So There's This Girl...

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So There's This Girl...
Topic Started: Mar 17 2004, 02:41 PM (111 Views)
iloveclea	Mar 17 2004, 02:41 PM Post #1
Georgina Tuskin, Girl, Interrupted Posts: 382 Group: Members Member #40 Joined: December 27, 2003	so there's this girl... my girl. we've been friends for years and we hanging out more this semester. on valentine's day, we started dating. since then, we've been spending A LOT of time together and we just want to be around each other all the time. we talk about everything under the sun. she is absolutely amazing and i adore every thing about her. and she is really awesome for me, and she completely adores and respects me too. and since valentines day, we had an open relationship where we could see other people if we wanted... but as time passed, we realized that neither one of us wanted to see other people. but we were both scared of the "relationship" title because we've both had a lot of negative experiences and still view it as a negative, hurtful, entrapping, dreadful, miserable thing. so then, we kept seeing each other and realized that we are both falling head-over-heals in love with each other and about a week ago, i told her that i love her. and i was super nervous about it, but she really calmed me down and made me feel more comfortable because she said that she had been thinking that she loves me for about a week before then. but we were both really nervous to say it because we've had bad experiences and we were scared of something serious happening. but, anyway, we've realized that we helped each other overcome our negative fears of relationships and now we're doing really well. on monday, she asked me to be her girlfriend... all official and no other people. and of course i said yes. so, we are now on cloud nine and absolutely ridiculously in love with each other. we spend hours talking every day and hours laying in each other's arms. now we're on spring break and she lives an hour and a half away from me and it's the hardest thing ever for both of us. we both are going nuts without each other and we've talked for about 4 hours every day on the phone. one of my friends described my relationship with my girl to be like this: "you have this little world where it's just the two of u and when you're together it's like you're untouchable and soooo happy". so yeah, we're really in love with each other and we can't imagine our lives without the other one and we're kinda talking long term now because we want to spend the rest of our lives together. like we're gonna take things slow and everything before we make any big decisions, but yeah, that's pretty much where we're at now. so, my question is.... i absolutely love this girl and when we're together, we are in our own little world and nothing else matters. and our friends can see that. and they are really supportive and excited for us. but i know eventually they're gonna be like, you guys are sickening because we're so in love and our friends are struggling with relationships right now. so... what do we do? how do we not make our friends feel uncomfortable because we're into a world of our own, on cloud nine, when my girl and i are together? we can't hide how we feel, and we can't get enough of each other when we're together (i don't mean public displays of affection either, i just mean, we get these huge goofy grins when we look at each other and we just have this connection). so... any thoughts? advice? suggestions?



Margot	Mar 17 2004, 05:55 PM Post #2
Nan, The Astronaut's Wife Posts: 260 Group: Members Member #18 Joined: November 25, 2003	I don't know how to help you....Love is the best.........or the worst drug i think? Love makes you as incoherant as Herion i believe........Not that, that's a bad thing of course....but you guys cant blame yourselves
	- Life without [size=7]Ladytron[/size] is an Error


Riley	Mar 17 2004, 10:59 PM Post #3
Sapientone Posts: 467 Group: Admin Member #1 Joined: November 22, 2003	I think it's fine!!!! Obviously your friends care about you very much. They know how much a real relationship means to you... otherwise, they wouldn't be so supportive about the sudden decline of your companionship. In the beginning of a relationship... that's how it is. You're on cloud nine, and can't think of spending a minute apart... all that fun stuff. It's new and exciting. You'll see though... as time goes on, you'll act more "normal" around your friends because it will be "friend" time. Ya know what I'm saying? I wouldn't worry about it. It sounds like you have cool friends that don't mind looking at your goofy grin. They're happy that you're happy. By the by... completely unrelated... 300!! Whooooo
	~Riley If looks could really kill... Then my profession would be staring. Stokley #83!! Go Colts! Bring back Inuyasha!!! ~ABK~


GrahamEaton	Mar 18 2004, 01:17 AM Post #4
Unregistered	Dude, you're fine. Like Riley said, in the beginning, relationships are like that. Not saying that you lose it completely or anything but like, my girl and I were totally the same way when we started out... and now two and a half years later, yeah, we're mushy and gushy and happy... but just not to that extent anymore. Cuz it's not so new and fresh and can't get enough of it and exciting anymore, you know? You know that person will always be there so you don't feel the need to be joined at the hip every second. It might sound a bit negative but actually, it's not. I love where my girl and I are at right now. BUT if you really are worried about it (or until you hit the stage where y'all can be calm around each other and notice that other people DO exist) here's some things to do. And by the way, that's great that you are thinking of your friends. I have been stuck with friends and their boyfriends who block out the world... and it is soooo annoying. But.... at much as you love your girl... take time away from her to be with just your friends. And when you do take time to just be with your friends, manage to not JUST talk about your girlfriend, as hard as it will be. Trust me, your friends will love you for it. Cuz as great as you think your girl is and as amazing and gorgeous and sexy and funny and perfect as she is.... your friends aren't going to feel your same passion. You know? And, a plus side, taking time away from your girl will give y'all some of the "absence makes the heart grow fonder" stuff... you know? And when you are with your friends and your girlfriend, together, like, don't be scared to hold hands or put your arm around her or whatever...... but kind of nix the kissing and cuddling and baby talk.... and pull your eyes away from her every once in a while... LOL. Just, you know, make it obvious that you do realize other people are there.
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iloveclea	Mar 18 2004, 01:53 PM Post #5
Georgina Tuskin, Girl, Interrupted Posts: 382 Group: Members Member #40 Joined: December 27, 2003	thanks guys! yeah, my friends are super cool and they don't mind us having the big goofy grins on because we're so happy... they just crack some jokes, make fun of us, and then move on with our conversation. i just wanna make sure that we're not being obnoxiously annoying to our friends because we do care about our friends a lot. and i am trying to have more "friends" time... like for instance, i'm going to hang out with one of my best friends next week, and instead of bringing my girl along, i'm gonna go solo so that my friend and i have lots of time to talk... about my girl and lots of other stuff. i still spend time with other friends and i talk about mygirl some, and my friends talk about her too cuz we're all friends, but i'll try to keep it to a minimum and try not to be so love-struck when i'm around them. thanks for all your feedback, graham, riley and margot! you rock! oh, and as a side note about the absense makes the heart grow fonder thing... it's spring break and my girl and i were apart for 2 days and going insane without each other. so yesterday, she drove up to my mom's (an hour and a half away from where she lives) in the snow to come see me. and then, we drove an hour further north to her apartment back at school so that we could have some alone time. hehe. now we have another two days before we get to see each other again... and yes, absense does make the heart grow much fonder... and makes me act ridiculous and super love-sick!



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