years younger.

I haven't been with someone my age since high school.....
Hmm...cradle robber, is that the name for it? :blush:
Sure is fun, though!  :hyper:

OMG -- same here! :blush:
You're not the only one. I have only ever dated one person who was older than me, and he was only 8 months older!
My husband is six years younger than me, and we've never had any problems... B)
What a long, strange trip it's been....
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Jul 11 2006, 07:34 PM
 
My husband is six years younger than me, and we've never had any problems...  B)

And I have met him and he is one really nice man. ^_^
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Awwww... thanks, Linda! I think so too... :wub:
What a long, strange trip it's been....
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Well, George was very nice to me and I liked him. I know you love him and he loves you, Lisa. :D
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My suggestion about this is: date and marry people who are the same age as you. It's call being responsible and using discernment. My uncle married a woman twenty years his junior. He was fifty and she was thirty. Last year he had a stroke. Now she is his caretaker. It is a living hell for her because she is now only a young sixty something and he is nearing eighty. She can't leave because she feels obligated to him, etc. Things happen you wouldn't otherwise think about. So, only date people your own age. This in itself is difficult enough.
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Jul 11 2006, 04:50 PM
I'd would see only one problem with me dating a much younger woman.....my wife. :(

And that's a VERY good reason not to. LOL

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Jul 11 2006, 01:59 PM
Ok~looks like I'm the odd woman out....
I always go for younger men. My husband was 6 years younger than me, and in Feb I ended a relationship with a man 7 years younger.

I haven't been with someone my age since high school.....
Hmm...cradle robber, is that the name for it? :blush:
Sure is fun, though!  :hyper:

OMG -- same here! :blush:
You're not the only one. I have only ever dated one person who was older than me, and he was only 8 months older!
My husband is six years younger than me, and we've never had any problems... B)

When I divorced, most of the men were 5-10 years older than me, maybe even a few 12 years older. Then I met my husband and he is 7 1/2 years younger than me, never married, engaged, no children. He asked me to marry him 3 or 4 days after I met him(told him he was nuts). He said from the moment he saw me he knew I was the one. We were married 3 1/2 months after we met with a double wedding with my sister and brother-in-law. We've been married this September 15th- 16 years and we are happy and he is my King and I his Queen.

The funny part is when we compare lives before we met. When he was graduating from high school, I just gave birth to my 3rd child. I feel like I went backwards in the age by a dozen years.I never dated anyone younger before him. He has a heart of a child and usually wakes up singing every morning with a cup of coffee or tea for me. He makes me breakfast every morning and has the kindest heart. I think maturity and respect and trust for each other are more important than age.
Without that, no matter what age you are, you'll have problems.


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Jul 12 2006, 02:41 AM
My suggestion about this is: date and marry people who are the same age as you. It's call being responsible and using discernment. My uncle married a woman twenty years his junior. He was fifty and she was thirty. Last year he had a stroke. Now she is his caretaker. It is a living hell for her because she is now only a young sixty something and he is nearing eighty. She can't leave because she feels obligated to him, etc. Things happen you wouldn't otherwise think about. So, only date people your own age. This in itself is difficult enough.

