Score one point for depression...

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Score one point for depression...; My parents are freakin' idiots!
Topic Started: Feb 28 2008, 08:53 PM (116 Views)
Emily_Konichi	Feb 28 2008, 08:53 PM Post #1
Main Authoress of Book of Change, as well as forum admin Posts: 147 Group: Head Admin Member #1 Joined: October 13, 2007	So...my Mom comes home today with this paper...it talks about how it is now against the law to discriminate against the LGBT community... So I'm all happy about it and stuff, though trying to hide it from my parents, and they're sitting here shouting about the evils of gay and transsexual people! They are doing this, of course, 2 inches away from me...I kid you not...Dad gets out of his chair and walks into the kitchen so that Mom and Dad can talk about this in front of me... So, I'm listening, and Dad is talking about how it is a violation of God's Word to make that a law...I'm thinking "isn't it a violation of God's Word to NOT accept them? Didn't Pastor preach a month long sermon on how we are supposed to accept people wherever they are? Didn't Pastor specifically say 'This means even the homosexuals, transsexuals, and others in that similar situation' during the preaching? It's obvious Mom and Dad don't listen to Pastor." I kept my mouth shut, and kept saying "Don't shout, Emily, don't shout at them" over and over in my head...I had to...otherwise I would have shouted out right then in there what they were doing...it makes me so mad! So...all in all...score one more point on the "My parents are going to disown me as soon as I transition" board...this makes about 20 for that particular system and 0 for the "My parents will accept me" score... Yeap...definitely sounds like I'm getting disowned in a year or two...



Freerefill	Feb 28 2008, 09:12 PM Post #2
I'm an idiot. Posts: 99 Group: Administrator Member #2 Joined: October 13, 2007	So what? You go on and on about how much it'll suck to be estranged from your parents. Haven't you accepted it by now that they will never come around, no matter what? Many many years ago I completely lost faith in my mom after seeing how she just didn't care about anyone or anything but herself. I'm used to it by now. I don't see her as my mother, I see her as a woman who pays for s***. Accept it and move on. Survive under their roof and work toward getting your own. And don't waste your time getting depressed over it. Hell, why bother keeping score in a game that you've already lost? You know you're just going to make things worse for yourself and not have any motivation to make things better. So put on your big girl panties, roll up your sleeves, and get cracking on a better life. It won't come to you, you need to go to it.



Emily_Konichi	Feb 28 2008, 09:18 PM Post #3
Main Authoress of Book of Change, as well as forum admin Posts: 147 Group: Head Admin Member #1 Joined: October 13, 2007	While I find that post offensive, I find it funny, too. It's odd...the best form of advice is usually that which offends us -nods- in any case, I read it, I get offended, I finish reading it, I laugh and am not offended...the question is: Was I really offended in the first place? >> << >< Sorry...I'm very weird today...anyway...you are right, though...I should stop being depressed over it...it's hard not to be depressed, though... I want my parents to accept me because I love them...but I'm beginning to wonder...if they are going to act the way they are right now...maybe I should just change my whole name? I'm keeping my last name the same right now because I want to show them I still love them, but if they are going to be this way...maybe I shouldn't...I love them...but if they won't love me...I should just say "screw them" and go on about my business I suppose...also...I edited your post, cause the word "shit" is currently against the rules >> That may change soon...but sorry...



Freerefill	Feb 28 2008, 09:30 PM Post #4
I'm an idiot. Posts: 99 Group: Administrator Member #2 Joined: October 13, 2007	Yeah, sorry 'bout that.. totally forgot about the swear thing >< My bad. And yeah.. I know that the truth hurts, and I know that there's a fine balance between "doing what you know you need to do" and "venting". I often tell people what they should do.. not what they need to hear.. and I guess a few people have stopped talking to me because of that. I knew you'd be offended. I could have said more that would offend you more. I still can. I think I'll keep it to myself though.. I suppose too much of a good thing can be a bad thing, even if it is truth. I don't mean to offend, but you know, when it comes right down to it, I don't care who likes me or why. I care about the happiness of others. If people are constantly unhappy.. well.. I'd like to do something about it. If consoling them and patting them on the back doesn't get the job done.. well I'm gonna try slapping them upside the head. Whatever knocks them into their good senses and makes them realize "Yeah, life sucks, but I'm just sitting here crying about it. There are ways to fix it, and I ought to be doing some of that." If hitting them with the brutal truth means they hate me for offending them, oh well. I really don't care. If they decide I'm not worthy enough to be in their life for offending them with the truth, oh well. I really don't care. I can walk off into the sunset knowing I did everything in my power to improve the quality of someone's life. Even if I fail, at least I saw it through till the bitter end and tried my best. Again.. that's not to say that we all don't need to just vent sometimes.. and the Internet is, obviously, a great place to do it.. and it's best to vent to your friends.. and I should be enough of a friend to listen.. I know all of this.. but the ugre to simply fix things is overpowering.. it's just my mechanical nature, I suppose >< It's just that I've come across a number of people who alls they did was complain. They never did anything to improve the quality of their lives. I did everything I could to talk them into changing.. but they just ignored me. And that kinda sucks after a while. I begin to wonder if they even want a better life. I sometimes begin to wonder if even I want a better life........



Emily_Konichi	Feb 28 2008, 09:40 PM Post #5
Main Authoress of Book of Change, as well as forum admin Posts: 147 Group: Head Admin Member #1 Joined: October 13, 2007	-nods- venting is good, but if all you do is vent, you won't change anything, right? That makes sense to me, and after talking to you a while back, I've taken steps to change my life. Working on getting a better job, working on getting my eyes fixed so that I can stop paying for therapy, things like that -nods- all in all, I'm trying my best to change. I hope to get out of the house by fall. I have no problem with one more birthday as Michael...I DO have a problem with 2 more birthdays as Michael...especially if I'm STILL in the house venting like I am right now in 2 years. So, take the steps to change now, and we will. What is it that they say on Eureka seveN? "Don't ask for it, just go out there and take it"? I don't really remember, but it was that same principal -nods- Don't ask for it to happen, MAKE it happen.


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