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| Tweet Topic Started: May 14 2007, 12:36:10 PM (190 Views) | |
Snappy
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May 14 2007, 12:36:10 PM Post #1 |
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Whilst my friend was here we had a great time, out and about, catching up on the gossip but now she has gone and especially after watching hours of old video footage when she was here I feel terribly home sick.
:( I do love it here but I miss my old life badly as well. Maybe homesick is the wrong words to use as I just miss my old house and way of life yet I know if I went back I would miss it here as well so I now feel like I'm in limbo land and not truly belonging anywhere if that makes sense??? I think in hindsight I would of stayed if I knew then what I know now. I know that I feel like this as well because of our financial situation. Back in the UK we had hardly any mortgage and are now signing up for a massive one that we wouldn't of even considered back in the UK so now we have the added burden we wouldn't of had back there. I don't want to go back to the UK as I know I can't step back into that old life I once had and even though I have felt like this before it has never really hit me like it has now even after my Dad stayed with us last year. I met with my other friend in Cairns yesterday after I had been to the airport and she has now booked her flight back to the UK in August so I think as she was one of the girls I used to know back there plus my friend visiting I just feel really out of sorts. Does anyone else feel like they are in limbo land? As in you don't quite belong anywhere? |
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moneypen20
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May 14 2007, 01:03:00 PM Post #2 |
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Sorry to hear that. I thought you were really settled here :( I guess it's the saying bye to your friend and also realising what a huge thing you are doing with the house. I imagine you are going through the end of the honeymoon bit after all the travelling etc. - This is it and you can't do much about it because of the house building whereas when you were (are) just renting there is possibly always that thought that you could "just go back" even though it's not as straightforward as that. :hug: I'm not in Limboland, I just want a mate I can call at any time for a yarn to. But if I did I probably wouldn't because I would think I was getting in their way :rolleyes: |
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Anastasia Beaverhausen
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May 14 2007, 01:19:10 PM Post #3 |
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I felt really down for a few days after my friend left in January. For me it was realising that their lives go on without me. I was going through a low patch anyway, so seeing a face from home may not of been the best thing for me at the time, as it made me feel worse. I have noticed my UK rose glasses have come on though. I couldnt wait to leave te place, now I have nothing but fond memories. I dont think that living back there will be as rosy though. Cheer up mate, its horrible when people go home. You do feel like you're in limbo again, you just need to go out and find a place that reminds you why you moved here. |
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Snappy
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May 14 2007, 02:48:33 PM Post #4 |
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That's the thing I don't think the UK is better or anything like that if I could go back in time I think I just wouldn't bother coming here. On the other hand if I didn't come here I wouldn't of seen or met all the people and places I now love. That's what I mean my the limbo land as I know if I went back I would hate it as I couldn't just step into my old shoes so to speak as I have moved on too far for that. I just find it a weird feeling that I feel my heart and head are stuck inbetween 2 countries the other side of the world from each other and not feeling as though I belong in either of them. My friend was shocked as to how many people I knew around here so I'm not short on friends and I have a select few that are the ones I can have a really good moan to when I need to here. I think it is just the realisation that my old life was actually not that bad after all and all the silly red tape crap I'm having to go through now is just peeing me off. To top it off today on my way in to town I had a call from one of the girls I used to work with and one of my students died last night after hanging himself by accident on a washing line :upset: so I'm feeling really shitty at the moment thinking about the waste of such a young life :( |
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May 14 2007, 03:26:04 PM Post #5 |
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Snappy not a lot I can say :flowers:
:grouphug: I know it`s not quite the same but I was feeling very unsettled before I went back to Scotland the other month - I hadn`t missed it in all the years I`d been away but suddenly started feeling very wistful. It wasn`t until I got there and realised I didn`t belong anymore, that I got my head straight (that said are alread I now don`t feel I belong in Hants anymore either - very much in limbo like you). I do however feel that Im moving forward in my life with the move to Oz - you however have got a load of hassle on your plate right now with the house & stuff. That`s probably why everything you had seems better than everything you have. Hope you will be ok mate :) |
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moneypen20
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May 14 2007, 03:54:28 PM Post #6 |
