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Topic Started: Jan 7 2010, 03:36:58 PM (211 Views)
ohippy
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I am absolutely fuming right now.

Tallulah (13) put something stupid as her status a while ago asking people to rate her. All innocent really but she was opening herself up a bit to idiots. One of which replied that he'd like to f**** her.

I sent him a message telling him that I was able to view her page and that his response was inappropriate and not to make comments to her like that in future. Today I got this response :

well excuse me missu i believe i have right to freedom of speech. have a look at ure daughter did u know she gets felt up all the time (not by me im not into that shite) and wouldnt her mother have the same last name

OMG I want to punch him ... just wait until hubby gets home .. he's dead !!

But if that's the way a 13yo boy speaks to the parent of a (now ex) mate, this world is truly up the creek without a paddle
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Lynnj
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I'm speachless!!!!!!

except to say that if it were my son (of any age) he'd have his arse kicked and not be allowed near a computer again for a very long time, he'd also be writing a letter of appology to both you and T.

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ohippy
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ah, but if he was your son, he would never have written that in the first place would he ?!
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Anne
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Far out!!!! Do you know that this is definitely a boy she knows and not some perv on the internet?
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ohippy
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:yes: kid from her school .. which, should he write anything else, will be my next course of action.
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Anne
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Make sure Tallulah deletes him from her contact list and then blocks him.
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ohippy
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done already and I will double check when she's in bed :thumbsup:
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Anne
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How does Tallulah view it? Is she upset that he has said this? Does she just see it as a bit of harmless fun? Was she upset/relieved that you spoke out to him? Was she happy to delete him? Just trying to work out the impact it has had on her. Hope she is ok. You too of course :kiss: :kissed:
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ohippy
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Tallulah is Tallulah, takes a lot to upset her. He was the kid who kicked her and put her on crutches and since then she's had nothing to do with him. As for me, it will take a while for me to calm down !
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ohippy
Jan 7 2010, 03:36:58 PM
did u know she gets felt up all the time (not by me im not into that shite)


"Not into that shite" What? He's a teenage boy, of course he's into that shite! I'd be putting it about that he isn't in to girls IYKWIM ;) :D
Edited by Anastasia Beaverhausen, Jan 7 2010, 07:14:46 PM.
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Pommygirl
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These kids are friends with complete strangers on Facebook. It's not right. Get her to delete this idiot.
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ohippy
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Funny that he's 'not into that shite' after his first comment !!! He has actually come back a couple more times now and invited me round to his house to discuss it ?!!!! So now I have printed it all off and just await the start of school
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ohippy
Jan 7 2010, 09:05:08 PM
Funny that he's 'not into that shite' after his first comment !!! He has actually come back a couple more times now and invited me round to his house to discuss it ?!!!! So now I have printed it all off and just await the start of school
I'd be going round the house.

He probably thinks it isn't really you.
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Anne
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ohippy
Jan 7 2010, 09:05:08 PM
Funny that he's 'not into that shite' after his first comment !!! He has actually come back a couple more times now and invited me round to his house to discuss it ?!!!! So now I have printed it all off and just await the start of school
I'd be taking the printouts round to his mum. A family discussion!
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ohippy
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My instinct tells me that he doesn't think I'm her mum as we don't have the same surname. However, the fact that I can spell should give it away that I'm an adult !!! :lol:

Personally I don't think family discussions work in these circumstances as, quite often, the parents are worse than the kids !
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Does he go to the same school as her .Would be tempted to pass it on ,should imagine they would come down pretty hard on this .
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Anne
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Though I could see the school saying it's not a matter concerning them. (Not in an uncaring way) There has been no mention of school, this is something that has happened out of school, during school holidays, not on a school computer or anything. Not being hard but schools have so many issues to deal with within their walls and yes I can see how this would/could overspill in to school but would suggest that would be dealt with if and when that happened. It's always a bit of a grey area as to how much a school should interfere with 'domestic' matters.
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ohippy
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He does go to the same school Rob and Anne I do agree with you. However, this is Freddies, and they have a high expectation of the behaviour of the kids outside of school as well as within. He was also the child that caused T to have days off school when he kicked her so hard she needed x rays and crutches. That matter was dropped as there were different versions of the event (but we saw the boot shape bruise!)
To begin with I'm not going to pass a copy of everything this boy has written, I'm just going to let their head of year know that he has behaved inappropriately to both T and myself and I want them to have a quiet word to ensure it stops.
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Hevs
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I actually don't think the school will get involved, its nothing to do with them. I'd be round there speaking to the little shit in front of his parents, he obviously doesn't think its really you.
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Hevs
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Theres no way I'd be leaving this for another 4 weeks either~!
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ohippy
Jan 9 2010, 11:37:01 AM
they have a high expectation of the behaviour of the kids outside of school as well as within.
Our school is similar, and when something happened with us the school wanted to be involved, even though it happened outside school. They said that they feel they are sometimes able to deal with situations as they may be more involved with both children.

They emphasised that 'care of the children' did not stop at the school gates.



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Hevs
Jan 9 2010, 02:41:43 PM
Theres no way I'd be leaving this for another 4 weeks either~!
There is only 2 weeks left !! :thumbsup:

Sorry.... just got a bit excited at the difference between another 4 weeks school holidays, and just 2 .... :ecstatic:
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Petals


I think young people should alter their security access to prevent this from happening. After all if someone wants to be added as a friend or view the page they can send a message.

Hope that you get it sorted and that your daughter has a laugh at him. Nothing like laughter to deflate the sails.
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I'd be talking to the parents. I would also keep it away from school. Whilst all schools would agree that the kids are ambassadors of their school, this has taken place well away from school and was a private 'chat'. Had it been a You Tube or something like that then yes involve the school but it's two kids, one who's been a bit daft and one who's taken advantage of that in an unpleasant way (but sadly probably normal for a lot of teenage boys).

If the parents aren't interested then I'd mark it down to experience and make sure that both girls fully understand what can and what can't be put out on the internet (that could have been worded better - my apologies :whistle: )
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Re the school being involved.... If it was my kid who was in the wrong and the school came down on him over something that had nothing to do with school I'd be telling them to keep their noses out, IMO it's none of the schools business. But I do think you're right to keep copies of anything so you can produce them should it spill over onto school
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I get what you're saying about the school involvement but :

1. I have no idea where this kid lives or how to get hold of his parents and
2. It actually all started at school with the kicking incident, he even mentions in his messages that he has loads of witnesses to the event blah blah blah

So I have two choices ... ignore it (not going to happen) or get the school involved somehow
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Hevs
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Has he contacted you again H?
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ohippy
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no, nothing. I emailed the school today and asked the head of year to ring me when he's back. That's all I can do for now.
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I dread to think what my Mrs would do to him if he had said that about Louise or Liane.
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