I don't think it's usually that simple. If you're a person who follows their heart when it comes to love (which I think is the smart thing to do, funnily enough) you decide whether or not you like a person first and ask the technical questions like age later. To reject someone you have a real connection with because you've just found out that they're a year over your 'limit' could be passing up a once in a lifetime opportunity. Yes, dating someone signifigantly older than you could present some problems in the future but that's entirely different than dating within the same age group as yourself.
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I disagree pretty birdie. Your heart and emotions can lead you down Primrose Lane and mislead you, destroying your life. As I said, things you wouldn't think of can come up all of a sudden - every relationship is unique, it's just a matter of fact. I dated a woman who was forty and I was twent-five. She came down with breast cancer and then developed dementia because of hormone replacement therapy and birth control pills. She had been the picture of health up till then. You just don't realize the things that can happen. Well, here I was in my early forties going through what men usually go through in their sixties and seventies. So, asking the technical things later is a mistake. Following your heart is not always a good idea. Your heart can decieve you. Sometimes, we must think of ourselves first, sadly, at the expense of other's. It's not pretty, but it's a fact. I know. I've been there, and you don't want to be where I was.
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Bless your heart Cord, sounds as if you had some really rough stuff to go through. I`m really sorry that you had to go through all of that, but before your lady got ill was your relationship not good. If it was then I`m sure that must give you some measure of comfort. Fact is though that no matter what the age difference is things can happen in the blink of an eye to change everything that you have imagined and dreamed of for yourself and your relationship with your significant other. There are no guarantees in life and if you are lucky enough to find true love at all, in my opinion, you shouldn`t let a thing like age get in the way. I really do believe in the adage that it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
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Jul 12 2006, 12:08 AM
I disagree pretty birdie. Your heart and emotions can lead you down Primrose Lane and mislead you, destroying your life. As I said, things you wouldn't think of can come up all of a sudden - every relationship is unique, it's just a matter of fact. I dated a woman who was forty and I was twent-five. She came down with breast cancer and then developed dementia because of hormone replacement therapy and birth control pills. She had been the picture of health up till then. You just don't realize the things that can happen. Well, here I was in my early forties going through what men usually go through in their sixties and seventies. So, asking the technical things later is a mistake. Following your heart is not always a good idea. Your heart can decieve you. Sometimes, we must think of ourselves first, sadly, at the expense of other's. It's not pretty, but it's a fact. I know. I've been there, and you don't want to be where I was.

I'm sorry about the sad experience you went through, Gary!

At least you stood by her and that is quite admirable, some men would never have done that (okay, some women wouldn't either).

Some people are quite shallow and look for their youth in the partners they choose later in life. They can't accept their own age, or what comes with it, so they only look for much younger people to satisfy their desires and to show the world the "trophy" they have claimed. I hope that's not the impression I gave in my last post.

For me, I prefer dating younger men because those in my own age group tend to start looking for the much younger women. I strike some people as looking a little younger than I actually am, so I don't lie about it, but I don't go out of my way to proclaim it, either. If someone asks me out and it's mutually agreeable, I will take him up on it. But often the subject comes up, and with two grown sons, it's pretty hard to hide my age. I've found that men get upset about that, as if I'm trying to pull something, when that isn't my intention, whatsoever!

So, I don't try to judge a person strictly by their age, but would rather go by their personality and what's within their heart, really.

It seems as if I find more of the shallower men for some reason, though. :hmm:


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I disagree pretty birdie. Your heart and emotions can lead you down Primrose Lane and mislead you, destroying your life. As I said, things you wouldn't think of can come up all of a sudden - every relationship is unique, it's just a matter of fact. I dated a woman who was forty and I was twent-five. She came down with breast cancer and then developed dementia because of hormone replacement therapy and birth control pills. She had been the picture of health up till then. You just don't realize the things that can happen. Well, here I was in my early forties going through what men usually go through in their sixties and seventies. So, asking the technical things later is a mistake. Following your heart is not always a good idea. Your heart can decieve you. Sometimes, we must think of ourselves first, sadly, at the expense of other's. It's not pretty, but it's a fact. I know. I've been there, and you don't want to be where I was.

I'm sorry about the sad experience you went through, Gary!

At least you stood by her and that is quite admirable, some men would never have done that (okay, some women wouldn't either).

Some people are quite shallow and look for their youth in the partners they choose later in life. They can't accept their own age, or what comes with it, so they only look for much younger people to satisfy their desires and to show the world the "trophy" they have claimed. I hope that's not the impression I gave in my last post.

For me, I prefer dating younger men because those in my own age group tend to start looking for the much younger women. I strike some people as looking a little younger than I actually am, so I don't lie about it, but I don't go out of my way to proclaim it, either. If someone asks me out and it's mutually agreeable, I will take him up on it. But often the subject comes up, and with two grown sons, it's pretty hard to hide my age. I've found that men get upset about that, as if I'm trying to pull something, when that isn't my intention, whatsoever!

So, I don't try to judge a person strictly by their age, but would rather go by their personality and what's within their heart, really.

