Person Or Gender?

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You meet someone online and really hit it off. You talk forever and completely fall in love with them, based on their personality, sense of humor... You decide to meet in person and big shocker! They are the opposite sex of what you thought!!
A. Give it a shot. So what that you have only been with women (or men, whatever your deal is) in the past. You fell in love with them as a person.... you love them for who they are inside, not between their legs.	11 (68.8%)
B. Go running the other way. You are a straight up lesbian... no men for you! (Or a straight girl... no girls for you!)	5 (31.3%)
Total Votes: 16

Person Or Gender?; Not for bisexual people, though, LOL.
Topic Started: Feb 26 2004, 01:09 AM (611 Views)
GrahamEaton	Feb 26 2004, 01:09 AM Post #1
Unregistered	Just out of curiousity cuz I have wondered about this before, mainly because I met my girlfriend online.... and I was like, wow, I totally loved her before I met her in person and I was like, what if I would have gotten to the airport and she was a dude? What would I have done. And I think that I would have ran the other way, honestly. Buuuuuuttttttttttt...... I guess it is sort of a good argument for biological bisexuality because it's an argument that I use with people who say they could never fall in love with someone that is the same gender as them..... I'm like, what if you fell in love with them before you knew that they were also a female (or male, if the case be)?? Could you turn those feelings off? I think you couldn't turn those feelings off but I think I would like, grow out of them very fast. When I would meet them in person and see they were a guy, the sexual and physical attraction would just not be there and so the rest would fizzle out.
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Miss A.	Feb 26 2004, 02:49 AM Post #2
Nan, The Astronaut's Wife Posts: 250 Group: Members Member #9 Joined: November 24, 2003	This reminds me of that show Young Americans that was on a few years ago. The Dawsons Creek spin off. A girl posed as a guy and went to an all boys school. One of the other guys started to like her, thinking she was a guy, and then he thought that he was gay. Does anybody remember? I can't really say what i would do. Maybe i'd hang out with the person for awhile, and see where my feelings went from there. I'm not sure...



Kate	Feb 26 2004, 05:21 AM Post #3
Indie "It" Girl Posts: 1,107 Group: Members Member #6 Joined: November 24, 2003	I picked A. I hope that if I fell in love with someone before meeting them... well, let's say had feelings for them, then I hope I would be able to look passed things like gender. It's a bit idealistic, but I know I would try.
	For me though, it's like I've given birth to my own baby girl. You know? Only she's, like, a big giant girl who smokes and says "shit" a lot.


Margot	Feb 26 2004, 03:43 PM Post #4
Nan, The Astronaut's Wife Posts: 260 Group: Members Member #18 Joined: November 25, 2003	I agree with Miss A.....I think i would need to meet them and get a better sense of who they are I need to actually talk to someone face-2-face, watch their actions, not just their words.....and get a sense of who they are through that....I need like a feeling from someone, like an aura maybe?? that sounds kind of spacey
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iloveclea	Feb 26 2004, 03:55 PM Post #5
Georgina Tuskin, Girl, Interrupted Posts: 382 Group: Members Member #40 Joined: December 27, 2003	i still claim to fall under the label of bisexual, so i don't think it would be fair for me to vote. i try to be gender blind.



Crys	Feb 26 2004, 11:26 PM Post #6
Graham Eaton, BIAC Posts: 315 Group: Members Member #47 Joined: December 31, 2003	I would definitely give it a go, but I would be expecting it to fail. That said, it'd probably be doomed from the beginning. But yeah, I'd see if I could get passed that, but it's hard tellin'.



Crystie	Feb 27 2004, 05:14 PM Post #7
Ginny, Identity Posts: 729 Group: Members Member #50 Joined: January 10, 2004	I would do it probably but only after a few dates in person. i mean meeting the person face to face for the first time is soooooo awkward that you might not like what you see. i mean what if they were just that person online? who knows....but i bet some of those online things work out.
	"You are who you are, the only trick is not getting caught" -Clea DuVall Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and all the available ones are handicapped.


