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| Abral Narth | Dec 6 2004, 11:35 PM Post #466 |
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Forum Freedom Fighter
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Well I've been hanging on to that for quite a while now and I guess I've stopped believing it as litterally it has for everyone else I know, except me. But I got out and got some air, bearing in mind i left the house at midnight for no reason and came back at 3, none of my housemates even noticed. But I guess only matt was awake and he isnt exactly attentive. I started each semester at uni with the same attitude "I am a nice guy, I'm not ugly and Im going to try a load of nice girls until one is interested" And by week eight I havent found that any girls that are interested and everyone else has found someone. By week 13 (now) Im down about it. Because Im nearly 20 now, and have to face the fact I havent had one relationship that exceeds 12 hours. Oh and the twelve hours was drunk, and with a girl who actually had a boyfriend already. Apparently having another half is good for your confidence and that first serious relationship changes you. So not only that, but im going into adulthood and Im not even finished. Im not actually ever going to be mature because I havent experienced several important things and so Im further behind and so less attractive, and so less mature and so left alone... and so on. To be honest I already feel at a loss when dealing with girls because of this. Finnally I have to go home and face my dad who will be assuming I've been shagging. What's worse is his technique is to lull me into security by telling me it's okay and that everyone has had plenty of sex by 19. :cry: What am I doing this christmas, staying at home being inadvertantly made to feel inadequete by my dad and working night shifts. I just don't know how im going to cope with it. |
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| Abral Narth | Dec 6 2004, 11:48 PM Post #467 |
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If you like him tell him. My friend really liked a girl, he was not quite going out, but liked her. But whenever he sought more she just avoided the question of whether they were friends. Eventually he couldnt cope and forced a talk. Ending it. Turns out she liked him but was too evasive to do anything. Dont be like her. If he's a guy and he loves you as a friend that much, chances are he would be quite willing to be more anyway. I mean we dont think like women in the piling of our aquantances of the opposite sex into potential partners and friends and nothing else. For two reasons, sleazy guys are always looking to get laid they aren't so much friends as possible fucks that they are nice to. Nice guys will date friends because if they get on that well, maybe they will be a better partner. I have friends I would date, but really enjoy hanging around with them and being friends. In fact the friendship just makes them more suitable because I know we have more compatible personalities. That's not to say that Im not happy with things the way they are. I am. But here are one or two friends I'd jump at the opportunity to be more with. This also works the other way, Im friends with quite a few of the girls I once fancied because they were cool/fun/nice and I didn't want to miss out on the closeness I gained trying to be more. Anyway you get what Im saying. He's likely to either like you too, and so don't miss the boat. Or Be up for it anyway. And if he's a real friend he can cope with your feelings or his and put them behind him. But be sensitive. But then for you I doubt that's a serious issue, anyway. |
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| Jervis Bay | Dec 7 2004, 04:41 AM Post #468 |
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Regional Affairs Minister, Literary Junkie and Resident DJ
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Okay. You are only 20. I am 21, and have had two relationships in my life. One of them was this year, so at your age I had only had one relationship and it didn't get that far. Yeah, it sucks at times, but you can't let it get to you. Reason is, that relationships and going out in the grand scheme of things doesn't really mean much. Consider for a second that society is totally obsessed with sex and the getting of sex. Now what if I told you that this is not reality. Reality is much more harsh. You're not the only one who is single, and I will bet you a fiver that of those that aren't single, most of them would be glad to be rid of it. And the English culture of shagging around isn't exactly healthy anyways. What I am saying is stop obsessing about it. It will eat you up and believe me that there are much more important things that can be taken care of (like being happy, which doesn't mean being in a relationship). And choc, I wouldn't call you single. Sorry. Random Thought - I am sick again. Dammit. Apparently part of it has to do with not doing any real weight training for the past few months, and my body is pissed off at me. So it makes me feel sick and stuff. Not good, especially since my body is also trying to hibernate after dark, which is 1630 in this part of the world. At least it will start getting lighter again this weekend, having checked the sunset times for this part of the world. But sitting in a cafe having your muscles lull you into believing you are having a heart attack (I got an EKG and I am tip top, and I got to bare my naked chest to the cute young nurse, who disappointingly didn't show much of a reaction) is not fun at all. I am going to go make some dinner. |
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| Choc | Dec 7 2004, 08:55 AM Post #469 |
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Biiiiaaaaatch!