It seems as if I find more of the shallower men for some reason, though. :hmm:


:) Merry

My point is this Merry and Birdie:

You can't help who you fall in love with. Period. I only dated the girl I was seeing, we never married. I've never been married and I'm in my mid forties. I did not want to fall in love with her, but it happened - I started caring tremendously. After that, you can't get out no matter what you do, i.e., if you really love her. Anyway, my point is, date who you want to, it doesn't matter if they're fifty years older, but be careful. If you fall in love, you're sunk. You become one with them. It can't be helped, it's human nature. Love can upset the rest of your life if you're not careful. Date them with your mind, not your heart. If you're a kid, go for it, but with someone your own age. Don't take their years upon yours - you'll get your own soon enough. luv ya -gary
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I've always been attracted to older men - 35 to 45 years old. They just seem more appreciative of you and not so keen just to get you into bed. They are usually well established in their careers and lifestyles and just want someone to share it.

My grandparents had an age gap of fifteen years. My Nan is 73, and my Pa would have been 88.

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Well Gary, I still think it's wonderful of you to have stuck by your lady that way! I've learned the hard way that some men (and women) can easily extricate themselves from a relationship with little more than it takes to get over a case of gas...inotherwords, their level of commitment wasn't as deep as yours. Maybe I'm making a big deal of that because I'm still amazed how I have managed to come across those who just don't seem to have a heart.

I hope that time will heal yours, Gary...I feel so badly for you! We can't control who we will fall in love with, or their age, but pain and sorrow can come no matter how old you are. To me, it's the level of honest commitment, and yes...love, that makes a true relationship.

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Bless your heart Cord, sounds as if you had some really rough stuff to go through.  I`m really sorry that you had to go through all of that, but before your lady got ill was your relationship not good.  If it was then I`m sure that must give you some measure of comfort.  Fact is though that no matter what the age difference is things can happen in the blink of an eye to change everything that you have imagined and dreamed of for yourself and your relationship with your significant other.  There are no guarantees in life and if you are lucky enough to find true love at all, in my opinion, you shouldn`t let a thing like age get in the way.  I really do believe in the adage that it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

Sorry honey, I overlooked your post. Yea I've been through it - thanks for your thoughtful words. My girlfriend and I had a perfect relationship until the worry and anguish started. Love means caring - you don't know what love truly is until the worry strikes. They say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, - well, I disagree, worry only crushes your spirit. There's nothing positive about it. And yes, things happen in life no matter who you are or your circumstances, but if you can, avoid what you can. Love, like life, is only an experience. Don't over-rate love. My advice is to keep an eye on it at all times. Something this strong can be a great positive emotion, but it can also be decieving and destroy. "Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all"? I say: Anyone who can get through this life without loving and losing it isn't human.
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There are people of all ages who have caring thrust upon them Gary, from young children caring for sick parents, to elderly people caring for spouses and everything in between. :(
It's a very tough and exhausting job. It takes time to retore your spirit but I wouldn't say it is a reason to miss out on a chance at love because of - what if...
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Simon says, love everyone.  They might love you back.

In the end, the love you take, yadda yadda, her Majesty's a pretty nice girl.

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I don't think age is relevent. Not just in relationships but in any sense. It is a matter of attitiude and ability.
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i feel that I am a very old soul... even when I was a child, i related to adults more then I did kids my own age.. always have been that way..;)

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I forgot to say that there is 15 years between my mum and dad (mum is 51 and dad is 66) and there was 11 years between my grandad and grandma (grandma was the older one) and that didn't mean a thing to them. As long as you are happy, that's all that matters :)
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I am glad that people are generally being positive about it. Very refreshing and somewhat surprising to be honest.
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As I said earlier, I went with someone who was twenty years older. I also married someone 10 years older and someone 6 years younger...no, not at the same time.

I've also dated someone quite a bit younger and age never really entered into the success or failure of the relationship...usually something else like the fact they were jerks usually took its toll. :D
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I've always had a thing for older men... :blush: :devil:
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I've always had a thing for older men... :blush: :devil:

Aww me too Lauren! :) Peas in a pod we are :lol:
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I've always had a thing for older men... :blush:  :devil:

Aww me too Lauren! :) Peas in a pod we are :lol:

How true. :) I like the character that a few lines can give a man's face. And there's something about peppered, greying hair too... :devil: :blush: :wub:
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Yeah, I use to like older men too...but at my age now, older men are usually just dead!!
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Yeah, I use to like older men too...but at my age now, older men are usually just dead!!

