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Manners...; ...where have they gone?
Topic Started: Jun 28 2006, 01:32 PM (672 Views)
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Is it just me or is society becoming increasingly rude/selfish/inconsiderate?

There are so many incidents I can think of lately; I have been truly disgusted by some of the behaviour I've encountered lately.

Manners...they cost nothing but they're priceless.
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I always remember my manners and always make sure that my 13 year old little sister Ruby (well she isn't really little anymore) remembers her manners too :)
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My son has been taught his entire life to address adults as ma'am and sir. There are no other kids his age that do it (at least none that I know of). People are always taken by hearing him say "Yes Ma'am". I'm working on his interrupting. He's learning to wait until I'm finished talking if he needs to tell me something. I like to believe that I am instilling some all-but-extinct manners in my kids
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That is so refreshing to hear, Tassy. :D You're a great role model. B)
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Jun 28 2006, 06:32 AM
Is it just me or is society becoming increasingly rude/selfish/inconsiderate?

There are so many incidents I can think of lately; I have been truly disgusted by some of the behaviour I've encountered lately.

Manners...they cost nothing but they're priceless.

I'm surprised you've just now noticed this. ;)

IMO, manners should be taught as a required course in school, starting in first grade!!!




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Manners seem to have totally disappeared. You don't even hear please and thank you these days.
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I've always tried to use good manners when dealing with anyone, and fortunately most of the time it works, and people will be polite in response.

It's the drivers that are bad, though. People will cut you off crossing lanes, or ride your back bumper!

But yes, I've noticed a decrease in common decency towards other people...and I think it's a shame! We should all try to treat people the way we would want to be.

That goes in casual interaction, and especially in dealing with people in a more deep kind of relationship, too. Sadly, it's lacking...though I frequently consider the source.


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Jun 28 2006, 02:00 PM
My son has been taught his entire life to address adults as ma'am and sir. There are no other kids his age that do it (at least none that I know of). People are always taken by hearing him say "Yes Ma'am". I'm working on his interrupting. He's learning to wait until I'm finished talking if he needs to tell me something. I like to believe that I am instilling some all-but-extinct manners in my kids

Tassy, your doing a nice job teaching him manners. When we had a house in TN.,our neighbors children also spoke with yes, Sir or Ma'am. We also found it endearing. My daughter said she is going to teach her children to address the adults the same way.

I bought all my grandchildren the Book of good manners for Goobs. My children also received the same book from their grandmother. It's a cute book. I think it's called MANNERS FOR GOOBS.

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Well, here's another clue for you all, the Walrus was Paul...
Both of my sons grew up saying 'please' and 'thank you'...and respecting adults. I used to get compliments all the time (in fact, I still do) about how polite and well behaved they are.
Now they are both in college...and I couldn't be prouder. :D

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Jun 28 2006, 04:32 PM
Is it just me or is society becoming increasingly rude/selfish/inconsiderate?

There are so many incidents I can think of lately; I have been truly disgusted by some of the behaviour I've encountered lately.

Manners...they cost nothing but they're priceless.

You should read Lynne Truss's book, "Talk to the hand: The Utter Bloody Rudeness of Everyday Life [or six god reasons to stay home and bold the door]". It is very funny, very true and I'm sure you will relate to it, as I did.

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My son has been taught his entire life to address adults as ma'am and sir. There are no other kids his age that do it (at least none that I know of). People are always taken by hearing him say "Yes Ma'am". I'm working on his interrupting. He's learning to wait until I'm finished talking if he needs to tell me something. I like to believe that I am instilling some all-but-extinct manners in my kids


you are a great mother for doing that, most parents I know don't even bother
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Jun 28 2006, 02:49 PM
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Jun 28 2006, 06:32 AM
Is it just me or is society becoming increasingly rude/selfish/inconsiderate?

There are so many incidents I can think of lately; I have been truly disgusted by some of the behaviour I've encountered lately.

Manners...they cost nothing but they're priceless.

I'm surprised you've just now noticed this. ;)

IMO, manners should be taught as a required course in school, starting in first grade!!!

I think that it should be a parent's job to teach manners, schools shouldn't have to.
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My brother and sister in law have taught my niece to say "please" and "thank you" and it's so nice to hear. A lot of parents seem to have this attitude that they have to be friends with their kids and not treat them with discipline and teach respect.
I've also noticed in a lot of stores I go to the cashiers frown and give you this look like "Hey why are you bothering me?" When I worked retail I tried to put a smaile on my face even when I wasn't in a bad mood, but still sometimes that didn't work and the customers would sometimes c*ck and attitude. :P
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I'm actually have real trouble getting my daughter to say Please and Thank you. I tell her to say it, and she just says "No." So now, if she doesn't say please, she doesn't get what she's after. Simple.
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Great thread. I'm a big stickler on manners. My kids have both been complimented many times (as a matter of fact just today my son was given kudos). Please, thank you, excuse me, all very important. My big thing is when someone sneezes and no one says "God Bless You". I don't even know why we as a society ever started saying that but it's very important to me and I notice no one says it any more. If I sneeze and I'm ignored I say loudly "I sneezed" then my kids respond.
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My mums always made sure me and my brother are raised with good manners.
I wished I could save her in some sort of time machine.
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I blame that damn rock music.
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Even though I'm the one with the cussing kids, they still send thank you notes (a real lost art) and follow up with thank you calls.