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Sadly, Jervis - that's what I'm afraid of too. I have a relationship with none of the perks. Of course, it doesn't help that right now we are arguing ...
:( Abral. At the risk of sounding a little patronising, you are still pretty young. 20 is a time when you should be enjoying your life. I made a huge mistake of settling down at 19, and by 24, I was a wreck. I'm now almost 27, and I am not going to make those mistakes again. A girlfriend or boyfriend isn't the be all, and end all of life! You say you have a friend who is 'just a good friend'. Develop that friendship and see where it takes you. And sex isn't something to be taken lightly. Not every 19 year old is getting 'lots of sex'. I honestly value the people who hold onto their virginities longer. |
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| at lantis | Dec 7 2004, 11:12 AM Post #470 |
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Swing those sexy hips!
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This is exactly what I wanted to say! If you're not happy with yourself, there is not much hope of you being happy because you're in a relationship. I've said this many times, a relationship always comes when you least expect it, when you're not even looking. And although you may be alone now, and even if there are a few hiccups along the way, the right time will come. |
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| Westaway | Dec 7 2004, 05:40 PM Post #471 |
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They just keep bouncing :)
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I didn't get married till I was 44.....i8 and out of relationships though. My random tought: I moved into my new house at weekend. 1. the grounds are still shit and havrn't been cleared away of rubbish etc 2. the hot water was running to the outside garden taps 3. had a spa and blew the pump off the wall 4. taps are reversed in shower. ie hot is cold, plus being mixer they are off when pulled out and on when shoved in ! 5.the pantry is full and I've half unpacked 6. the garage is full and I still have a load of furniture to get arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh santa's sleigh down the chimney |
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| Morporkestan | Dec 7 2004, 06:10 PM Post #472 |
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sounds like your going through hell margy! And I understand about the whole gf\bf thing. I haven't had a proper relationship. Period. And trust me, it makes you bitter as hell towards your friends cause they're all better than you at being "social".....And about the friend thing - I think its good to be honest about it, I like one of my friends for a year but didn't say anything, then when I finaly did I found out she'd just started going out with this pathetic excuse for a man I used to know. I swear, theres a whole year down the drain. :no: |
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| Jervis Bay | Dec 7 2004, 06:41 PM Post #473 |
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Regional Affairs Minister, Literary Junkie and Resident DJ
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Well today is D-Day - the first of the two seminars that I have to give this week. I have it written up and ready for the final check, but I am nervous as hell. Wish me luck. |
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| port adelaide power | Dec 7 2004, 07:48 PM Post #474 |
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Good Luck! :bunny: :bunny: :bunny: :bunny: :bunny: :bunny: |
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| Jervis Bay | Dec 8 2004, 04:08 AM Post #475 |
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Well, I did the presentation without passing out. I had the added problem of the guy before me not giving a 'compelling' presentation, so I got lumped with a bored audience. So consciously or otherwise, I gave them the MTV version of the presentation, still covering the material required, but in the space of 20 minutes instead of the expected 30. However my lecturer didn't mind so much as it meant that he could go home early, and the students enjoyed the early ending as well. Now to start the next seminar for Thursday, and somewhere along the line do my nuclear physics homework. And to complicate matters, the Physics faculty students are having their semester party tomorrow night, which unlike Australian universities, attracts hundreds of students and is a really good time. Naturally I am expected to attend. I just have to go easy on the beer. Tonight's random thought: German girls are absolutely gorgeous, and if I could speak the language with enough confidence I would probably go after them. However, I have also observed that they are idiots. Case in point, two gorgeous blonde physics first year students, standing outside the institute, SMOKING. Okay, I know German guys are a**holes, but seriously, why do you want to throw away all your good qualities by smoking to calm down? Actually, everybody does it here, but that is still no excuse. I can't wait to get back to Australia with its fresh air and breathable nightclubs and cafes. Somebody get me off this continent! |
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| at lantis | Dec 8 2004, 07:30 AM Post #476 |
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Swing those sexy hips!