GrahamEaton	Feb 28 2004, 12:24 AM Post #8
Unregistered	See, I met my girlfriend on-line. We talked for a few months and we like, as corny as it sounds, fell in love before we met in person. And then we really wanted to meet and she bought me a plane ticket and I just packed up and flew down to see her. If you knew me three years ago, you would know that this was just completely 100% out of character to me. Like, sometimes I still I am like... I can't believe I did that. But then we met and our eyes clicked and we kissed in the airport... I was so nervous!! And we barely made it home safely and got in, didn't even unpack my stuff, and headed to bed. LOL. God, I sound easy! And that was two years ago and we are still together and still completely, completely in love. So.... it can happen, I guess.
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Kate	Feb 28 2004, 03:01 AM Post #9
Indie "It" Girl Posts: 1,107 Group: Members Member #6 Joined: November 24, 2003	Graham, that is so cool.
	For me though, it's like I've given birth to my own baby girl. You know? Only she's, like, a big giant girl who smokes and says "shit" a lot.


Miss A.	Feb 28 2004, 03:18 AM Post #10
Nan, The Astronaut's Wife Posts: 250 Group: Members Member #9 Joined: November 24, 2003	Yeah. I think that is a really sweet story! I know, or have heard about three couples who have met online and it's worked out, now. I guess it just depends on who the people are, and how honest and like themselves they are when they are talk online.



Crystie	Feb 28 2004, 10:04 AM Post #11
Ginny, Identity Posts: 729 Group: Members Member #50 Joined: January 10, 2004	Thats such a sweet story. but unfortunate enough all the guys anyone meets online are perverts so its hard really to find anything....the first thing they wanna know when they talk to you is what your bra size is...soo stupid.
	"You are who you are, the only trick is not getting caught" -Clea DuVall Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and all the available ones are handicapped.


GrahamEaton	Feb 28 2004, 11:21 PM Post #12
Unregistered	LOL. Quote: all the guys anyone meets online are perverts so its hard really to find anything....the first thing they wanna know when they talk to you is what your bra size is...soo stupid. That's a great argument for political lesbianism.
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Kate	Feb 29 2004, 03:22 AM Post #13
Indie "It" Girl Posts: 1,107 Group: Members Member #6 Joined: November 24, 2003	:lol: Ah, hell yeah! Sorry that you're running into perverts online, Crystie. There's nothing worse than having a conversation with someone, then having it turn nasty when you don't tell them your measurements...
	For me though, it's like I've given birth to my own baby girl. You know? Only she's, like, a big giant girl who smokes and says "shit" a lot.


Crystie	Feb 29 2004, 11:15 AM Post #14
Ginny, Identity Posts: 729 Group: Members Member #50 Joined: January 10, 2004	ah its hell. like what if i wanna talk about soccer....he'll just talk about the ball if ya know what i mean. i think those guys have like no life and all they do is watch online porn and cyber with girls. its really hard to meet a nice guy online so i usually dont do it. sometimes when my cousin comes up from florida we kid around and go into chat rooms and make fun of people that are just insanely stupid but other than that im not usually in them anymore. i mean we all went thru that stage where we were in chats every day...i was like 12 then, i guess things have changed.
	"You are who you are, the only trick is not getting caught" -Clea DuVall Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and all the available ones are handicapped.


hysterogenic	Feb 29 2004, 07:47 PM Post #15
Bashira Kincaid, Ghosts of Mars Posts: 421 Group: Members Member #4 Joined: November 23, 2003	Kate Feb 26 2004, 05:21 AM I hope that if I fell in love with someone before meeting them... well, let's say had feelings for them, then I hope I would be able to look passed things like gender. It's a bit idealistic, but I know I would try. i have to go with kate on this one.. although i dont know that it would work out but i would still want to try if i really felt that strongly for them
	'You don't have to like me for who I am, but we'll see what your made of by what you make of me' -Ani


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