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Topic Started: Oct 5 2004, 10:06 PM (242 Views)
Crystie	Oct 5 2004, 10:06 PM Post #1
Ginny, Identity Posts: 729 Group: Members Member #50 Joined: January 10, 2004	ok my best friend is this guy...i thought he was gay cuz he admitted it to me a while back. turns out hes bi. oh and for the record..hes completely in love with me. last night he asked me out for the 3rd time. i dont really want to go out with him but i feel so bad for rejecting him cuz hes my best friend. i dont want to be with him cuz...well he is bi and i know all about who hes been with and what theyve done and stuff and it freaks me out that hes been with more men then i have and theyre mostly older. another thing is that hes not the guy i would normally go for but hes getting all depressed cuz i told him to wait and he was like no1 has ever made me felt the way you make me do. and he was like were perfect for eachother, i cant hold this back anymore. but i just like dont want to go further then best friends cuz what we have is just awesome and throwing it all away on a relationship is just not right. and like everyone knows his history cuz hes sorta outta the closet so it would make me look like a desperate girl going out with a guy that has been with more guys then i have. i told him im going thru a depression stage (which is true, i didnt lie) and i cant have a relationship at the moment cuz i need to get my life back in order. so i told him to wait and hes getting really anxious wanting to know when and stuff but the truth is i just feel so insecure being with someone who hooks up with guys so much and sometimes doesnt remember their names. and if i went out with him he would stop telling me of all of his hookups when i would know theyre still going on. and he broke up with his boyfriend yesterday and his boyfriend imed me and he was like we couldnt be together cuz hes obsessed with you. ahhh guys i need you soo bad right now. i dont know what to do. :wacko:
	"You are who you are, the only trick is not getting caught" -Clea DuVall Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and all the available ones are handicapped.


Cleaduvallslover	Oct 6 2004, 03:23 PM Post #2
Nan, The Astronaut's Wife Posts: 267 Group: Members Member #13 Joined: November 24, 2003	I have done the whole fall in love with your best friend thing and for me it went wrong. Basically I was in love with her for ages then eventually she started flirting with me,things happened and we started seeing each other. After 8 months things started to go wrong. She said she was Bisexual and that she didn't come out or have a full relationship. We finished our relationship and she promised that we would still remain good friends. Unfortunately we haven't. We seem constantly at each others throats. I hate it. I wish I had not got into a relationship with her now. You have to judge if you think it is worth losing a good friend should it all go wrong. If things go ok, then good luck. I hope I was of some help. Im no good at my own advice mind. Tc and good luck Jodes
	"Well it's about F*****G time" Graham Eaton - BIAC


Flyergirl	Oct 6 2004, 08:44 PM Post #3
Kelsey, Little Witches Posts: 112 Group: Members Member #82 Joined: June 29, 2004	Well, I gotta say that normally the whole dating your friend thing doesn't work out, but that doesn't mean it cant work. Right now I have the same deal going on, except I really like my firend and she like me but it is sometimes hard getting over the weirdness. Everytime I look at her its like, wait are we girlfriends or are we bestfriends. So you need to figure out whats more important to you. You might have something there, but then again it could ruin your friendship. I am certainly not the one to be asking about this but I thought I would put my two cents in. I have heard you talking about this guy before and I know you guys are like really good friends, so I think you need to really take that into consideration. Its all up to you though.
	"....so how do you land 'Johnny Rocket Boy' and I keep ending up with subtely diferent models of 'throws up on himself elmo'!"- The Astronauts Wife


Crystie	Oct 6 2004, 10:39 PM Post #4
Ginny, Identity Posts: 729 Group: Members Member #50 Joined: January 10, 2004	well i gave him a note today...well my friend gave it to him for me..expressing all the issues i had with us being together. we're like real close but idk i just cant imagine kissing the kid. and the attraction is there...but not really. its hard to explain. i talked to my brothers girlfriend about it and she was like why dont u just give it a try and if it doesnt work pull out before you mess your friendship up. idk what do you guys think? thanks for the help to flyergirl and cleaduvallslover. who else has input?
	"You are who you are, the only trick is not getting caught" -Clea DuVall Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and all the available ones are handicapped.


Miss A.	Oct 7 2004, 02:43 AM Post #5
Nan, The Astronaut's Wife Posts: 250 Group: Members Member #9 Joined: November 24, 2003	I'm thinking that if you're not really into him, then you shouldn't give it a try, because if it turns out that you don't like him that way at all, he'll probably just get even more hurt, and it'll ruin your friendship anyway. I know that a lot of people confuse their feelings for their best friends... But if you are into him that way, one of my close friends started dating her best friend last year, and they have a really awesome relationship now. Heh, i don't think i was much help...