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I think you possibly have a dose of PMT, together with being sad about your friend going, shit news from the UK, hassles with the house and hassles with the old bat at the school. All I can add is that I hope the feeling passes sooner rather than later. The trouble is, at the end of the day it really is same shit shinier bucket. Your life back in the UK was fine but there was general day to day stuff that irritated the hell out of you but as always, that fades and you may be looking back fondly and think that stuff now is tougher, I don't think it is. It's because you are living it now it seems hard - in a few months you will have other stuff to worry about and you may look back to now and think it wasn't so bad. Does any of that make sense :crazy: |
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Lynnj
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May 14 2007, 07:24:51 PM Post #7 |
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Oh Gawd i really shouldn't reply as i'm not qualified on account of never having felt like that. But thats never stopped me before so......... It's going to un nerve you a bit having a person who you associate as being from your previous life comes into your new one, they kind of move from the box that they have fitted into nicely for the last while and pop up in a different box which nice as it is knocks you off kilter a bit. You reminice about the good old times and remember all the good bits of life before OZ, you kind of look at your old life a bit like you may have looked at what your thought your new life in oz would be like, with a large chunk of rose tints etc...... Then she goes off back into her old box and it takes a few weeks for the balance to be right again (probably because she ate and drank too much while she was here :wink: ). Give it a week or two and you'll wander what you were thinking. I'm guessing you are also a bit freaked out over taking out a mortgage larger than you would have anticipated before you moved here and comparing it with the smaller one you had before and feeling you were maybe better off before, i thnk everyone would feel the same whichever country they were in, but it's a knee jerk reaction, once you see the fruits of that mortgage springing up on your piece of paradise you'll be fine, meantime, do what i do, stick your head in the sand until it feels safe enough to come out. :thumbsup: |
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Snappy
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May 14 2007, 08:25:11 PM Post #8 |
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Thank you all of you :kissed: Spoke to my friend tonight as she is over in Perth now and it was still quite sad as she was saying that she was missing us all madly....apparently she misses me rambling on :whistle: It's definitely not PMT but I do think you are all spot on the other things. Pen I do often say it is the same old shit different country to other people so i knwo what you mean on that one. Right off to stick my head in the sand for a while :) |
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| Anne | May 14 2007, 08:58:14 PM Post #9 |
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I haven't time to inflict any of my pearls of wisdom on you :ooer:
:blink: as Terry is waiting to get on the pc, but I would like to give you a huge big
:hug: Sasha. xxxx |
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Snappy
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May 14 2007, 09:41:19 PM Post #10 |
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Thank you Anne :hug: |
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| tygwyn | May 14 2007, 09:52:13 PM Post #11 |
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Aww bless ya! Hope it passes really quickly for you. My mum is here at the moment and is due to leave on Sunday. At the moment I feel fine about it but I'm not sure what I'll be like when she gets on that plane!! :( Hope you feel happier soon Rach xxxx |
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ohippy
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May 14 2007, 09:59:18 PM Post #12 |
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I do know how you feel Sasha, I don't feel as if I really belong anywhere, the UK has moved on without me and, if I moved back I know it would be ok for a bit but then all the things I was annoyed with before would annoy me again. I'm still not settled here yet either, high mortgage, crap house, no Highlights and it's now cold (my fingers are freezing). I'm sure one day I'll wake up and feeling that belonging sense again, as will you :flowers: |
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BIX
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May 14 2007, 10:02:16 PM Post #13 |
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When close ones depart after a stay it leaves an emptyness that is sometimes compared to grieving. Unlike grieving though the sadness usually discipates in a relatively short time as you get back to the status quo. Look to the tip of your nose Sasha and what do you see ? Tis the way forward. :) |
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Snappy
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May 14 2007, 10:15:06 PM Post #14 |
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You will when you get a package on your doorstep in the next few days :wink: Heather you have it summed up, UK has moved on as I can't slip back into your old life - different house, different people well the same people but I am different now after everything I have been through. Then here I'm facing stupid things that I never have had to deal with before like signing for the mortgage I have to hunt down a sodding JP to witness my signature. Just annoying little red tape crap that is driving me nuts at the moment. I want to be back to everything that is familiar again yet I know it would of altered by now, hence the limbo land feeling. Rach - enjoy your time with your Mum and I bet it was great having her with you for Mothers day :D Bix - Grieving my old life is something I often relate it to, looking forward is what is scaring me at the moment but thank you :kissed: |