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:huh: Now.....that's just sad. :(
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Yeah, I use to like older men too...but at my age now, older men are usually just dead!!

LOL! Same here, Barb!

You know, to say something like "Age doesn't matter" is really an oversimplification. Of course, age can matter...but if you are compatible with the other person on other things, it will not matter...so much.

I have been both the younger woman and the older woman in a relationship. Age did enter into the picture. How can it not? Your life experiences, your cultural references, will be different. But that doesn't mean a relationship can't work.

I happen to feel most comfortable in a relationship with someone close to my own age.

And isn't it interesting how most of the posts on this thread discussed the older man-younger woman sort of relationship? Older women-younger men partnerships are valid too!!!
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I agree with you poster child. Age does enter into the relationship just like so many other factors. It may not be an all encompassing component, but it is part of who you are and with age comes life experiences, frame of reference, etc.

I tend to agree with you about wanting someone around my own age group. I don't want to rob the cradle, but I also don't want to be a nurse maid!

I still can't understand why I was once too young for the likes of Paul McCartney and now I'm too old. Not that I ever had a chance, but you get my point!
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I tend to go for guys about 2-3 years older than me. At this moment in time, I probably wouldn't date a man over 40 (I'm 27). I'd like to have someone who I can relate too in terms of finding a career, not too sure about marriage, paying off college loans, etc... and most older men are already long past that. So for me it's not age so much, but compatibility.


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I agree with you poster child. Age does enter into the relationship just like so many other factors. It may not be an all encompassing component, but it is part of who you are and with age comes life experiences, frame of reference, etc.

I tend to agree with you about wanting someone around my own age group. I don't want to rob the cradle, but I also don't want to be a nurse maid!

I still can't understand why I was once too young for the likes of Paul McCartney and now I'm too old. Not that I ever had a chance, but you get my point!

I was thinking the same thing, Barb!!!! :lol: :lol:


I've been in a relationship with the same man for the last 13 years and I guess you could call me a cradle-robber. . . . I'm 13 years older than he. :) :)


When we were first seeing each other, I told him that I didn't think it would work, but he convinced me to give it a chance and to ignore what other people might think. Oddly, I was the one who was worried . . . he had no problems at all with it!!He said he found me more interesting than women his age. :)





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I tend to go for guys about 2-3 years older than me. At this moment in time, I probably wouldn't date a man over 40 (I'm 27). I'd like to have someone who I can relate too in terms of finding a career, not too sure about marriage, paying off college loans, etc... and most older men are already long past that. So for me it's not age so much, but compatibility.


~Mary~

I'm with Mary. I'm very lucky to have a boyfriend who's three months older than me because it makes everything so much easier for us. We're both in the same situation in life, trying find what we want, careers, colleges, ect., so when one of us has a stumbling block, the other can relate and help out. I've dated guys who were 12 years older, 7 years (that wasn't so bad because it was still pretty close). The 12 years was odd for me, he all ready had a kid from a past relationship, around the same age as my older brother, liked a lot of things I knew nothing about. Finally it got to the point that I saw he really wanted me for sex and I got out of that. I would recommend staying close to your age at times just so you don't feel you're being taken for a ride.
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In the end, the love you take, yadda yadda, her Majesty's a pretty nice girl.

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Simon says, love everyone.  They might love you back.

In the end, the love you take, yadda yadda, her Majesty's a pretty nice girl.

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I'm used to age differences in my family so it really doesn't bother me.
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I've always had a thing for older men... :blush:  :devil:

Aww me too Lauren! :) Peas in a pod we are :lol:

How true. :) I like the character that a few lines can give a man's face. And there's something about peppered, greying hair too... :devil: :blush: :wub:

I TOTALLY AGREEE!!! Nothing more handsome than a man with some small facial aging lines and greying hair.... a Richard Gere look perhaps! :drool: And of course, Paul! :devil:

I've ALWAYS dated older men my whole life, and at 22 was dating a guy who was 38.... I think that was too much and my parents went balistic. That was the biggest age difference I experienced. I ended up marrying a man just over 8 years older than I and we've been married just over 9 years now. :wub:
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speaking of age gaps I think I would find Paul more attractive as he is now if he was grey and didnt dye his hair.Watching him during Anthology and stuff he still looked hot but when I see him with dyed hair I find him less attractive
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speaking of age gaps I think I would find Paul more attractive as he is now if he was grey and didnt dye his hair.Watching him during Anthology and stuff he still looked hot but when I see him with dyed hair I find him less attractive