Riley	Oct 7 2004, 07:15 AM Post #6
Sapientone Posts: 467 Group: Admin Member #1 Joined: November 22, 2003	Sometimes relationships with your bestfriends work out great. It's a great foundation to start a relationship on... but if you have reservations from the start, it can only go downhill from there. If you value your friendship with him, I would suggest keeping it that way. Unless, of course, you change your mind and decide it's worth giving it a shot. It will be hard telling him, especially if after letting him in on your fellings he still presses the issue... But for the relationship to work from the get go, you have to be into him too.
	~Riley If looks could really kill... Then my profession would be staring. Stokley #83!! Go Colts! Bring back Inuyasha!!! ~ABK~


Crystie	Oct 7 2004, 03:32 PM Post #7
Ginny, Identity Posts: 729 Group: Members Member #50 Joined: January 10, 2004	yea he started flirting today...he was like waiting at all my classes for me...sumthin he never does. and wen i went to put on my jacket a part on my chest was turned in and he turned it the right way. people are startin to say the biggest risk is not going out with him. he was like "ive loved you since the first time i told you" (this is the 3rd time) and yesterday wen i was talking about him rushing me he was like youre like an angel to me you have no idea. but its not that im not attracted to him...its like knowing what i know about him and his gay relationships...i cant even imagine kissing him. like ive tried to imagine it but it just doesnt register. idk its confusing...
	"You are who you are, the only trick is not getting caught" -Clea DuVall Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and all the available ones are handicapped.


Smidge	Oct 12 2004, 11:37 AM Post #8
Stokely Mitchell, The Faculty Posts: 182 Group: Members Member #70 Joined: April 19, 2004	I dunno about this one dude! Dating someone to "try" things out is a no-no in my books. It screws with both parties involved. You should only date out of pure desire not obligation or guilt, that leads to a lot of complications. plus dude, all of these "I love yous" he keeps saying to you sounds kind of stalkeresque to me. If he's really your friend he'll respect you and leave you be. My best-guy friend once asked me out, I said no (cause I didn't want to screw with our friendship and he's also alot like my brother). He was upset for a little while and things were weird between us but now everythings really cool again. Just stick with your gut. SaraHa
	One banana, two banana, three banana, four! Four bananas make a bunch of baby surfin' boards!


Crystie	Oct 13 2004, 03:30 PM Post #9
Ginny, Identity Posts: 729 Group: Members Member #50 Joined: January 10, 2004	well...he gave his final plea for me last night and i sed yes cuz im just takin the chance. my mom sed to take the relationship lightly and if it gets bad then back out quick. these other 2 people (one is his x bf) got all pissed that we are going out so theyre going out...if they were attempting to make us jealous it kinda didnt work cuz emilios x bf is as gay as they come and there is no girl that could turn him bi/straight. my friends were like oh youre not gonna get much ass for a while lol. but you kno so what if people are makin fun of us...theyre just jealous in my eyes.
	"You are who you are, the only trick is not getting caught" -Clea DuVall Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and all the available ones are handicapped.


Margot	Oct 13 2004, 05:17 PM Post #10
Nan, The Astronaut's Wife Posts: 260 Group: Members Member #18 Joined: November 25, 2003	good for you...yeah it never hurts to give a a try My gay boyfriends are the only guys ive met in my life that i would ever consider dating....
	- Life without [size=7]Ladytron[/size] is an Error


Linz	Oct 15 2004, 09:25 AM Post #11
Indie "It" Girl Posts: 1,048 Group: Admin Member #17 Joined: November 25, 2003	Girl, you gotta do what makes you happy. I think that your mom is right in some ways though, you gotta be careful...expecially since he might really be gay. But I agree with Margot too...my gay boys are the only ones I've ever wanted to date...so it should at least be fun.
	-Linz "Cheers make girls do stupid cartwheels. Orgasms make people feel good." "I like girls alot"


Crystie	Oct 22 2004, 03:02 PM Post #12
Ginny, Identity Posts: 729 Group: Members Member #50 Joined: January 10, 2004	ok im going out with emilio. but the problem has taken a new turn. his ex boyfriend joe is spreading rumors very rapidly about both of us. hes going after my best friends and trying to get them to hate me and since emilio isnt terribly popular...hes only going after my friends. of course my friends are playing it off...but why does he hafta be such an inconsiderate asshole. hes telling everyone emilio has AIDS yes...AIDS. hes telling people that were not nice and we dont deserve to be together and were not right for eachother. i just wanna pound his head in. just cuz youre fucking (sorry language..emphasizing my point) jealous of someones relationship doesnt mean you have to butt in and try to make them break it off. he only wants that satisfaction and i will NOT give him that. so he forms an "i hate crystie and emilio committee" WHAT A LOSER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! does he really have that much time on his hands to center himself around 2 people that he hates? everyone is lovin it tho. were all makin him look like an ass..but still come on. thats not cool. :angry:
	"You are who you are, the only trick is not getting caught" -Clea DuVall Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and all the available ones are handicapped.


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