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ouch - sounds a little hectic! :( |
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| at lantis | Dec 8 2004, 07:41 AM Post #477 |
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Swing those sexy hips!
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I love when presentations finish early at uni! I think those making an early-finishing presentation should get an extra 5 marks for actually making their audience happy ^_^ Good luck with the Thursday seminar! Are German girls your type? Do they find your cute Australian accent sexy? ;) Yeah, I'm not into smoking myself, but I know quite a few people that do, especially at work. Maybe its the stress of the job? I told one of my managers who recently had a baby that I'd slap him one if I caught him smoking since his little girl was born. He agreed
They're fighting to get tougher laws on not smoking in pubs and clubs now, even given the uproar of the club owners saying that they'll go out of business. It should be phased in completely in the next 5 years, I think. Well, in Sydney at least. Thank goodness! I hate coming home after a night out with my clothes smelling like smoke and my throat dry and raw from being forced to inhale second hand smoke. Urgh.:puke: Anyway, Wednesday's random thoughts: 1. Three days of work left to go!!!! 2. I'm going down to Canberra for randoms on Friday night just for the hell of it 3. Got my work group Christmas party on tonight. christmas chorus line I-Chi-Ban Tepanyaki... I've never had tepanyaki before! Its where they cook it in front of you and throw it on your plate or something I'm really looking forward to it - and I'm hoping I get to see food on my boss's face or something like that
4. Hmmmm I'm not in the mood for work.... |
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| Jervis Bay | Dec 8 2004, 04:10 PM Post #478 |
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You're going to Canberra? Cool! Random thoughts: Stupid appointment at 0830 means I am awake at 0630 and the sun doesn't get up until almost 0900. Stupid darkness. And it is a university day off too. |
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| at lantis | Dec 9 2004, 08:05 AM Post #479 |
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Swing those sexy hips!
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Yeah, my boyfriend and I have a friend who is an aspiring DJ and she is playing a set down in Canberra... and since we had absolutely nothing else to do on Friday night, I thought 'why not?' It'll be fun - haven't been down to Canberra in a while. The middle of winter is totally depressing. I get up at 530am to go to the gym, and its horribly dark. Then I get home just before 7pm and its horribly dark. And I'm in the office most of the day, (I hate being outside cos I hate the cold) so it feels like I'm living in perpetual darkness. Random thoughts: 1. Yay, only 2 days of work left for the year!!!! 2. Tepanyaki is awesome fun - my workgroup went out for christmas dinner last night and it was messy but very amusing! The chefs were awesome, and I even tried sushimi (sp?) for the first time! Yup, actual raw fish. Its not so bad once you get over the mental barrier...3. *takes a deep breath* ok.... time to get to work... *dives in* |
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| Westaway | Dec 9 2004, 06:41 PM Post #480 |
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They just keep bouncing :)
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I was in Holland/Belgium in January 2002 and couldn't get over the fact that alan and I were probably the ony people who didn't smoke. I must say continental men, of the Dutch/belgian/german variety are pretty cool too. In fact..... :handsome: Very sexy |
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Yeah, I'm not into smoking myself, but I know quite a few people that do, especially at work. Maybe its the stress of the job? I told one of my managers who recently had a baby that I'd slap him one if I caught him smoking since his little girl was born. He agreed
They're fighting to get tougher laws on not smoking in pubs and clubs now, even given the uproar of the club owners saying that they'll go out of business. It should be phased in completely in the next 5 years, I think. Well, in Sydney at least. Thank goodness! I hate coming home after a night out with my clothes smelling like smoke and my throat dry and raw from being forced to inhale second hand smoke. Urgh.

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