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ohippy
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May 14 2007, 10:35:54 PM Post #15 |
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When I look to the tip of my nose I just see the big fat wobbly belly underneath it :( |
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Snappy
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May 14 2007, 10:44:41 PM Post #16 |
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Oi stop staring at me
:unsure: I bought a new pair of trainers and some new keep fit outfits ready for an attempt at going to a gym. Haven't got any further though but the clothes look good so long as I don't look in the mirror :mah: |
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ohippy
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May 14 2007, 10:47:40 PM Post #17 |
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:lol: Debbie and I made it to the gym twice last week - so I ate loads to compensate for the calories I lost :blushing: |
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Snappy
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May 14 2007, 10:48:40 PM Post #18 |
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You've got to keep your strength up after all :whistle: |
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ohippy
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May 14 2007, 10:53:57 PM Post #19 |
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I know, I wouldn't want to pass out from malnutrition :whistle: |
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| ProofReader | May 14 2007, 11:30:31 PM Post #20 |
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:goodpost: :hug: for me ol' mate, Sasha. :flowers: |
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Snappy
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May 15 2007, 07:38:59 AM Post #21 |
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Thanks PR :hug: |
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Bridiej
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May 15 2007, 11:42:04 AM Post #22 |
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Sorry to hear you're feeling down, I agree with what everyone else has said, it's hard when you've had someone here from your "old" life, kind of like that old pair of shoes that have a hole in that you really should throw out but they feel so comfortable when you put them on you cant bear to do it.... somehow with old friends you dont have to try so hard, you can just be "you" and they get it. Dont know if that makes any sense whatsoever (and apologies if any of my UK friends read this and think I'm calling them an old holey shoe! :lol: ) but I know what I mean. Have a :hug: and a big bar of choc, you'll be back to your old self soon. |
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Snappy
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May 15 2007, 03:32:07 PM Post #23 |
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Thanks B :kissed: I'm being a positive thinker today :wink: |
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Snappy
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May 15 2007, 05:01:35 PM Post #24 |
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I am passing this on to you because it has definitely worked for me. By following the simple advice I read in an article, I have finally found inner peace. The article read: "The way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you've started." So I looked around the house to see all the things I started and had not finished....and before leaving the house this morning I finished off a bottle of red wine, a bottle of white wine, the Bailey's, Kailua and Wild Turkey, the Prozac, some Valium, some cheesecake and a box of chocolates. You have no idea how freakin' good I feeling :thumbsup: :lol: |
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ohippy
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May 15 2007, 06:51:04 PM Post #25 |
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:lol: oh Sasha, you are ace :flowers: |
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Snappy
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May 15 2007, 07:39:08 PM Post #26 |
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Hic :drunk: :lol: |
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| ProofReader | May 15 2007, 09:28:11 PM Post #27 |
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It works! Try it!! :wink: :lol: |
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BIX
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May 15 2007, 10:26:17 PM Post #28 |
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I just have to add to your finding. It works just as well when you empty the voddie bottle :thumbsup: |
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Bridiej
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May 16 2007, 11:40:09 AM Post #29 |
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Chattermonster Extraordinaire!
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:lol: |
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moneypen20
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May 16 2007, 06:20:22 PM Post #30 |
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Congratulations on being conscious :lol: |
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