Dealing with trans-sexualism

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Dealing with trans-sexualism
Topic Started: Dec 18 2007, 11:07 PM (324 Views)
Emily_Konichi	Dec 18 2007, 11:07 PM Post #1
Main Authoress of Book of Change, as well as forum admin Posts: 147 Group: Head Admin Member #1 Joined: October 13, 2007	So...as some of you know, I've recently taken steps to become a girl named "Emily". Problem is...everything I've done is online...my family refuses to let me do anything off of the internet. I guess the question now is, though, do I listen to my parents and not do anything, but continue to be depressed because of the fact that I know I'm a girl, but my parents won't let me be one, or should I just go for it and piss my parents off? I really don't know what to do...but the longer I'm stuck as a guy, the more depressed I seem to get...I know I'm a girl...but they refuse to believe it...I'm waiting for my sister's kid to be born, because I think it might end up as a hephrodite (or whatever it's called), you know...one of those kids born with both sexes? They keep saying it's an "odd-looking boy, but also an odd-looking girl." If it is, then I'll have something to prove my point at least.



Freerefill	Dec 19 2007, 06:03 PM Post #2
I'm an idiot. Posts: 99 Group: Administrator Member #2 Joined: October 13, 2007	The odds of it being a hermaphrodite are, according to the first website I found with Google, 1 in 25,000. The odds of your family giving any more s***s about the babies future than they do yours with regards to sexuality are far, far worse. You live with closed-minded people who are comfortable in their paradigms. They will not shift their perspectives of the world, they would rather change the world.. It's unfortunate, but it's likely that, if the baby is born a hermaphrodite, someone somewhere will demand surgery and not take 'no' for an answer. Even if, by some chance, they were to prove that your DNA was that of a females and that your physical being is simply a random mutation, your parents would not care. Proof is in the mind, and in their mind, the proof has been decided on. In your case, you need to take careful consideration of your situation and make your decision based on a balance of needs and wants. Yes, you would like to be free. But, what do you need? Food, shelter. Can you have those with freedom? I understand your desires, I have them as well. I like being at work, because I hate being at home. I would like to move out, and I probably have the means to do so. But, as long as I'm here, my food is paid for, my rent is nil, my warmth is nil, and all my money can go toward getting myself out of debt so that when I do take the plunge I won't drown within a week. So, I sit here in my room every day, surfing the web, talking to the ones who truly love me, not suffering but biding my time. I suggest you follow your heart and your head. Find a balance of both, and you'll see that what you truly desire will see you through whatever you have to suffer through to obtain it.