I go out of my way to be polite, courteous, and kind in the hopes it might make someone's day and rub off onto the next human.
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Jun 29 2006, 12:45 AM
My big thing is when someone sneezes and no one says "God Bless You". I don't even know why we as a society ever started saying that but it's very important to me and I notice no one says it any more.


I understand that the phrase came about at the time of the Black Death - The great palgue which devastated London in particular, in the 1300's

At which time a persons first sneeze could herald the signs of imminent death throughout a family and neighbourhood.

It is still a relatively common response for people here to say Bless You or God Bless You to someone who has sneezed. I sometimes do and sometimes don't but what gets to me is when the person who has sneezed doesn't say 'excuse me' :lol:
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My big thing is when someone sneezes and no one says "God Bless You". I don't even know why we as a society ever started saying that but it's very important to me and I notice no one says it any more.


I understand that the phrase came about at the time of the Black Death - The great palgue which devastated London in particular, in the 1300's

At which time a persons first sneeze could herald the signs of imminent death throughout a family and neighbourhood.

It is still a relatively common response for people here to say Bless You or God Bless You to someone who has sneezed. I sometimes do and sometimes don't but what gets to me is when the person who has sneezed doesn't say 'excuse me' :lol:

Yeah, that too!

Thx for that explaination. I alway wonder how things like that get started but never do out of my way to find out.
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I'm a big stickler for manners!

Having worked in customer service for so long, I am very very polite. My parents raised me to be polite to people, write thank you notes (in fact my friends purposely buy me gifts when they go out of town just to get a thank you note from me, I put a lot of time in them and they're very pretty!). When I'm out anywhere, shopping, eating out, ect, I always say thank you and please. It's just so easy to do!
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Jun 29 2006, 02:45 PM
I blame that damn rock music.

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I have good manners, and that's all that matters. :D

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Jun 28 2006, 10:00 AM
My son has been taught his entire life to address adults as ma'am and sir. There are no other kids his age that do it (at least none that I know of). People are always taken by hearing him say "Yes Ma'am". I'm working on his interrupting. He's learning to wait until I'm finished talking if he needs to tell me something. I like to believe that I am instilling some all-but-extinct manners in my kids

Same here, Tassy. They know they had better say "sir", "ma'am" and the "please" and "thank you's" as well!
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My son has  been taught his entire life to address adults as ma'am and sir.  There are no other kids his age that do it (at least none that I know of).  People are always taken by hearing him say "Yes Ma'am".  I'm working on  his interrupting.  He's learning to wait until I'm finished talking if he needs to tell me something.  I like to believe that I am instilling some all-but-extinct manners in my kids

Same here, Tassy. They know they had better say "sir", "ma'am" and the "please" and "thank you's" as well!

The sir and ma'am sounds very formal to me. If I heard children saying that I'd be more inclined to think they were being cheeky rather than well mannered.

Kind of implying I thought I was acting like the Queen or something - and we all know that's Judy's title hereabouts. ;)

I suppose like everything else there are cultural differences around a subject like manners
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"Sir" and "Ma'am" are fine for children, but when adults say it there are age issues about which people can be quite sensitive.

I do not call anyone Sir or Ma'am. And I do not particularly like it when people say it to me (especially Sir). I am not in the military.

If I met the President of the United States, I would not say "Sir". I would probably say, "Yo. What up, Dawg". Or, with the current President, "Howdy, Pardner".

But I am not completely without manners. I always say, "Excuse me. Would you please bite me. Thank you".
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You know what? There are some very bad-mannered old people around these days as well. Some of them are positively rude.
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Jun 30 2006, 11:15 AM
You know what?  There are some very bad-mannered old people around these days as well.  Some of them are positively rude.

Oh yes and they come to my library. Nothing worse than a rude, old geezer who thinks he's entitled cause he's old!
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My son has  been taught his entire life to address adults as ma'am and sir.  There are no other kids his age that do it (at least none that I know of).  People are always taken by hearing him say "Yes Ma'am".  I'm working on  his interrupting.  He's learning to wait until I'm finished talking if he needs to tell me something.  I like to believe that I am instilling some all-but-extinct manners in my kids

Same here, Tassy. They know they had better say "sir", "ma'am" and the "please" and "thank you's" as well!

The sir and ma'am sounds very formal to me. If I heard children saying that I'd be more inclined to think they were being cheeky rather than well mannered.

Kind of implying I thought I was acting like the Queen or something - and we all know that's Judy's title hereabouts. ;)

I suppose like everything else there are cultural differences around a subject like manners

OH OH! Is having the Queen title a good or bad thing? I'm not a fussy Queen ~~ I'm a spoiled Queen ~~ but I'm a generous and kind hearted, and usually a charming Queen.

