Homophobic Parents

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Homophobic Parents
Topic Started: Jun 3 2004, 01:19 AM (111 Views)
ozmonkey	Jun 3 2004, 01:19 AM Post #1
The Kudos Kid Posts: 9 Group: Members Member #77 Joined: May 29, 2004	Gday all. I dont really have anyone else who would understand the current problem so i figured some of you guys might be able to help. I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year now, but her parents, her mum in particular, are still unaccepting to the point of open rudeness, not just to me but also to my family. I cant understand how they wont accept our relationship if it makes us, and especially their daughter happy, especially because my parents took it so well. They welcomed her into the family and make a point of inviting her to all family functions, and are genuinely happy for us. I know it upsets my Gf also, but i just dont get how her parents can be so unaccepting. i was just wondering if any of you would be willing to share stories of how your parents/partners parents took the news which might help my current situation. thanks



GrahamEaton	Jun 3 2004, 10:35 AM Post #2
The Kudos Kid Posts: 35 Group: Members Member #76 Joined: May 22, 2004	Wow, um, is this my girlfriend? Because that's her story. My parents are Catholic and have that religious holier-than-thou attitude. They don't accept me, they don't accept her and they have no problem being openly rude about it at any given time. Luckily, they don't live so close (they're in MI, we're in VA) but the rest of my family is there, including my younger sisters that I adore, so I would like to visit but it doesn't happen.... They are constantly putting me in the middle. My parents want me to visit, to see my sisters, or for my brother's graduation or whatever, and they'll pay my way and all costs but my girlfriend can't come and regardless, she doesn't want to come and doesn't want me to go, either. This is happening at Christmas, summer break, family events.... And don't even get me started on the future. My girlfriend says they won't be around our children, my mother wants to be in the delivery room (go figure) even though she says she "won't be able to accept our children as her grandchildren". So, yeah, I am feeling your pain......
	And I wonder, is she different? Is she different? Has she changed... what she's about? Or is she just a liar with nothing to lie about?


ozmonkey	Jun 3 2004, 08:57 PM Post #3
The Kudos Kid Posts: 9 Group: Members Member #77 Joined: May 29, 2004	man that sucks. in my case luckily her folks also dont live so close, and we dont see them too often, but when we do its way akward. It sucks when people just dont accept stuff, although my girlfriends parents arent even the overly religious type. their main problem is they are from a small country town, and so are way conservative. We dont go there often, but i know that my girlfriend likes to go back home, coz she lived in Collie (small town) her whole life before moving to Perth for uni. So the being separated for christmas etc sucks, although for most holidays she just does stuff with my family coz hers are so damn rude. her brothers and sisters live in Perth also, and are great and fine with everything, so i just dont get why her mum has a giant stick up her arse. how are your girlfriends parents with it? at least we have one family that accepts us but i cant imagine how hard it would be if both didnt. Is your sister ok with it or is the mother influence present? its nice to know someone else is going through the same crap but i wouldnt wish it on anyone, its a giant fuck off.



GrahamEaton	Jun 4 2004, 12:15 AM Post #4
The Kudos Kid Posts: 35 Group: Members Member #76 Joined: May 22, 2004	My sisters are young (8 and 12) and didn't know I was gay for a long time. They knew I lived with a girl but that was about the extent. My mother asked me not to tell them till they were older... and then she decided to tell them I was getting married, which I am but I would have liked to be the one to tell them. They both took it well. My older sister kind of knew but the younger one was very surprised but they both like my girlfriend a lot so... it was cool. My girlfriend's parents are great. Well.... her dad is like your girlfriend's parents. Meaning conservative because he's from a small country town. So they never talk about it... I mean, he has to know. She doesn't date guys, she lives with girls, I mean, it's obvious. For a while, my girlfriend and I lived with her parents, shared a bed, I was her date to family weddings... I mean, he has to know. But they just don't talk about it. Her mother is absolutely fantastic though. I love her. So that's good.
	And I wonder, is she different? Is she different? Has she changed... what she's about? Or is she just a liar with nothing to lie about?


ozmonkey	Jun 4 2004, 08:43 PM Post #5
The Kudos Kid Posts: 9 Group: Members Member #77 Joined: May 29, 2004	good to hear that the siblings took it well and congrats on the marriage thing. when is that happening, or already happened? it sucks that its not so much an option in Australia, its not legal at the moment, and the PM is currently in the process of making it illegal which sucks arse.



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