Emily_Konichi	Dec 20 2007, 12:36 AM Post #3
Main Authoress of Book of Change, as well as forum admin Posts: 147 Group: Head Admin Member #1 Joined: October 13, 2007	Wow o.o you're always full of amazing wisdom...amazing wisdom aside, though, I had this AWESOME discussion with myself that I HAVE to give you...chances that it would change my parents minds, though, is probably 9,658,369,165,268 to 1...(or would it be the other way around?) Me as myself: Trans-sexuality is usually a birth defect of some kind. It isn't always, but in my case it is. It can't be a sin to fix it. Me as my parents: It is sinful to try and become something God didn't make you to be. You are always born the way you are supposed to be. Me as myself: So then, by your logic, it is sinful to have fixed my brother's birth defect. After all, he was born with a cleft palet. By your logic, God meant for him to have a cleft palet, so you fixing that is sinful, yet you've never apologized for it. On top of that, what about the kids known as "Hephrodites" that are born with both sexes? Did God decide one day "Oh, this kid will be both a boy and a girl"? What about those who are born with neither gender? If you fix either of those, as I imagine you would, after all, it's a terrible birth defect, then you're sinning! And what about those twins who are born with their heads fused together at the top? Surely God didn't want such a terrible thing to happen! If he did, then you better go tell all those parents who have had that happen to ask forgiveness, because that was sinful of them to change that. And if none of that is sinful, as I suspect it isn't, then there is absolutely nothing sinful with fixing my own birth defect. But, by your logic, if it is sinful for me to fix my birth defect, it is sinful for us to have fixed Kenneth's. It would then also be sinful for anyone to fix any birth defect at all, no matter how bad or life threatening, because obviously, according to you, we are born EXACTLY the way God wants us to be born. So you can go tell the little 7 year old boy in the news (there isn't one, but I've heard of one before) that it is sinful for him to have heart surgery so he can live, since he was, after all, born with a bad heart, and God made him that way. I'd also like to add another thing. You said you've tried and confessed for 6 years that I would be a boy named Michael. According to pastor, confessing can change anything, that's what the Bible says. The Bible says "God gave us power just below angels" which, according to pastor, is incorrectly translated, and it should say "God gave us power just below himself". Which means our words can change anything. If you confessed for 6 years that I would be a boy, then you could have messed something up. Our confessions can either let God do what he wants, or let the Devil step in and twist what we get. How do you define a proper "bad Confession"? In my eyes, anything that isn't guaranteed to be in line with God's plans is a bad confession. From what I've heard, your confession wasn't in line with God's plans, meaning the Devil stepped in and twisted things around. Because of that, I was born as a boy, but I was supposed to be a girl, and it is all because of your bad confession in what you wanted. Without even realizing it, you allowed the Devil to step in and completely mess up my life before I was even born. On top of all of this, though, I want to know, what verse in scripture EXACTLY states "It is sinful to think thou art the opposite sex" because surely I don't know of one. I've seen verses, like the one in James that says "Let yourself not be deceived" but how do I know I am being deceived? I have no biblical verse to tell me I am. And then there is Deuteronomy 22:5 that says "For a man to wear a girls clothes, or vise versa, it is an abomination unto the Lord!" That just tells me I need to go change my clothes, because if I'm a girl, then I'm an abomination unto the Lord right now, because I'm wearing male clothes! So, tell me, I want to know, what Scripture of the Bible states EXACTLY that Trans-sexualism is false? If there is none, then I don't need Scripture to back up my belief it is true, because the Bible never states it is false. Of course, this rambling of sorts went on for another 30 minutes...but that was the most important, and greatest revelation part I had...Now if only I had the guts to say it to my parents...Honestly, when I said it to myself I went "Ouch...I don't mean to hurt my parents, but that burns REALLY badly." I then proceeded to say this to my one Christian friend at work, and he said "EXACTLY, God, your parents are total and complete idiots!"



Freerefill	Dec 20 2007, 05:30 PM Post #4
I'm an idiot. Posts: 99 Group: Administrator Member #2 Joined: October 13, 2007	You aren't so bad yourself there.. I like your logic. It's sound and flawless. If you want to strengthen it, spend a few hours surfing the web for news stories of corrected birth defects. Hell, you could just google "Celebrities who had birth defects corrected" and make a list (note: don't include Brittany Speares, or your argument is nil). People like Winston Churchill, Martian Luther King Jr, Ghandi, I dunno if any of them fit the bill but they make a strong case. Try it out. Write a long letter or prepare a speech. Lay everything down as neat and tidy as you can possibly make it, so that there are no holes anywhere. Spend time on it to make it perfect and unarguable. Then, hit your parents with it. What's the worst they can do? Tell you you're wrong no matter what? Are you really worse off than you were before if that happens? Me, personally.. I'm just gonna leave one day. Not say a word. Pack my stuff and head out. I'm sure when I don't come home, my mom will call asking where I am.. I'll tell her, quite simply, that I moved out. I'll regret not seeing the look on her face, but I'll feel better after I laugh into the phone and hang up on her. Oh, and if worst comes to worst, hit them with the deadly sin of Greed. They claim they wanted a son. For what, though? For themselves? Or for the world? I think that's a distinction that a lot of parents seem to fail on.. they want a boy or a girl or this and that, and when they finally get a child.. they go one of two ways. Either they're disappointed that they didn't get what they want (the result of Greed unfulfilled) or they unconditionally love their child no matter what. Either way, be strong Emily. You've lasted this long and every day you grow a bit more. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but some day and for the rest of your life you'll have what you want. The trick is to simply never give up! ^^


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