I got the title Queen because my family and friends say my husband spoils me rotten. And his initials are BEE, so we combined the two and made QueenBee.

It's GOOD TO BE QUEEN :-)

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PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

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I have always thank the lady

Before and After? Hi Peter :-) Are you finished with your decorating?

PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

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yep finished as really a couple of months ago couldn't do the skirting board ( bottom of wall with the floor a bit of wood running round it) because of the bending must finish off the inside of the bay window same reason the streaching and bending.

really must do the hall and stairs though but stuck on colour.
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was in waitrose today getting odds and sods when this old man was trying to leave the cafe area, you know walkin' stick, so i's holds back with me trolley when a stupid auld women and her stupid husband nearly knocks me back and barge into him. she looks back at me i look at her contemptuously then she glances sideways and sees the old geezer and breezes on. then another auld bird try to push pass me ignorant get. i believe in euthanasia and nearly started me own programme.
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OH OH! Is having the Queen title a good or bad thing? I'm not a fussy Queen ~~ I'm a spoiled Queen ~~ but I'm a generous and kind hearted, and usually a charming Queen.

I got the title Queen because my family and friends say my husband spoils me rotten. And his initials are BEE, so we combined the two and made QueenBee.

It's GOOD TO BE QUEEN :-)

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Judy

I think Queenbee is a lovely board title and you are a delightful lady to have such a title. :D
I hope I didn't offend you Judy that was not my intention at all, if I did then please accept my apologies. :wub:

I should have used a different title like Countess or Lady or some other such thing to explain my feelings about how the use of sir and ma'am sounds to my ears.

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A woman is on her knees in front of a man. She says, "If you were a gentleman, you wouldn't ask me to do this." The man replies, "If you were a lady, you wouldn't be talking with your mouth full."

...and in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.
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A woman is on her knees in front of a man. She says, "If you were a gentleman, you wouldn't ask me to do this." The man replies, "If you were a lady, you wouldn't be talking with your mouth full."

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
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A woman is on her knees in front of a man. She says, "If you were a gentleman, you wouldn't ask me to do this." The man replies, "If you were a lady, you wouldn't be talking with your mouth full."

:o :o :o :o :D :lol: :lol:


I shouldn't laugh at that....




But it was funny
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I like that too, Andy. :lol:
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I like that too, Andy. :lol:

:blink: interesting





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A woman is on her knees in front of a man. She says, "If you were a gentleman, you wouldn't ask me to do this." The man replies, "If you were a lady, you wouldn't be talking with your mouth full."

:o Have to admit to squirming a bit after reading that!

But funny nonetheless! :lol:
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A woman is on her knees in front of a man. She says, "If you were a gentleman, you wouldn't ask me to do this." The man replies, "If you were a lady, you wouldn't be talking with your mouth full."

:o :o :o :hyper: :hyper: -_- -_- :innocent: :innocent:

You funny man!!!!!!

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OH OH! Is having the Queen title a good or bad thing? I'm not a fussy Queen ~~ I'm a spoiled Queen ~~ but I'm a generous and kind hearted, and usually a charming Queen.

I got the title Queen because my family and friends say my husband spoils me rotten. And his initials are BEE, so we combined the two and made QueenBee.

It's GOOD TO BE QUEEN :-)

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Judy

I think Queenbee is a lovely board title and you are a delightful lady to have such a title. :D
I hope I didn't offend you Judy that was not my intention at all, if I did then please accept my apologies. :wub:

I should have used a different title like Countess or Lady or some other such thing to explain my feelings about how the use of sir and ma'am sounds to my ears.

No no no!!!!! I was just hoping I wasn't coming off as snobbish on the board!!!!!!

No worry!

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PEACE and love to my friends, Judy

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Jun 28 2006, 01:32 PM
Is it just me or is society becoming increasingly rude/selfish/inconsiderate?

There are so many incidents I can think of lately; I have been truly disgusted by some of the behaviour I've encountered lately.

Manners...they cost nothing but they're priceless.

In my opinion, people are blocking because it is convenient somehow, their good sense side and they are using only their common sense. When we have good sense we know how to behave, when we have common sense we behave like everybody else. I can see that when I´m taking the metro. Everybody pushing each other, and if you say "Dont make it" they will say "But EVERYBODY makes it".

I really hate to hear that type of excuse!!!
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Jun 30 2006, 11:15 AM
You know what?  There are some very bad-mannered old people around these days as well.  Some of them are positively rude.

Watch it Tatty ead ;) Us Scousers have good manners, and Womanners too :P
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You know what?  There are some very bad-mannered old people around these days as well.  Some of them are positively rude.

Watch it Tatty ead ;) Us Scousers have good manners, and Womanners too :P

Eh up, yer scally mef!! See ya soon. ^_^
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I am still so frequently astounded by the lack of manners displayed by most people.
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If common courtesy is so common, why do so few people seem to possess it?
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manners are a form of peace in ones mind, if we use this peace then it will spread. unforchantly in today's world peace, and manners are dieing, so i do all that i can to say thank you and please, so that i may live in peace,

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