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Retirement Housing; No not for me you cheecky buggers
Topic Started: Mar 7 2007, 11:39:29 AM (58 Views)
Lynnj
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My parents called me up on friday to say...... firstly, we are not coming back for another week and secondly we want to talk to someone about migration.

So i told them what i new about parent migration and then arranged for them to talk to an agent yesterday about it. So i talked to them last night and it's all doom and gloom again, "it's far too complicated for us" "it's too big a thing for us at our age" "we don't have the money to do it" basically every excuse my mother could think of. i really don't get it..... no they don't have money thay have lived in a council house all their days, yes it is complicated but in the overall scheme of things not very and there are lots of people to help them, yes they are old and moving away from what is their comfort zone must be scary but going back to live out your time sitting in your front room only going outside once a week and only then to go to asda must be more scary.

i have no doubt that they will live longer and have a much better life here, there they have no family and no friends (i really mean no one, nobody who would look in on them or take them to get their shopping, nothing!) here they have. both children and grandkids, neices, nephews and their extended families, various friends they have made over the years who seem to genuinely care about them. plus there is the biggy of what happens when one of them gets sick or dies. john and i have discussed this many times and with 4 kids here me going back indefinitely isn't an option, most probably me going back at all isn't an option.

so i don't know what to do, i feel like they want to come but don't understand the ins and outs (despite me tearing my hair out) and are scared. i feel we need to make it simple and just get them to tell us if they reallywant to live here and organise everything for them.

which leads to my question (sorry to get off track) does anyone know if you can rent in a retirement village as i can only find places to buy which isn't an option for them (or us unfortunately)?

honestly its like having an extra couple of kids :blink:
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Bridiej
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Lynnj
7th March, 2007 - 10:39am

honestly its like having an extra couple of kids :blink:

:lol:

I can understand it is scary for them, it is for all of us isnt it, but like you say, they have more family here and the agent would help them every single step of the way.

Not sure on the renting (sorry) but wanted to give you a :hug: cos it sounds like you need one :)
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Lynn, firstly don't panic and get down about your parents' reactions too quickly. :hug: They may take a while to come around to the idea and initially may be putting up every obstacle they can think of to see how difficult it could be. Pick out the positives for them; write a list of pros and cons. :kiss:

Secondly, I did a simple Google search for 'retirement rental perth' and found two things of interest without even looking further. They are:

Retirement Living Online - this link will take you to a retirement rental search in Perth.

and

Village Life which does retirement rentals around Australia.

Keep searching and I'm sure you'll find more. ;)


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7th March, 2007 - 01:56pm

Lynn, firstly don't panic and get down about your parents' reactions too quickly. :hug: They may take a while to come around to the idea and initially may be putting up every obstacle they can think of to see how difficult it could be. Pick out the positives for them; write a list of pros and cons. :kiss:

Secondly, I did a simple Google search for 'retirement rental perth' and found two things of interest without even looking further. They are:

Retirement Living Online - this link will take you to a retirement rental search in Perth.

and

Village Life which does retirement rentals around Australia.

Keep searching and I'm sure you'll find more. ;)



Thanks PR i like the idea of writing them a list, sometimes i think i'm a control freak, I'm so used to telling the kids what to do that i do it with the olds too :dunno: I also think that i maybe want them to come here purely from a selfish point of view, maybe i do, maybe it makes things easier on my concience that thay aren't left on their own, if they do come here it will certainly be more work for me as my dad wont be able to drive (for the safety of other road users) :blink: but i see how much they are enjoying their time here and think hell at that age life should be one big party before you bow out, not spent looking out the window at the passing cars.

I had looked at those websites before but they don't do anything in our area, from what i can find out they would have to buy their home unless they needed an aged care facility which they don't........ i'll keep looking.
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Lynn what category visa are they going for? Is it retirement? Parent or Last remaining relative?
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they could go for the contributory (sp) one but they are taking 15-18 months and really my parents don;t have the money, but the main concern would be that they wouldn't be fit to travel in 18 months time. with the aged parent they apply here and are granted a bridging visa until they visa is granted (7-10 years).
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Lynn in that case check this site out as it is from the agent we used but it has a good FAQ section that explains a few things and might be of use to you when it comes to spelling things out clearly to your parents

http://www.thinkingaustralia.com/migration...tion_parent.asp
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thanks for that sasha, it's more or less what i've already told them but maybe seeing it in print will make it easier for them to take in. i shoudl print it on the bottom of my mothers whisky glass then she could read it several times a night :yes:
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PMSL classic one Lynn :lol:
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:lol:
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