Am I one of the only people who doesn't find Paul attractive at all any more? His baby face just doesn't translate well into old age I guess. :hmm:
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speaking of age gaps I think I would find Paul more attractive as he is now if he was grey and didnt dye his hair.Watching him during Anthology and stuff he still looked hot but when I see him with dyed hair I find him less attractive

Am I one of the only people who doesn't find Paul attractive at all any more? His baby face just doesn't translate well into old age I guess. :hmm:

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speaking of age gaps I think I would find Paul more attractive as he is now if he was grey and didnt dye his hair.Watching him during Anthology and stuff he still looked hot but when I see him with dyed hair I find him less attractive

Am I one of the only people who doesn't find Paul attractive at all any more? His baby face just doesn't translate well into old age I guess. :hmm:

Yes. :yes: :yes:

Well at first I never saw it but up until around 2000ish he was still hot.It was just all this dying his hair crap took the cuteness away.He hasnt aged as well as some people but I still like him :D
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speaking of age gaps I think I would find Paul more attractive as he is now if he was grey and didnt dye his hair.Watching him during Anthology and stuff he still looked hot but when I see him with dyed hair I find him less attractive

Am I one of the only people who doesn't find Paul attractive at all any more? His baby face just doesn't translate well into old age I guess. :hmm:

Yes. :yes: :yes:

Well at first I never saw it but up until around 2000ish he was still hot.It was just all this dying his hair crap took the cuteness away.He hasnt aged as well as some people but I still like him :D

Of course I still like him, I just don't find him all that attractive anymore.
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speaking of age gaps I think I would find Paul more attractive as he is now if he was grey and didnt dye his hair.Watching him during Anthology and stuff he still looked hot but when I see him with dyed hair I find him less attractive

Am I one of the only people who doesn't find Paul attractive at all any more? His baby face just doesn't translate well into old age I guess. :hmm:

Yes. :yes: :yes:

Well at first I never saw it but up until around 2000ish he was still hot.It was just all this dying his hair crap took the cuteness away.He hasnt aged as well as some people but I still like him :D

Of course I still like him, I just don't find him all that attractive anymore.

Me too - I used to think he was a real stud muffin... but now I'm afraid I'd have to kick him out of bed. :(
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I have a question. Often when there are age gaps in relationships it is the guy who is older. I have a friend who's mother is 8 years older than her father. Now that is often frowned upon. Why does society accept men being older but not always the other way round?
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I've always had a thing for older men... :blush:  :devil:

Aww me too Lauren! :) Peas in a pod we are :lol:

How true. :) I like the character that a few lines can give a man's face. And there's something about peppered, greying hair too... :devil: :blush: :wub:

I TOTALLY AGREEE!!! Nothing more handsome than a man with some small facial aging lines and greying hair.... a Richard Gere look perhaps! :drool: And of course, Paul! :devil:

I've ALWAYS dated older men my whole life, and at 22 was dating a guy who was 38.... I think that was too much and my parents went balistic. That was the biggest age difference I experienced. I ended up marrying a man just over 8 years older than I and we've been married just over 9 years now. :wub:

I'm seeing someone older than that. :devil:
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I've always had a thing for older men... :blush: :devil:

Yeah, me too! Hubby's a year older than me, & of course, there's Gabriel Byrne :drool:
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You're not alone LovelyRita. I was 15 when I became a Beatles fan so I never looked at Paul as being attractive, he was way too old for me, still is. It's always been about the music for me.


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You're not alone LovelyRita. I was 15 when I became a Beatles fan so I never looked at Paul as being attractive, he was way too old for me, still is. It's always been about the music for me.


~Mary~

I think Paul has aged really well...obviously hes not as 'cute' as he once was...but for a man his age...I think hes good looking.

I used to think Paul was WAYYYY too old for me, too...when I was a teenager and he was in his 30s...but turns out that I am probably a bit too OLD for him now! How in the WORLD did that happen???????? :blink:

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